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[Bella]

Bump.

I'm bored.

[hooplala]

Dear Bella,

I've been peeling potatoes for the better part of an hour at my desk . . . my boss just came by and told me to be more productive, but I'M PEELING POTATOES FOR CHRIST'S SAKE.  I think that's productive.

What should I tell him?

[Zurtok Khan]

Dear Bella,

Please settle in as what I'm about to tell you is going to take awhile.  If you need to pee, do so now.  If you need to poomp, save it for later so it goes out with all your hate.

My sister met the man she subsequently married in July.  He seemed like a very nice guy at the time.  Worked for the army as a recruiter, and told us that for a time he was an acting army ranger in Afganistan.  Months go by and they could not be happier.  All is well, he is here every day, and we felt that we learned many things about him.  He had been married once before to a woman he told us was a bitch.  He has a son who is about 18 months old.  His family hates him (or so we thought).  He claimed to have gone to highschool at a private school because he played hockey very, very well.  The list goes on.

In November he manages to lose both his job and appartment through a series of bad, and seemingly, perfectly understandable circumstances.  We find this somewhat strange, but do not question it as he appears to be a very nice man.  He moves in, and my sister and he get married (because my parents refused to allow them to live in sin here).  He finds a job at a local software support center, they buy a car together, etc, etc.  All is still well.

In November we discover that we are missing DVDs (20 or so of them) from the house.  Everyone in the house thought that it could've possibly been my sister's husband, but he being so nice, we figure that it's simply because we leave the side door unlocked (being in the very nice neighborhood in Utah we have never had problems with this before).  We start locking the sidedoor, and no more DVDs seem to disappear.

Christmas comes and the man invites his brother who has recently moved to Salt Lake City over for Christmas.  He tells us his brother has a mental disabbility that makes it hard to deal with social interaction.  No problem, we all make sure to be nice to him, though he seems to have zero problems with social interactions.

The big wedding (as everyone was completely unaware of the november wedding, except for immediate family) was scheduled for tomorrow (Jan. 14th).  The first monday of Janurary my sister's husband goes to meet his ex-wife for dinner to discuss things (as they have a child together) he comes home saying that he is unsure of what he wants out of life now, and all that similar bullshit.  

The day before this the DVD player was not working correctly, so we look at it and some of the wires have been disconnected.  This is very strange.

So, things are on the rocks for about a week, we don't know what's up as they go back and forth fighting.  Finally, on tuesday something happen (and I'm not quite clear on what) and my sister decides to kick him out.  She comes home from work with a neighborhood fried (the guy that preformed the marriage, actually) as everyone else was at work (and I was at school).  They argue, and huband wants to "talk it out."  My sister says, no, just leave.  He refuses, so she calls the cops and they escort him from the house.

Husband type goes up to his brother's house in SLC.  Sister calls mother-in-law to tell them whats up.  Sister's sister-in-law calls to check on things.  Sister-in-law talks to sister for awhile.  Husband type never went to private highschool.  Husband type was in basic training for two months then got hurt (exactally how is not sure), many, many other things are revealed to be untrue.  Husband type is pathological lier.  We know only a few things before, he had ex-wife (who is actually quite nice) and child.  He did not do many of the things he claims to have done.  In fact, we do not believe anything he has ever told us.  Almost all of it is complete lies according to his mother, sister, and ex-wife.

We ask him about the DVDs (a few of which were his, my sisters, mine, and my 4-year-old nieces), he gets very angry and claims never to have taken them.

We have since put many of his peculiar behavior's together.  He used to go out to "help his ex-wife with sick child,"  or "convince ex-wife to let him see child."  Ex-wife has not seen nor heard anything from him since July until January (and he owes 5,000$ in child support).  And would be gone for many hours once or twice a week doing such things, or would go to "watch football with his brother."

We have taken this as good evidence that he has a girlfriend.

We find this man disgusting and wish him to die a slow and painful death.

My sister is having the marriage annuled (instead of getting a divorce which is free in Utah if uncontested, she is getting the annulment which will cost 700$).

Sister feels very bad.  We all feel rather angry.  He stole at least 25 DVDs from all of us.  We find it particularly disgusting that he stole from a 4-year-old.  Due to his idiocy we have had to waste 1,300$ on the hall the marriage and reception were to be in (though we will be having a party anyway because we could not get back the money paid).

Ex-wife calls sister today because of a strange phone call.  Ex-wife is conducting a credit check because of strange phone call, and we have reason to believe he may be attempting to conduct an identity theft.  He knows my sister's SSN, and probably had access to mine (as the card was laying out on my dresser for awhile, and he was using my computer in my room).

Please to advice us on the best way to destroy him utterly and completely without leaving traces.

Please also to advice us on the best way to curse his soul into the lowest deapths of the places even satan is afraid to venture without armed guards and mace.

Please also to advice us how to comfort sister (best friend has come from Maryland to help, I feel there must be something else to do) more then we have done.  We have been very comforting by being companion and buying chai tea for to drown her sorrows with it's creamy deliciousness.

-Zurtok Khan

[Malaul]

I know Im not the great and wonderful B but Im gonna stick my tail in this one...


Any talk of revenge should be carefull talked about outside of here, if something DOES happen to him , this post could be cansidered evidence against you , adn make bella an accomplice...
Tread carefully and maybe an edit is in order,...


as for helping your sister, Ive lit a few of my candles for her
Strength
Angre and Hope

Strength to keep him away
Angre to give her the energy she will need to not go back to him should he try to get her back
and Hope that he will get whats comming to him.

As for you Ive also lit the Balance candle so you can keep a clear head and help your sister out...

Ive got all sorts of other goodies we can talk about for protection and what not for you and your family, so drop me a PM if yu are interested

[Cain]

I have a question.

Is the world going to end in 2012/13?

Because if it is, I really think I'm not going to bother with savings or my liver too much.

[Bella]

Dear Bella,

I've been peeling potatoes for the better part of an hour at my desk . . . my boss just came by and told me to be more productive, but I'M PEELING POTATOES FOR CHRIST'S SAKE.  I think that's productive.

What should I tell him?

Dear Baron,

Is your boss blind? I don't think one could possibly be more productive than that. Anyway, I suggest you tell him that the spuds were for a super secret suprise party for him, but now that the surprise has been ruined, you'll just have to cancel the dancing girls.

[Bella]

I know Im not the great and wonderful B but Im gonna stick my tail in this one...


Any talk of revenge should be carefull talked about outside of here, if something DOES happen to him , this post could be cansidered evidence against you , adn make She Who Eats Souls an accomplice...
Tread carefully and maybe an edit is in order,...


as for helping your sister, Ive lit a few of my candles for her
Strength
Angre and Hope

Strength to keep him away
Angre to give her the energy she will need to not go back to him should he try to get her back
and Hope that he will get whats comming to him.

As for you Ive also lit the Balance candle so you can keep a clear head and help your sister out...

Ive got all sorts of other goodies we can talk about for protection and what not for you and your family, so drop me a PM if yu are interested

This is a really really good answer and about what I would have said myself. Mal's helped me out protection wise in the past, so that's a great offer she made you.

I'm going add that your sister and, indeed, your entire family, need to change the locks on the doors and get yourself a restraining order. It should be free because your sister is married to him and she can include you guys on her order because he lived in your house. There are agencies that will help her type it up, etc. for free.

Also, I really recommend a support group or individual counseling for your sister. She has to be in a lot of pain right now. It's good that you guys are so supportive of her, but she needs someone neutral to talk to. What she's been through is considered emotional abuse and she can call your local women's crisis center. There's a good one in your valley.

Next step is to get everything he ever owned out of the house. If he left anything behind, box it up and take it to his folks. Now get some white sage and smudge your house. I'm also lighting a candle for you guys. I'm so sorry you all had to go through this.

[Bella]

I have a question.

Is the world going to end in 2012/13?

Because if it is, I really think I'm not going to bother with savings or my liver too much.

Dear Cain,

I don't think so. This happens every hundred years or so. Someone decides the world is going to end and they gather up their followers and sit and wait and nothing happens so they change the date.

Except for this one guy I used to know in Hawaii - well I knew what he looked like because I saw him all the time, but I didn't personally know him or anything. Anyway. He decided the world was going to end so he went up on some cliffs on the windward side and got on a hang glider and jumped off and flew smack into the ocean and died. So then his followers gathered up his soggy remains and took him home to wait for him to rise from the dead after three days. But he didn't, and the neighbors complained about the stench, so the cops came and took his body away and it was cremated and I watched while they sprinkled him over the spot where he died. So yeah, the world ended for him, but not for the rest of us.

My point is that while savings are optional, I think you should take care of your liver just in case the world is still here in 2014.

[Eldora, Oracle of Alchemy]

Z, I am so sorry for you and your family.  From everything you have told me, you are all sweet trusting people.  I know you don't want to hear this now, but try to think of this as a painful expensive lesson.  If something seems too good to be true, it probably is.  For example,

told us that for a time he was an acting army ranger in Afganistan

As far as I know there is no such thing.  It is really difficult when someone is being nice to be skeptical of what they say, I understand that as much as, if not more than, most people, but sometimes that is the exact time to be skeptical.

Oh, and GIANT kudos for having the party anyway, try to use it as a banishment and to clear all the bad energy from your lives.

Hugs and kisses to you and your family and there will be a candle burning here for you as well.

[Cain]

He decided the world was going to end so he went up on some cliffs on the windward side and got on a hang glider and jumped off and flew smack into the ocean and died. So then his followers gathered up his soggy remains and took him home to wait for him to rise from the dead after three days. But he didn't, and the neighbors complained about the stench, so the cops came and took his body away and it was cremated and I watched while they sprinkled him over the spot where he died.

Best end of the world story EVER!

I'm sick, aren't I?

[Bella]

He decided the world was going to end so he went up on some cliffs on the windward side and got on a hang glider and jumped off and flew smack into the ocean and died. So then his followers gathered up his soggy remains and took him home to wait for him to rise from the dead after three days. But he didn't, and the neighbors complained about the stench, so the cops came and took his body away and it was cremated and I watched while they sprinkled him over the spot where he died.

Best end of the world story EVER!

I'm sick, aren't I?

Yeah, you are. I knew you'd like that sweet little story.  

[East Coast Hustle]

I have a favor to ask of Her Most UnWholly Doomness...


candle? Seahawks? pretty please?

I would be most indebted.

[Bella]

Really? Sure. When's the game?

[East Coast Hustle]

they're a few minutes into the 3rd quater as we speak.

[Bella]

K. I'm lighting it now then.