Okay so the bottom line is that we have a really deep-rooted set of memes about masculinity (and, correspondingly, misogyny) that are manifesting in a subset of men who become very focused on their own (sexual) disillusionment. This focus results in phony "solutions" that rely on an Us-vs-Them mentality that rings true with our culture's obsession with competition and dominance, but which demands a lack of empathy for women and tries to strip them of agency.
It would just be pathetic and kind of shitty, but the result of this is two types of men: Manipulative, likely sociopathic assholes who would probably be like this anyway and have, to put it generously, a very rapey ideal for sexual relationships. The other type of men are the sad saps who buy into the mentality, but lo and behold it doesn't actually work because, surprise, it's bullshit and based on totally dysfunctional theories of human interaction.
So at both ends of the spectrum, you get subsets of the male population who are probably making life worse for women, either directly or indirectly. This situation blows chunks out of monkey's ass and it would be totally rad if we found effective ways to counteract this crap.
Where do we go from here?