Dok, I'm lovin' it.

[NotPublished]

If you can forge a friendship with her, it'll make things all the better ... well usually, right?

[Pope Pixie Pickle]

Good communication and respect are key. You are a good natured open minded person, and that's a good start for anything. 

Good luck Kai!

[Kai]

Sweetheart, if it makes you and they happy, then go with it.

I have been a sex worker and associated with other sex workers. In terms of VD, modern, urban sex workers are incredibly safe due to the standards of safe practice; use normal precautions, and worry no further than that.

They sound like a lovely couple with high potential to bring great sexual/emotional joy into your life; my opinion is (and you know great parts of my opinion!) ENJOY THE HELL OUT OF IT!

Your body is a treasure. Mine it.

Yeah, we're using normal precautions (condoms, no oral for now). There's no worry /from me/ at least because I've never been sexually active.

Edit: Oh, and the girl in question? She doesn't fuck anyone outside of relationships. She's not a standard porn star, she's a camgirl and runs a bunch of websites. She's not going out and blowing fifty guys a month. Which means she is not in any way more vulnerable to STD's than the general population, probably far less vulnerable, since she knows her sex health and takes precautions when needed.

You've never been sexually active, and you are starting with a porn star and her crossdressing boyfriend?  Way to set the bar high.

Kai doesn't afraid of ANYTHING.

I'm afraid of loosing her, either to the unskillful words I used earlier today that upset her, or to the inevitable point when our locations diverge either due to work or school or want, and we must decided what to do.

Relationships are hard, but you are smart and will learn quickly how to navigate their depths.

Quickly enough to avoid this disaster, I hope.

[NotPublished]

I think you'll do fine Kai, if a relationship can't survive a disagreement .. well I think it speaks for itself.

Don't put pressure on yourself bro,

You both work through things and learn about each other - make comprimises, change etc, you don't start out perfect - its journey of discovery.

As Rainy said - Respect and Communication.

If you really did upset her - maybe apologise and take her out somewhere.

[Vene]

Relationships are hard, but you are smart and will learn quickly how to navigate their depths.

It occurs to me that this wasn't the most sensitive post, but dammit, my mind is filled with perversions.

[PersephoneOfTheFlowers]

Kai, you're not going to lose me just because you put your foot in your mouth once. I'm harder to get rid of than that. Also, if it's meant to be, we will find a way to work out a compromise with the location thing, just don't snap then run away every time I suggest a major change.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Relationships are hard, but you are smart and will learn quickly how to navigate their depths.

It occurs to me that this wasn't the most sensitive post, but dammit, my mind is filled with perversions.

I was asking for it...

[Nephew Twiddleton]

Kai and POTF-

Congrats! Do it up, enjoy, and as far as relationships go, honesty is key. Sounds awesome! Go with the flow, don't worry too much about the future. Doing so will get in the way of the present and screw up the future you're worrying about. If the 3 of you are happy, that's what you should strive for.

[Kai]

Kai, you're not going to lose me just because you put your foot in your mouth once. I'm harder to get rid of than that. Also, if it's meant to be, we will find a way to work out a compromise with the location thing, just don't snap then run away every time I suggest a major change.

I'm glad I'm not going to lose you. I am willing to compromise. I will take more care with my words in the future.

[Salty]

This thread makes me happy.   
I love when these things happen suddenly and with intensity.
When it's too good to be true, it's awesome.

[LMNO]

Relationships are serious, but don't invite the dramallama to take a dump on your floormat.

That is to say, arguments happen, but it's not a good ideat to treat every one of them as life or death situations.


Enjoy exploring new avenues between your circuits.  Just remember you are HERE, and you are NOW.

[Kai]

Relationships are serious, but don't invite the dramallama to take a dump on your floormat.

That is to say, arguments happen, but it's not a good ideat to treat every one of them as life or death situations.


Enjoy exploring new avenues between your circuits.  Just remember you are HERE, and you are NOW.

I just realized that, while the above made perfect sense to me, there are so many PD memes in there that anyone outside this site would be somewhat confused.

[LMNO]

PD.com:  Linguistic Matrix Eqations.

[Freeky]

why that was the most kind, polite and well mannered fuck off I've ever recieved... your very welcome?

Religously though, now I'm sorta wondering if VD was caused by the origional snub... hummm...  na, greeks were baaaa-nging sheep long before that.

smiles and rainbows?

1 out of 6 people in the USA have herpies, docs think the un-reported cases actually bump that up to 1 in 3, I'd be amazed if there was a porn star who didnt have it. thinking I caught it once scared the living shit outa me, I wish a complete stranger had told me to be a little more careful back then and maybe I wouldent have had to shit bricks for two weeks while waiting for the test results to come back. 

Whatever happened to this guy? He was a tool, but.... um... I dunno, I just think we need tools with more balls or something.

[Doktor Howl]

Things are getting weird, Roger, and I mean weirder than normal. Not that my life is normal; I'm a goddamn bug freak, fer chrissakes.

I've gotten myself into this situation, and I'm sure I don't want out of it. You see, last week this woman on one of those online dating sites messaged me, something like "having trouble composing myself, you are lovely, message me", in a nutshell.

Next thing I know, I'm two hours from home in northern Georgia.

I'm normally not hasty about these things, Roger. But this woman is fucking smart. And I mean, REALLY smart. She blows me out of the water. And she thinks I'm a godlike being, for some reason.

Did I mention she's a porn star, a professional dominatrix, one of those proverts? That she runs her own number of websites? Oh, and here's the other thing: she has a fiancee. Except he's gay, highly attractive and walks around the house in dresses. All nestled in a matrix of suburbia. She even had me model some handcuffs (just my hands, mind you) for a video review.

This is as deep down the rabbit hole as I've ever been, Roger, and what I've said isn't the half of it. It feels like I'm headed into your territory of weirdness, relationship wise. But I'm loving every minute of it. Does that make me crazy? From Thursday evening to Sunday morning I slept less than 10 hours, ate food that's horrible for me, and felt more loved than I have in a long time. That house is a nexus of weird, and I'm lovin' it, Roger. You can't keep me away.

~Kai

DOES SHE MAKE YOU HAPPY?  <--- This is the only thing that matters.  Everything else is commentary.  Being happy - actually happy - is the only fucking reason to be on this shitball of a horrorshow, and anything that makes you really happy, you say "FUCK IT" and jump in head first.  DAMN THE TORPEDOES, KAI.  TOMORROW IS THE ENEMY!