Hey guys, having a bit of a breakdown here. Need some support.

[DECI4]

As many of you know I've been struggling with trust issues and despite the years of therapy it's taken a toll on my interpersonal relationships, especially with my girlfriend and our two sons.
Today before I left for work, I asked my youngest to make sure and pick up his toys before he went to school. This is not at all an unusual request, often times we let the kids play until they get tired and then we put them to bed and have them clean up after themselves in the morning. My girlfriend was present for the brief exchange between my son and I and she chimed in saying she was going to do some cleaning around the house before she went to a luncheon with some of her girlfriends. I came home after a pretty rough day at work to find all the toys all over the floor where they were before I left, and the house still as dirty as it was before my girlfriend said she was going to clean up. I walked around in what felt like a daze as I surveyed the soiled dishes in the sink, the trashcan almost overflowing, and toys ALL OVER the living room. My head started to ache and as I caught a whiff of the trashcan I started feeling sick to my stomach. I started digging my nails into my scalp like I always do when I get upset and so to calm down I went out to the garage and had a glass of bourbon.
After calming down a bit I went in cleaned up the fucking pigsty all by myself.

HOW COULD THEY DO THIS TO ME? I don't ask much from them. My wife deals with the kids when they aren't in school and I'm at work. She tidies up a bit. THATS ALL I ASK and it doesn't even have to be perfect every day but SHE LIED TO MY FACE and said she was going to clean up and so did my son. I SWEAR to GOD I could fucking kill them sometimes. That inconsiderate fucking BITCH doesn't have to slave away all day to make a living and support the family, and now apparently I can't even trust my son to keep his word, and I wonder where he gets the idea that that kind of behavior is ok? From her. Always from her.

How do I win? I try to instill my values, SOCIETY'S values in my kids. HONESTY RESPECT INTEGRITY DISCIPLINE I try to give them a good life and spend time with them whenever I can, but I have to leave them with HER when I go to work, and they are in public school learning god knows what from god knows who! 

My father was a good strong christian man and when my brothers or I would get out of line, we knew we were in for a thrashing. He would beat the living hell out of us, especially when he was drinking but he knew that discipline was the key to raising a responsible citizen. He would come home late at night a few times a week, wake up my brothers and I, and have us line up against the wall and recite bible verses. God help us if we had forgotten or screwed up the verse he chose for us to recite. We were forbidden to avert our eyes when one of the family or even our mother was being punished.

He made men out of us and so help me god I will make men out of my sons.

So the question remains what to do about my wife?

[Placid Dingo]

Hey, first, we do have troll issues so if people think you're a troll don't take it personally.

On the off chance you're not a troll:

Who are you? Are you from this board? You seem to assume we know you?

It's worth seeking out and talking with peole who've experienced similar childhoods to yours, because it sounds like an abusive childhood.

Do not hurt your kids or wife. This should go without saying. They will hate you and be scared of you.

Don't drink when you're angry. From the general sounds of things, you might want to look at the possibility you have a drinking problem.

Your wife/girlfriend should have followed through with what she offered, but getting angry won't make any of you happy. If the systems you guys have in place aren't working you have to communicate with her to work out what will work. I mean two way communication, so at least half of what comes out your mouth should be sincere questions about what she finds hard, wants from you, has time to do etc. Whatever you do, try not to be clearly aggravated with her in front of the kids.

Kids are inconsiderate shits. Just the way it is, and nothing will change that. I don't have any so unless they're ages 11/12 I have nothing of value to add there.

You do not have to be your father when you raise your children. Like all areas, you will have your own style. Imitation of people who impressed you will be part if that style, but don't forget this is your family, not your fathers.

Using terms like bitch etc shows there's more going on than toys. You guys need to talk and communicate (listening as well as talking) pronto.

[Scribbly]

Hey, first, we do have troll issues so if people think you're a troll don't take it personally.

On the off chance you're not a troll:

Who are you? Are you from this board? You seem to assume we know you?

It's worth seeking out and talking with peole who've experienced similar childhoods to yours, because it sounds like an abusive childhood.

Do not hurt your kids or wife. This should go without saying. They will hate you and be scared of you.

Don't drink when you're angry. From the general sounds of things, you might want to look at the possibility you have a drinking problem.

Your wife/girlfriend should have followed through with what she offered, but getting angry won't make any of you happy. If the systems you guys have in place aren't working you have to communicate with her to work out what will work. I mean two way communication, so at least half of what comes out your mouth should be sincere questions about what she finds hard, wants from you, has time to do etc. Whatever you do, try not to be clearly aggravated with her in front of the kids.

Kids are inconsiderate shits. Just the way it is, and nothing will change that. I don't have any so unless they're ages 11/12 I have nothing of value to add there.

You do not have to be your father when you raise your children. Like all areas, you will have your own style. Imitation of people who impressed you will be part if that style, but don't forget this is your family, not your fathers.

Using terms like bitch etc shows there's more going on than toys. You guys need to talk and communicate (listening as well as talking) pronto.

It is his first post and it starts 'as many of you know'.

Lameass troll skipped the part where you are meant to establish your persona before you start ramping up the crazy. 

[Luna]

It is his first post and it starts 'as many of you know'.

Lameass troll skipped the part where you are meant to establish your persona before you start ramping up the crazy. 

Yeah, you're not the only one who caught that.  It's like they're not even trying, any more.

On the slim chance that this guy's legit:  Dude, you need more help than we can give you.  Family therapy, STAT.

[Cain]

How's Zoklet doing these days, DEC14?

[Triple Zero]

How's Zoklet doing these days, DEC14?

He wouldn't know, for being banned since June

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

At least it was a little more creative than "NIGGER KIKE MUDSLIME PENIS!".

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

I mean, give the guy credit for that.

[Cain]

It's rather sad that I would even have to give credit for that.

But yes, you have a point.

[DECI4]

In my house you clean up after yourself or you face the consequences. He was in bed asleep, but I yanked him out of bed by his wrist and beat him till the little coward wet himself. It really made me sick to watch the sniveling little shit cry on the floor in a puddle of his own piss, but god damn it he WILL learn to obey my rules. Of course during all of this my wife is screaming and crying saying that I'm "drunk" and "quit hurting him" and throwing herself in front of me, I had to push her down on the floor multiple times before I could finish giving him his medicine.

[Bruno]

Sorry bout your dad, bro. 

[Triple Zero]

I mean, give the guy credit for that.

Huh oh yeah totally, the "as many of you know" anonymous post gambit was pretty good IMO. Too bad the story doesn't quite fit to anyone many of us would know.

[East Coast Hustle]

In my house you clean up after yourself or you face the consequences. He was in bed asleep, but I yanked him out of bed by his wrist and beat him till the little coward wet himself. It really made me sick to watch the sniveling little shit cry on the floor in a puddle of his own piss, but god damn it he WILL learn to obey my rules. Of course during all of this my wife is screaming and crying saying that I'm "drunk" and "quit hurting him" and throwing herself in front of me, I had to push her down on the floor multiple times before I could finish giving him his medicine.

Why do I get the feeling the author of this post had a raging boner while writing it?

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

It's rather sad that I would even have to give credit for that.

But yes, you have a point.

It is sad. It's depressing that the future of trolling seems to be going in that direction. What happened to the long, slow build-up of personalities? The gradual ramp-up of the story from completely plausible to holy shit are they still buying this?

Sadly, I fear it is becoming a lost art.

[Faust]

As many of you know I've been struggling with trust issues and despite the years of therapy it's taken a toll on my interpersonal relationships, especially with my girlfriend and our two sons.
Today before I left for work, I asked my youngest to make sure and pick up his toys before he went to school. This is not at all an unusual request, often times we let the kids play until they get tired and then we put them to bed and have them clean up after themselves in the morning. My girlfriend was present for the brief exchange between my son and I and she chimed in saying she was going to do some cleaning around the house before she went to a luncheon with some of her girlfriends. I came home after a pretty rough day at work to find all the toys all over the floor where they were before I left, and the house still as dirty as it was before my girlfriend said she was going to clean up. I walked around in what felt like a daze as I surveyed the soiled dishes in the sink, the trashcan almost overflowing, and toys ALL OVER the living room. My head started to ache and as I caught a whiff of the trashcan I started feeling sick to my stomach. I started digging my nails into my scalp like I always do when I get upset and so to calm down I went out to the garage and had a glass of bourbon.
After calming down a bit I went in cleaned up the fucking pigsty all by myself.

HOW COULD THEY DO THIS TO ME? I don't ask much from them. My wife deals with the kids when they aren't in school and I'm at work. She tidies up a bit. THATS ALL I ASK and it doesn't even have to be perfect every day but SHE LIED TO MY FACE and said she was going to clean up and so did my son. I SWEAR to GOD I could fucking kill them sometimes. That inconsiderate fucking BITCH doesn't have to slave away all day to make a living and support the family, and now apparently I can't even trust my son to keep his word, and I wonder where he gets the idea that that kind of behavior is ok? From her. Always from her.

How do I win? I try to instill my values, SOCIETY'S values in my kids. HONESTY RESPECT INTEGRITY DISCIPLINE I try to give them a good life and spend time with them whenever I can, but I have to leave them with HER when I go to work, and they are in public school learning god knows what from god knows who! 

My father was a good strong christian man and when my brothers or I would get out of line, we knew we were in for a thrashing. He would beat the living hell out of us, especially when he was drinking but he knew that discipline was the key to raising a responsible citizen. He would come home late at night a few times a week, wake up my brothers and I, and have us line up against the wall and recite bible verses. God help us if we had forgotten or screwed up the verse he chose for us to recite. We were forbidden to avert our eyes when one of the family or even our mother was being punished.

He made men out of us and so help me god I will make men out of my sons.

So the question remains what to do about my wife?

Hrm right, yes I can see your problem. Its quite simple really. You see its a simple case of Too long, with some rather bad Didn't read thrown in on top.