Forgetting

[Suu]

You might see the advantage in me keeping things reasonably civil until I get the rest of my stuff, anyway.  He's still got most of my RPG's, which I DO want back.

Once the stuff is split, and the legal crap is done...  Well, by that point, if my brain is right, I won't give a shit what he's doing with whom.

Oh, I'll be fine as long as I have my books, my drafting table, and my mother fucking stainless cookware. I could care less about anything else, but my mom is pushing for legal action against him if he refuses to give up other things that were wedding presents from the Suu Family and rightfully mine...basically anything that has any value. I don't want to take it that far, because it's highly unnecessary, but I get my angry from my mom, and my angry is only a fraction of the wrath that only a 48 year old 100lb soaking wet Irish woman can deliver. She's also suggested sending my brother up to take care of it, which I do NOT want, because then Enzo will have 2 people to hold back, and my brother is bigger than Herbert.

Fact is, I just want my stuff now. He was chill before and let me store stuff in the basement while I didn't have the space for it, and is well aware of the fact I'm taking goods from the kitchen, there is no reason for this behavior now. None.

[Luna]

Lemme be sure I understand.

His only bitch is that his only night home is Tuesday, and that's date night.  Not that you're taking the stuff.  Yes?

[Suu]

Lemme be sure I understand.

His only bitch is that his only night home is Tuesday, and that's date night.  Not that you're taking the stuff.  Yes?

He has more time home, he's just trying to prove to me that he goes on dates. I could give two shits, I want my fucking Cuisinart. I'm being cool with making sure he's home while I do it so he knows what I'm taking, but if I get the green light to show up with boxes and have Richter let me in, I don't want to hear him complain.

On the other side of the spectrum, the only reason I personally want backup is so I don't lose my shit if he get's pissy. Not to beat his ass or anything, just to make sure *I* don't do it.

[Luna]

Lemme be sure I understand.

His only bitch is that his only night home is Tuesday, and that's date night.  Not that you're taking the stuff.  Yes?

He has more time home, he's just trying to prove to me that he goes on dates. I could give two shits, I want my fucking Cuisinart. I'm being cool with making sure he's home while I do it so he knows what I'm taking, but if I get the green light to show up with boxes and have Richter let me in, I don't want to hear him complain.

On the other side of the spectrum, the only reason I personally want backup is so I don't lose my shit if he get's pissy. Not to beat his ass or anything, just to make sure *I* don't do it.

Yeah, you don't want to drag the roomies into that crap.  And I didn't figure you wanted the guys for violence, I'll be pissy if you get my buddies arrested.

Toss it in his lap.  Ask him how HE wants to get your stuff to you if he can't be bothered to supervise you packing it up.

[Suu]

Toss it in his lap.  Ask him how HE wants to get your stuff to you if he can't be bothered to supervise you packing it up.

No.

The last time it was his responsibility to do something it took me a fucking year to get divorced in which I had to THREATEN him to do it, and then he fucked it up anyway. I'm not waiting another year for my shit. Either he lets me come and get everything with Richter there, or he deals with me plus 2 impartial guys who have collectively beat the piss out of him before in armor, and you KNOW they'll walk in all happy-go-lucky like, "What's goin on?!" Smiling and such, to make it even MORE awkward for him.

Seriously, I have a list. It's essential a tub of books and my drafting table from the basement, the Wolfgang Puck cookware, a Cuisinart Blender, and the silverware my aunt gave me. They can keep the rest. The other stuff left in the basement is a tub of artwork I have that's old but I should probably do something with (like put in my storage unit) old costume supplies I'm going to go through and the rest is my sister's shit which she seems to not really care about considering she lives 1300 miles away. I've given Richter and Herb the greenlight for a bonfire.

[Luna]

Yeah, they're both good like that.  I just don't want to have to bail anybody out.

I dunno...  Tell him to pack it by next Friday and stack it for you, and you'll call later to bitch about what he missed, maybe?

[Suu]

No. He won't pack it anyway and will have some sort of excuse as to why. He has to trust me, or be home.

[Luna]

No. He won't pack it anyway and will have some sort of excuse as to why. He has to trust me, or be home.

Yep, those are his three options.  Pack it himself, trust you, or be there.  (And, face it, trust you isn't really an option, as that will involve bitchiness and roommates.)

See, THIS is the shit I'm hoping to avoid by keeping things civil, at least until I have my stuff and the paperwork cleared.

[Suu]

No. He won't pack it anyway and will have some sort of excuse as to why. He has to trust me, or be home.

Yep, those are his three options.  Pack it himself, trust you, or be there.  (And, face it, trust you isn't really an option, as that will involve bitchiness and roommates.)

See, THIS is the shit I'm hoping to avoid by keeping things civil, at least until I have my stuff and the paperwork cleared.

Richter and Nurse East won't bother me. They know what I'm doing. There is no reason for this bullshit from him. None. He's trying to pull weight or impress me that he has a girlfriend (I'll be even more impressed when he finally comes out) and it's not working. Though my sister did just text and tell me she still has her keys...Unfortunately that downstairs door is new.

[Luna]

Richter and Nurse East won't bother me. They know what I'm doing. There is no reason for this bullshit from him. None. He's trying to pull weight or impress me that he has a girlfriend (I'll be even more impressed when he finally comes out) and it's not working. Though my sister did just text and tell me she still has her keys...Unfortunately that downstairs door is new.

Nah, breaking in (with or without keys) wouldn't be cool.

What's to lose with trying reasonable?  "Hugh, look, I just want my stuff.  If you don't want it to interfere with your date night, just have (list) packed.  I'll bring some people, we can have it out in fifteen minutes, and everybody's happy."

[Suu]

If I seriously wanted to break in, I could have done it already.

[Luna]

If I seriously wanted to break in, I could have done it already.

Sure, no doubt, there. 

Like I said...  Give being reasonable a shot.  Who knows, it might throw him enough to work... or at least give you the, "well I TRIED to be reasonable" argument. 

[Jenne]

Luna, I'm so so sorry you got seriously dicked over by the one person we pick in our lives to be the guy who never does that.  So tricky picking someone who actually follows through with that. 

I hope it continues to be civil for you.  I've watched as my brother has slowly eaten his soul with his impending divorce.  His wife still lives with him, and she asked for a divorce in August.  They're trying to live amicably together until the lease runs out, and it's...well, it's a dance of the dead that we're all witnessing.  I hate it.  And I don't live with them.

Suu, hang in there, Babe.  I feel that anger and seem to know a variant of it well.  I hope in the end you get everything you need and want to feel whole again.  To feel YOU again.

Both  of you.  Stay strong.  Lessons--well, lessons are lessons, it's really the application of said lessons that in the end really matters.  Everything else is just bullshit.  And no parting of ways after years of loyalty and commitment to someone's goodness AND badness is a simple matter.  Even if we really want it to be.

I hug both of you.  (sorry, I'm mushy like that)

[Luna]

He actually asked me to stay in the house after we split, to save me paying rent.  (Yeah, right, because he wanted me to keep paying the bills.)  If he seriously thought I could share a house with him while he was sleeping with that tramp (regardless of whether he brought her to the house, EVER, or not), he is out of his mind.