The Waiting Place

[Richter]

Herr Doktor:

I am intrigued to hear more about the "Common Walls" idea.  At face value, I would agree that this is an idea worth expanding.  It also makes me envision my brain as an unholy polyhedron, which pleases me.  Additionally, looking at my close friends, I would say that the commonality of bent is a common thread in all of them.  Simply, we all have a shared quirk, at some level. 
Granted, this is an initial reaction, and anticipate more on your own views of it.

But the primates and the fighting.  I remember from somewhere that "A man can be judgd by the quality of his enemies."
Well, perhaps, but this man is most negligent in his housekeeping.
I also recall an unproductive day of adolescent scholarship, finding that the bint hired to tell me never to coppulate (yet providing cringing detail), differed of option to myself in beleiving people were better than animals.  Can people be better?  If convinced to their own vanity they should be, yes.  (other methods too, but this is the msot common I ahve seen.  Very simialr to how ANY person told of ESP will assume they have it, but that is anohter tangent.)  They can be better, WE can be better, but treating them along the animalistic axis until proven otherwise, is safest most of the time. 
As such, there are no enemies.  There are only irritants edging themselves closer to the criteria for destruction.  Often, upon making my will to escalate clear, while smoothing my surgical scapular and fondling my death ray, I find there is neither no more enemy, or a pile of ash.

This may be the WRONG thinking, but it does clear the air of tedious long term nemesii.     

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

In other words, I think we need a safe word.  To remind us , when we're in the thick of it, to take it to PMs, so we don't spag up everything else.   

"Take it to PMs" should work just fine.

I won't have an adversarial conversation in PM. Privacy is for people I trust.

Just another perspective. "Hey, your ass is showing" is something I might PM someone if I thought they were embarrassing themselves, but for the most part I will not have the conversation behind metaphorical closed doors. I myself am usually gentler in PM but I have had people say really really REALLY shitty things to me in PM that they didn't have the balls to say in public and I am not interested in having those kinds of hidden and unaccountable conversations.

Usually by the time I am at a point of a public altercation, I have already gently (or not so gently) stated my opinion many times over.

I appreciate Dok's OP, I think it's a great one. And, I myself have mellowed out a great deal over time. But while I'm all for splitting a thread, or starting a new thread, I am very unlikely to take a heated argument to PM because it makes me feel unsafe. Rational or not. I would rather hash things out in public.

[Nephew Twiddleton]

Though i rather doubt it- if anyone needs to clear the air with me give me a heads up.

[Q. G. Pennyworth]

Though i rather doubt it- if anyone needs to clear the air with me give me a heads up.

TWID, YOU ARE A SHIT-EATING COCKMONGER OF THE WORST SORT. I WILL NEVER FORGIVE YOU FOR WHAT YOU DID TO THOSE ORPHANED HARP SEALS.

[Nephew Twiddleton]

SEALS WERE NEVER MEANT TO PLAY HARP. IT WAS AN ABOMINATION TO AN DAGDA MOR!

[Q. G. Pennyworth]

EVERYTHING'S AN ABOMINATION TO AN DAGDA MOR! YOU DIDN'T EAT ANY SEAGULL LIVERS.

[Nephew Twiddleton]

THAT WOULD HAVE ANGERED MANANNAN MAC LIR AND I MAKE UP FOR IT BY PICKLING MY OWN LIVER.

[Q. G. Pennyworth]

THAT WOULD HAVE ANGERED MANANNAN MAC LIR AND I MAKE UP FOR IT BY PICKLING MY OWN LIVER.

OH LOOK, AN IRISHMAN DRINKING HIMSELF INTO A STUPOR! LET'S JUST THROW IN SOME POTATO AND TINY PENIS JOKES, TOO, THAT'LL MAKE UP FOR PISSING ON THEIR CORPSES. THEY MADE ME COME BACK AND CLEAN THAT SHIT UP FOR MY COMMUNITY SERVICE!

[Nephew Twiddleton]

I LIKE BOOZE BECAUSE ITS BOOZE NOT BECAUSE IM IRISH. IM A STEREOTYPE FOR MY OWN AMUSEMENT.

[Nephew Twiddleton]

IM AT THE KINSALE RIGHT NOW WHERE ARE YOU BOSTONIAN?

[Freeky]

 

[Nephew Twiddleton]

I JUST DID WHISKEY IN THE JAR FOR KARAOKE AND YOU MISSED IT. ALL THE IRISH DUDES WERE LIKE YEAH YOU GO DORKY GUY WITH THE BLUE COAT!

[Q. G. Pennyworth]

IM AT THE KINSALE RIGHT NOW WHERE ARE YOU BOSTONIAN?

AT HOME BUT I SHOULD CLEARLY BE OUT DRUNKIES WITH YOU.

[Nephew Twiddleton]

And pickles just gave me the car keys. im one of the soberies tonight. :finish guinnesh:

[Q. G. Pennyworth]

See, this is totally why we should drinkies at some point. The Boyfriend refuses to alcohol, so there's always a driver