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Aneristic Illusions / Re: PUA reaction/info/derailment thread
« on: June 23, 2014, 07:27:43 pm »
BAM!

"Status > Sex" is what I was dancing around without saying directly. Good work.

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Aneristic Illusions / Re: PUA reaction/info/derailment thread
« on: June 23, 2014, 03:47:50 pm »
Wow, very nice synopsis, Cainad! I'm not sure where we go from here, honestly. I tell men and boys the same thing, consistently, which is that if you want to eventually have a relationship with a woman, start by making friends with women. Real, actual, care-about-their-feelings-and-experiences friends, without sexual expectations.

It's a good start, and ultimately that's the exact message that needs to get through.

I think it's the "without sexual expectations" part that is the most thorny. Sure, teenage boys and young men can be horny and disappointed that they aren't getting any, but more central to the problem is the idea that being turned down represents a failure to them. Since they usually don't want to internalize the idea that they "failed" to get laid, they lay blame on the girl/woman for being too selfish to see what a great and fuckable guy they are.

The cognitive dissonance, of course, is pretty easy to digest when you're both horny and trying to assuage a completely unjustified sense of failure. I think it's important to bring it to light and emphasize that "being a nice friend" and "demanding sex" are incompatible ideas.

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Charismatic cults rely on the leadership of, surprise, a charismatic leader who finds ways to keep their congregation close and intact. Discordianism has no leaders and retains its congregation by being such assholes that people can't help themselves but to stick around and show them all.

Cults discourage critical thinking. Discordians self-flagellate if they fail to criticize Discordianism.

Cults isolate members from their families and the rest of society by providing an appearance of being a safe, nurturing community. Discordianism routinely and vehemently encourages you to FUCK OFF.


I'm in a hurry so this post has no real conclusion, also because fuck you.

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I finally figured out the Ignore function and by god it is rad.

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Here it is: http://www.nber.org/papers/w13097.pdf

Badasssss! A professor of mine threw out the Lead/Crime thing as a nifty factoid one time in class, and it's stuck in my brain ever since even though I never saw the literature for it.

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Aneristic Illusions / Re: PUA reaction/info/derailment thread
« on: June 23, 2014, 10:59:56 am »
This thread went bananas while I wasn't looking.

Okay so the bottom line is that we have a really deep-rooted set of memes about masculinity (and, correspondingly, misogyny) that are manifesting in a subset of men who become very focused on their own (sexual) disillusionment. This focus results in phony "solutions" that rely on an Us-vs-Them mentality that rings true with our culture's obsession with competition and dominance, but which demands a lack of empathy for women and tries to strip them of agency.

It would just be pathetic and kind of shitty, but the result of this is two types of men: Manipulative, likely sociopathic assholes who would probably be like this anyway and have, to put it generously, a very rapey ideal for sexual relationships. The other type of men are the sad saps who buy into the mentality, but lo and behold it doesn't actually work because, surprise, it's bullshit and based on totally dysfunctional theories of human interaction.

So at both ends of the spectrum, you get subsets of the male population who are probably making life worse for women, either directly or indirectly. This situation blows chunks out of monkey's ass and it would be totally rad if we found effective ways to counteract this crap.

Where do we go from here?

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Especially because setting the kitchen on fire as a prelude to receiving a beating is a fairly unusual form of foreplay.

I dunno.  It's not THAT unusual.

And then there was this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1SwlqFc8RHA

You may recall.

FUCK YEAH

that got my jimmies ALL KINDS of rustled

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RPG Ghetto / Re: Larp Toy: Laser Detector
« on: June 23, 2014, 12:38:41 am »
UPDATE ON THE USE OF MAD SCIENCE IN THE PURSUIT OF HIGHER PLANES OF FICTION:

I was there, man. I was there when it all went down.

First, it was just lasers and LEDs and fog machines. And I was like, "Sure Cram, whatever you say. Sounds like a fun time."

Then, it was big speakers with deep droning rhythms and hypnotic light patterns, and I said, "Sure Cram, sounds like a wild ride!"

Then there was the brainwave scanners and the "special sauce" in the fog machine fluid and I was like, "The fuck are you up to, Cram?"

But I was already too deep in it, I had to see it to the end. Poor bastards couldn't have seen it coming. I hid in a closet once I realized that the amount of skin in the room was at least double the amount expected for the number of people present.

Basically, long story short, the real Cram has been in a hospital for a month and, based on his occasional moments of awareness, seems to think he's still larping. All I can get out of him is "I'm immersed as shit right now."

Someone is posting from his account. I haven't figured out who.

Doesn't this more properly belong in the "Tell me about your sex life" thread?

Not THAT kind of role-playing. We're not weird like the others.

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RPG Ghetto / Re: Larp Toy: Laser Detector
« on: June 23, 2014, 12:27:14 am »
UPDATE ON THE USE OF MAD SCIENCE IN THE PURSUIT OF HIGHER PLANES OF FICTION:

I was there, man. I was there when it all went down.

First, it was just lasers and LEDs and fog machines. And I was like, "Sure Cram, whatever you say. Sounds like a fun time."

Then, it was big speakers with deep droning rhythms and hypnotic light patterns, and I said, "Sure Cram, sounds like a wild ride!"

Then there was the brainwave scanners and the "special sauce" in the fog machine fluid and I was like, "The fuck are you up to, Cram?"

But I was already too deep in it, I had to see it to the end. Poor bastards couldn't have seen it coming. I hid in a closet once I realized that the amount of skin in the room was at least double the amount expected for the number of people present.

Basically, long story short, the real Cram has been in a hospital for a month and, based on his occasional moments of awareness, seems to think he's still larping. All I can get out of him is "I'm immersed as shit right now."

Someone is posting from his account. I haven't figured out who.

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Bump because this is great stuff.

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SIGNORA SAYS TO ME, SHE SAYS "EY, FUCKPIG. HOW YOU WANT TO GET NAILED?"

ME, OF COURSE, I COME RUNNING IN, WIDE WIDE GRIN.

BAM. NAIL STRAIGHT THROUGH FOOT. CAR KEYS STOLEN FROM POCKET.

NO MIGUELS COME TO MY AID EVEN AS I SHOUT "MIGUEL".

OUT OF MIGUELS AGAIN. PERHAPS SHE HAS GONE TO GET MORE?

And they say romance is dead. :lulz:

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I have a young friend who has been all dramatic and moany lately about how hard it is to date when you're kinky, and how will she ever find a kinky boyfriend, blah blah blah. I'm like, how about you start by finding a guy you LIKE?

She discovered bondage six months ago. That's it. Bondage. It's not like she has some weird specialized fetish that's hard to get people to indulge. It's not even anything I think most people other than the most straightlaced would consider kinky, any more than spanking or cross-dressing or threesomes.

I am starting to think that for some people, their kink is thinking of themselves as kinky.

 :lulz: Like some kind of weird meta-eroticism.

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Junkenstein, this might be helpful... I'm not sure exactly what you're asking, but given that the annual rate for all gun injuries in the US is around 100,000 http://usnews.nbcnews.com/_news/2013/01/16/16547690-just-the-facts-gun-violence-in-america?lite, 65-ish is a very low proportion.

http://www.npr.org/blogs/thetwo-way/2013/05/07/181998015/rate-of-u-s-gun-violence-has-fallen-since-1993-study-says   

This is also an interesting article: http://ideas.time.com/2013/09/18/navy-yard-whiplash-are-killings-going-up-or-down/

While "school shootings" are certainly the flavor of the moment, I'm not convinced their heavy presence in the media is anything other than a political fulcrum.         

I know we were all having a good chuckle recently at that website which shows correlations between unrelated things, but I think it is very interesting to note that the use of Tetraethyl lead in gasoline began to be phased out in 1973, 20 years before the drop in gun violence.

I know I'm being an unscientific spag by basically saying, "Coincidence?! YOU DECIDE!", but, well, you know.

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Oh my god you've got one of those geodesic thingamawhatsits in your backyard! I loved that shit when I was a kid.

Little Orange toned her perfect abs on that thing. She's mostly moved on to scaling the apricot tree now, though, so I think it's about time to pass it on to my best friend who's kid is about to turn one.

I had a rope swing on a tree between the ages of about 5 and 13. I was a scrawny little kid, but by god I could climb better and hold a pull-up longer than anyone my age.

Climbing is great, I need to find a way to do it more as an adult.

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Ain't dated anybody or gotten laid since December 2013 and nothing about my current situation is conducive to meeting people. I don't exactly have a sweet bachelor pad to bring ladies back to either. :lol:

"Hey good lookin', wanna get comfortable in a cramped, cluttered space that feels pretty much exactly like a student's cheap-ass living arrangements?"

Yeah, it's not looking great for me right now on that front.

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