Forgetting

[Luna]

One of my favorites, unfortunately at my expense:







"...You put your dick in that?"

I believe the phrase I used at one point in this mess was, "If you put your dick in that, I do NOT want it back."

[Luna]

True.  If I had a dollar for every time I've looked at one of my friends and asked, "what the HELL are you thinking," I'd be buying that house I've been drooling over.

(Mind you, I believe my exact words upon seeing the little tramp my husband is now banging was, "Are you out of your fucking MIND?")

Three things:

1.  Have fun with yourself, ie, get in the shape you want to be in, emotionally and physically.

2.  Have fun with your friends.

3.  Relish the thought of HIS thoughts when the new wears off and the old shines through.

That is the plan. 

Got weight to ditch, both physical and emotional.  Got friends, some awesome new ones and some great old ones I need to reconnect with.  And when he winds up alone and comes crawling back, I'll be too busy to even laugh.  Much.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

True.  If I had a dollar for every time I've looked at one of my friends and asked, "what the HELL are you thinking," I'd be buying that house I've been drooling over.

(Mind you, I believe my exact words upon seeing the little tramp my husband is now banging was, "Are you out of your fucking MIND?")

Three things:

1.  Have fun with yourself, ie, get in the shape you want to be in, emotionally and physically.

2.  Have fun with your friends.

3.  Relish the thought of HIS thoughts when the new wears off and the old shines through.

That is the plan. 

Got weight to ditch, both physical and emotional.  Got friends, some awesome new ones and some great old ones I need to reconnect with.  And when he winds up alone and comes crawling back, I'll be too busy to even laugh.  Much.

"I know you from somewhere, don't I?"

[Sister Fracture]

It's funniest when ex's try and hook up for one night stands or "friends with benefits". LOL

[Luna]

Can't remember where I heard it.

Going back to a bad relationship is like going back to the fridge to see if the milk's still bad today.

It's poured down the sink...  I'm just dealing with the lingering smell.

[P3nT4gR4m]

Something that helped me a lot - enjoy being single. Lot of people (myself included once upon a time) seem to be desperate to settle down with someone, cos that's what biology wants us to do or some bullshit. Problem is, if you're in that mindset, you tend to make allowances, overlook little things that, lets face it, after a decade or so are going to be pretty fucking big things. A relationship is about compromise, granted but the greedier you are and the less things you're willing to compromise on, the happier you're going to be in the long run and, trust me, monogamy is one long fucking run. Fuckheads rush in.

[Luna]

Yes...  It's just been a longass time since I've been single.  Working on that bit.

[Suu]

I think I'm just a terrible human being, but the way I see it is this is a "John Tucker Must Die" issue. She ruined your relationship, she ruined Kev's. She ruined Giddeon's, she tried to come between Herb and I and may have partially succeeded.

You give him 30 days to file. If he does not, YOU do it, file for adultery, forward the fucking papers to their place of employment and shit can them both. The ball is in your court at that time and he will not be eligible to receive alimony because the state of RI makes adultery contested, and you can basically suck him dry. That was the threat I had to make and it worked, within 6 hours I had papers in my hand last February.

The important thing is you moving on, and doing so with such gusto you can rip his life to shreds in the process. Me? I'm still not done with the asshole. He doesn't want to play nice for my belongings, I said, "Don't make me bring an army." and what was his foolish response? "Bring your army."

...So Enzo will be joining me, and I'm also going to ask Llew as well. One guy to hold me back, one to grab my shit. Richter will be out of the house and so will Nurse East. They are not to get involved. However, if he keeps playing this, "Tuesdays I'm off but it's my date day" I'm going to tell him to make sure his little blonde fuck pillow is there too, so she can see really how terrible I am in person. And if she opens her mouth, I'll be sure that she's in tears before I leave. Both of them, and I won't even have to lift a finger. (chances are by that point one of the guys will have me in an arm bar anyway.)

My problem is that I'm too angry and too spontaneous to go in without someone to stop me from ending up in jail. Hopefully it won't end up that way for you.

[Shibboleet The Annihilator]

It hasn't been easy.  It still isn't.  Finding out you've wasted years on your life, thinking you had it set, that you'd done it right. 

Your years have only been wasted if you didn't learn anything from them. If that's the case, you should consider taking a hard look at yourself because you're the only thing you can control.

[LMNO]

You know, it's really weird seeing you give good honest advice, as opposed to capslock insanity.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

You know, it's really weird seeing you give good honest advice, as opposed to capslock insanity.

My whole world is a lie.   

[P3nT4gR4m]

You know, it's really weird seeing you give good honest advice, as opposed to capslock insanity.

I've seen him do it before and I'm pretty sure it's mainly for the shock factor

[Luna]

I don't have the kind of rage you do, Suu.  Good on some points, bad on others, I suppose.  But if women were all the same, men would have it too easy.

He is not, at this point, giving shit over much personal stuff that he doesn't have SOME claim on.  (Read, anything I owned prior to the marriage.)  When things DO get nasty, it'll be because he threw the first punch.  You were there for the DVD split, if we can handle things that civilly, I'd rather not get into the "bring your army" thing.

He's VERY aware of what our mutual friends are going to think of what he's done...  And so am I.  Ranting and raving won't make my point any better, or make them think any less of him.  There's no point in doing it.

(And, holy crap, 4 responses while I was typing this.)

It hasn't been easy.  It still isn't.  Finding out you've wasted years on your life, thinking you had it set, that you'd done it right. 

Your years have only been wasted if you didn't learn anything from them. If that's the case, you should consider taking a hard look at yourself because you're the only thing you can control.

Yeah, I'm working on that.  It's a process, I figure if I just snapped my fingers and said, "Yep, got it," I'd be full o' more shit than my shitbag husband.

[Suu]

Yeah, you weren't there for our DVD splitting, which was me boxing up almost everything and running out of the house, and him eventually catching up to me at the Z's raiding my closet and taking them all back with General Stuart holding me back. 

-Suu
Fine upstanding young lady.

[Luna]

You might see the advantage in me keeping things reasonably civil until I get the rest of my stuff, anyway.  He's still got most of my RPG's, which I DO want back.

Once the stuff is split, and the legal crap is done...  Well, by that point, if my brain is right, I won't give a shit what he's doing with whom.