My ex girlfriend is now a stripper.

[DECI4]

Let me ask you a question: Were you two chaste when you were together? If not, did she enjoy the sex? If so, was she shy about being naked in front of you or asking for what she wanted? Did she ever dance semi-suggestively (fully clothed) at a club or bar for fun and catharsis? Enjoy the music and moving her body?

I don't understand why a smart girl, fully clothed, with glasses and a $12-an-hour Paralegal job, drunkenly dancing with her friends to booty-music is respectable but the moment she quits working for the shark, takes off the J. Crew Khakis and shakes her tooshie for a few hundred in a night, she's...got some "secrets" and possibly a flawed character.

Does. Not. Compute.

I already answered many of your  questions in the OP. No she is not shy , she's been a dancer all her life, I realize there is nothing inherently wrong with stripping. And my negative opinion of it is based on: The strippers I've known and the experiences and general culture they have related to me about the lifestyle, my own sporadic experiences at strip clubs and dealing with people who work in the industry (not just dancers) and my ex girlfriends own words about it. To Paraphrase:

"junkies and single mothers" "gross and shady people" "I'm not proud of it"

She has no children, she is not into drugs, and she has never been the overly  materialistic type.  In closing, I feel the way I do because it is completely out of her character to do something out of the blue that she claims to find demeaning, around a bunch of people she doesn't like, in a culture she doesn't feel comfortable in, for a quick buck.

Did you just ignore what I said on purpose? Or did you genuinely miss the point? Cause I demonstrated how the introduction of her character is irrelevant and presented you with a perfectly reasonable argument for how you can frame this in the context of her character and still not feel threatened by it and what you essentially responded with was "I already addressed all this in the OP" and proceeded to repeat that the reason you're threatened by it is because it's out-of-character for her.

Your kettle logic is giving me a migraine.

Maybe I am missing your point. If so please rephrase.

Believe me, if she told me she was doing it for fun and money I would feel a lot better about it. If she was doing burlesque or artsy nude modeling I wouldn't be so worried about it. I'll repeat myself, she claims to not like doing it, she doesn't need to do it, she is doing it anyway.

And, and I will type this very slowly, in hopes that it sinks through your thick skull:

IT IS NONE OF YOUR FUCKING BUSINESS.

That said:

Actually this is probably the best advice I've gotten so far.

[navkat]

TBH: I take a little offense to your illogical associations here. I'll be plain: I like fucking and sucking. I do a lot of it. It's fun. It's my main vice. I have no funky diseases, never tried heroin, don't do blow and I consider myself a clean, smart, funny, goodhearted person that puts more value into the world than I remove by shitting, eating and breathing.

I consider taking one's clothes off and wiggling around a little pole in front of other men to be child's play. If she's getting some money off that, AWEsome. That makes her smarter than me. I gotta work a separate job to fund my forays into sexual exhibitionism.

With all due respect, FUCK YOU. You whiney, judgmental, neurotic, little prick who's so sheltered, you have to invent ethical dilemmas for yourself by living vicariously through your hott ex girlfriend, you FUCK.

I really don't care about your sex life. I don't consider you a bad person because you enjoy fucking. That seems pretty normal to me. Do you do it for money you don't need on a whim with people you don't like in an environment you don't like?

Dude, except for ECH and the few in our ranks who are still either independently wealthy or managed to find some personally fulfilling hobby that motherfuckers want to pay for, we're all whores here.

Grow up.

[DECI4]

Maybe, just maybe, she was ashamed because the first thing out of your yap the minute she mentioned the place was, "at least you're not a DANCER..."

Sure, and later I apologized for that comment. However, she specifically lied about being a dancer there initially and throughout the course of our evening together made up stories about being a waitress there.

Possibly because she figured you'd be a judgmental twat about it.  Which...  Yeah.

Look did you read my OP? I fully admit I'm being a judgemental prick about it, I admitted it to her and I've already admitted it to all of you. Since our conversation I've been supportive, haven't talked down to her about it and told her I'm cool with whatever she decides to do because I trust her to make the right decisions. Those are  mostly lies. I'm not cool with it, especially because even after giving my support she still claims to not like what she is doing. We were together for a long time, we communicate really well, we've always been able to be honest with each other. I don't see what is so hard to understand about me being worried about an important person in my life that claims to not like what she is doing yet is doing it anyway for some abstract amount of money with no specific goal behind it.

What, precisely is your argument, here? You admit your judgement is baseless and Luna already summed it up by saying "it's none of your business."

I don't buy this sudden shift to "*sob* BUT I'M JUST SO WORRIED ABOUT HER!" You just admitted she's smart, has her shit together and has perfectly logical reasons. This is, mind you, after you've already dug yourself 20 feet into the "I wonder what ELSE she's capable of that I didn't see before?" hole.

State your true point, sir. Unless your point is just to make up reasons to have a shallow, ethical crisis on a forum notorious for no ethics.

Well I am worried about her. Plus she has no logical reasons, at least that she was willing to share with me. She just wanted to "make 15 grand" and get out. No plans for that money. She just wanted it. Ok..... I'ts not like her. You guys are definitely right though, in the end it is none of my buisiness.

[kingyak]

Well I am worried about her. Plus she has no logical reasons, at least that she was willing to share with me. She just wanted to "make 15 grand" and get out. No plans for that money. She just wanted it. Ok..... I'ts not like her. You guys are definitely right though, in the end it is none of my buisiness.

How irresponsible of her to want to make some money without having any specific plans for it. I swear, the nerve of some people! I guess that's what happens when you enter the world of FILTH and EEEEEVIL that is the sex industry!

Somebody set that slut on fire, already!

[The Good Reverend Roger]

DECI4 gets 20 fucking points and a gold star.

Not because the troll was particularly good, but because people keep taking her seriously.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

DECI4 gets 20 fucking points and a gold star.

Not because the troll was particularly good, but because people keep taking her seriously.

Seriously, what is that?

[East Coast Hustle]

Right?

If most of the people ITT can't repress their pavlovian instincts, they could at least wait and unleash it on an entertaining troll.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

DECI4 gets 20 fucking points and a gold star.

Not because the troll was particularly good, but because people keep taking her seriously.

Seriously, what is that?

DECI4 is providing a service, I think.  People want desperately to be outraged by retarded shit, and DECI4 has graciously provided said over-the-top retarded shit, in a manner that would make the old Fucked Company crowd sick with nostalgia.

I mean, anyone who read the OP - especially if they've read DECI4's earlier threads - and takes it seriously isn't thinking.  I'm not saying they're stupid, mind you, just not using their frontal lobes at that particular moment (kind of like what happens to my brain around women or cactus or firearms or all three).

The OP may be a pretty boilerplate troll, but DECI4 knows her audience.  There's a great big fucking handle on their foreheads, and she knows how to use it.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

DECI4 gets 20 fucking points and a gold star.

Not because the troll was particularly good, but because people keep taking her seriously.

Seriously, what is that?

DECI4 is providing a service, I think.  People want desperately to be outraged by retarded shit, and DECI4 has graciously provided said over-the-top retarded shit, in a manner that would make the old Fucked Company crowd sick with nostalgia.

I mean, anyone who read the OP - especially if they've read DECI4's earlier threads - and takes it seriously isn't thinking.  I'm not saying they're stupid, mind you, just not using their frontal lobes at that particular moment (kind of like what happens to my brain around women or cactus or firearms or all three).

The OP may be a pretty boilerplate troll, but DECI4 knows her audience.  There's a great big fucking handle on their foreheads, and she knows how to use it.

Seriously, I mean come on. It's so disappointing.

[navkat]

Wai...I can't tell who...

*scoff*

[Roly Poly Oly-Garch]

DECI4 gets 20 fucking points and a gold star.

Not because the troll was particularly good, but because people keep taking her seriously.

Seriously, what is that?

DECI4 is providing a service, I think.  People want desperately to be outraged by retarded shit, and DECI4 has graciously provided said over-the-top retarded shit, in a manner that would make the old Fucked Company crowd sick with nostalgia.

I mean, anyone who read the OP - especially if they've read DECI4's earlier threads - and takes it seriously isn't thinking.  I'm not saying they're stupid, mind you, just not using their frontal lobes at that particular moment (kind of like what happens to my brain around women or cactus or firearms or all three).

The OP may be a pretty boilerplate troll, but DECI4 knows her audience.  There's a great big fucking handle on their foreheads, and she knows how to use it.

Very, very true, this. Only time I've even been tempted...and I was hella tempted.

Then again...first and last and Lemon Fresh...

[The Good Reverend Roger]

DECI4 gets 20 fucking points and a gold star.

Not because the troll was particularly good, but because people keep taking her seriously.

Seriously, what is that?

DECI4 is providing a service, I think.  People want desperately to be outraged by retarded shit, and DECI4 has graciously provided said over-the-top retarded shit, in a manner that would make the old Fucked Company crowd sick with nostalgia.

I mean, anyone who read the OP - especially if they've read DECI4's earlier threads - and takes it seriously isn't thinking.  I'm not saying they're stupid, mind you, just not using their frontal lobes at that particular moment (kind of like what happens to my brain around women or cactus or firearms or all three).

The OP may be a pretty boilerplate troll, but DECI4 knows her audience.  There's a great big fucking handle on their foreheads, and she knows how to use it.

Very, very true, this. Only time I've even been tempted...and I was hella tempted.

Then again...first and last and Lemon Fresh...

I have to give her credit.  She has a real sense for the classic troll.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

DECI4 gets 20 fucking points and a gold star.

Not because the troll was particularly good, but because people keep taking her seriously.

Seriously, what is that?

DECI4 is providing a service, I think.  People want desperately to be outraged by retarded shit, and DECI4 has graciously provided said over-the-top retarded shit, in a manner that would make the old Fucked Company crowd sick with nostalgia.

I mean, anyone who read the OP - especially if they've read DECI4's earlier threads - and takes it seriously isn't thinking.  I'm not saying they're stupid, mind you, just not using their frontal lobes at that particular moment (kind of like what happens to my brain around women or cactus or firearms or all three).

The OP may be a pretty boilerplate troll, but DECI4 knows her audience.  There's a great big fucking handle on their foreheads, and she knows how to use it.

Very, very true, this. Only time I've even been tempted...and I was hella tempted.

Then again...first and last and Lemon Fresh...

I have to give her credit.  She has a real sense for the classic troll.

True, that.

[DECI4]

DECI4 gets 20 fucking points and a gold star.

Not because the troll was particularly good, but because people keep taking her seriously.

Seriously, what is that?

DECI4 is providing a service, I think.  People want desperately to be outraged by retarded shit, and DECI4 has graciously provided said over-the-top retarded shit, in a manner that would make the old Fucked Company crowd sick with nostalgia.

I mean, anyone who read the OP - especially if they've read DECI4's earlier threads - and takes it seriously isn't thinking.  I'm not saying they're stupid, mind you, just not using their frontal lobes at that particular moment (kind of like what happens to my brain around women or cactus or firearms or all three).

The OP may be a pretty boilerplate troll, but DECI4 knows her audience.  There's a great big fucking handle on their foreheads, and she knows how to use it.

Very, very true, this. Only time I've even been tempted...and I was hella tempted.

Then again...first and last and Lemon Fresh...

I have to give her credit.  She has a real sense for the classic troll.

LOL you guys are way too paranoid. I could say the sky is blue or complain about traffic on the freeway and you guys would say "don't feed the troll". Thanks though I needed a decent chuckle today. Believe it or not that isn't what this thread was about.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

DECI4 gets 20 fucking points and a gold star.

Not because the troll was particularly good, but because people keep taking her seriously.

Seriously, what is that?

DECI4 is providing a service, I think.  People want desperately to be outraged by retarded shit, and DECI4 has graciously provided said over-the-top retarded shit, in a manner that would make the old Fucked Company crowd sick with nostalgia.

I mean, anyone who read the OP - especially if they've read DECI4's earlier threads - and takes it seriously isn't thinking.  I'm not saying they're stupid, mind you, just not using their frontal lobes at that particular moment (kind of like what happens to my brain around women or cactus or firearms or all three).

The OP may be a pretty boilerplate troll, but DECI4 knows her audience.  There's a great big fucking handle on their foreheads, and she knows how to use it.

Very, very true, this. Only time I've even been tempted...and I was hella tempted.

Then again...first and last and Lemon Fresh...

I have to give her credit.  She has a real sense for the classic troll.

LOL you guys are way too paranoid. I could say the sky is blue or complain about traffic on the freeway and you guys would say "don't feed the troll". Thanks though I needed a decent chuckle today. Believe it or not that isn't what this thread was about.

I think most people are going to be suspicious of/not bother reading your posts until/unless you go for a while without starting troll threads. At this point, though, about half of us want to punch the other half for replying to anything you ever post, so good job.