OkCupid: A Guy's Perspective

[The Good Reverend Roger]

How the hell did I not notice this thread?

You were gone.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

I'm gonna say, as a chick on OK Cupid, that the main reason some guys don't get much action is because women are FUCKING DELUGED with messages, and 99% of the messages are from men who are flat-out delusional if they think they're in their league. Here is my process: IF I have time I scan the message and if it's not retarded, I go look at the guy's pictures. If he's somewhere in a reasonable ball-park of attractiveness to be hitting on me, I read his profile. If he doesn't sound like a douche, I reply. I will message a hot, smart guy in my age range if he winks at me.

ALMOST EVERY GUY who messages me is a retard, ten years too young, ten years too old, a hick, or not in my league. I am not stuck up, but it's a fact that in general, people date as attractive of people as they can pull, and that is about 600 times MORE true when it comes to casual sex.

If you're not getting any replies, re-assess the situation. Reflect on your profile and see if it sounds interesting and engaging to the people you would like to meet. LOOK IN THE MIRROR. Now, DO NOT MESSAGE girls who are significantly hotter/younger/older than you are unless their profile specifically says they're slumming for sex. It's an insult and a waste of their time, and you are in no way entitled to a response.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Of course, the drawback of online dating is that sometimes people who are beautiful in pictures have the charisma of a rusty pole in person. I once dated a model who was so unhot in person it was absurd.

So, be interesting and have good, interesting pictures that give some sort of sense of what you're like to hang out with.

[Freeky]

The reverse of that is some people are hideous in photos, and look quite good in person. 

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

The reverse of that is some people are hideous in photos, and look quite good in person.  

Also very true.

That's another limitation of online dating, and a reason people who want to date should be out at events and parties meeting people.

However, I'll tell you, MOST people I've met from OK Cupid looked better in pictures, because they used extremely flattering pictures from ten years ago. Fuckers.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Also, FFS, do NOT write a lengthy initial message. Just "Hi, you seem interesting, mention of or question about something I saw in your profile? Fun or interesting thing about me. Have a great week!" is PLENTY. The goal is just to give them a reason to check out your profile and something to reply to if they're interested.

[Freeky]

Indeed.  Nobody wants to read War and Peace when a couple lines will do it.

[Fredfredly ⊂(◉‿◉)つ]

I am one of the women who was run off the site by creepers.
Dear 50 year old men, please don't tell me that all you want for Christmas is me.
I also seemed to be popular with wannabe latino gangsters. My name is neither Mami nor Chula, go away.
Don't write paragraphs about how attractive you think I am. You might think its nice, but its weird. Women don't actually respond well to being over-complimented.
DON'T WRITE ME ANGRY NOTES BECAUSE I HAVEN'T RESPONDED CALLING ME SUPERFICIAL. ITS THE INTERNET. I CAN IGNORE YOUR UGLY ASS IF I WANT. ARE YOU MESSAGING PEOPLE YOU THINK ARE UGLY??

I wrote back to: people actually within 5 years of my age who wrote short funny messages

Unfortunately they were outnumbered 20:1 by the other type

In conclusion, stop creepin, be amusing.

OK CUPID : DEACTIVATED!!!!
plus i went extra nerdy and got a boyfriend in irc :P HAW

[Don Coyote]

Crazy okcupid girl suddenly stopped talking to me...not because of accidental shovel in my car, but probably "ya you can't smoke dope around me"

[Freeky]

 

[Don Coyote]

It's not funny. There was potential for sexy times. Good potential.

[Freeky]

Pff.

[Don Coyote]

Pff.

[Freeky]

Pff.

Whiner.  I haven't gotten laid in months. 

[Don Coyote]

Pff.

Whiner.  I haven't gotten laid in months. 

Me neither.