Why you think the world is shittier than it really is.

[Nephew Twiddleton]

Read a book.  Interact with other real humans in your domicile.  Take up stamp collecting.

Your bucket list? I mean, you're doing the same thing we are.

That's different.  For reasons that do not concern you or I.   

The worst thing about severe alcohol abuse is that it might not kill you.

It might turn you into RWHN.

RWHN doing substance abuse prevention in his spare time, ironically.

You can believe that, if you so choose.  I think he's been out of work for a while.  Just a guess, mind you.

Well, I dunno. He was shopping for a ring for his girlfriend today.

A move I was considering suggesting to him to maybe wait on for a little bit since his divorce is still recent history until he called me assface (open hostility=/=hatred).

He is a human being after all and I don't want him to get too entangled too quickly if he might not be thinking through the neurochemical rush that is new love.

I'm 38 years old.  She is 39.  We didn't just fall off the turnip truck.

Still seems a bit quick. Just saying.

Seeing how the actual wedding will be, at the earliest, next summer, it's really not that quick at all.

If you say so.

[Nephew Twiddleton]

"If the argument is that pot is the safer choice, then by that rationale, it's also safer than deep-throating a cactus or mouth-fucking a rattlesnake. Is someone obligating you to choose between the two? There's not a third option of just not doing either of them? That has baffled me for years, and I still don't understand it. But I've heard it. A lot. As if the legalization of one unhealthy activity obligates us to legalize every single thing that's less lethal than that."

Read more: http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-pro-marijuana-arguments-that-arent-helping_p2/#ixzz2cWsUJsaX

Yes, thank you Cracked!

Cracked.com is SRS BZNS  ITT 

Well, Daily Mail.

[trippinprincezz13]

My ex did something really similar; got engaged not long after the divorce, just a few months after starting to date someone. It didn't work out and it put a ton of stress on the kids, which of course he refused to see.

The parenting class Oregon makes you take when you get a divorce here tells you specifically not to do that and to just give it a couple of years before bringing home a replacement spouse, for the sake of the kids, but of course he thought he was special.

That's probably why 2nd, 3rd, and 4th marriages have a progressively higher divorce rate.

Which of course is what's screwing up the stats to say 50% of all marriages end in divorce.

Funny, because you'd think that most people would come out of a divorce thinking "Boy, I sure don't want to do that again!". Not that every divorce is a trainwreck, but even if it's amicable, it isn't something most people are looking forward to on their wedding day. But no, "Must erase the past! This new person that I have spent a few months with is so much better than my last memories of my ex! This must mean we are destined to be together!" It is easy to get caught up in new feelings and feel like you've found your soul mate. And sure, sometimes it does work out, but usually a few months isn't enough time to get to know someone to the extent you can tell if you will be compatible for life. My boss had a client recently that was on his 2nd or third divorce - and he was about the same age or barely older than me.

Also, apparently RWHN believes that age brings an immunity to making mistakes or getting caught up in the whirlwind of a new romance. No-one over the age of 30 makes mistakes ever! I would think that age would bring the knowledge/wisdom that the early stages of romance produce a huge endorphin rush that may seem like you were meant to be together forever, but that things can change as you get to know someone longer/spend more time around them. And, probably more important, as Nigel mentioned, the effects that bringing "replacement Mommy" into a home so soon can have on the children. But RWHN never really cared about The Children anyway

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Yes, of course, getting engaged now is actually not the same as getting engaged now, because the wedding is in the future, and that means that the engagement is actually in the future too

Makes perfect sense

if you're RWHN.

[Nephew Twiddleton]

My ex did something really similar; got engaged not long after the divorce, just a few months after starting to date someone. It didn't work out and it put a ton of stress on the kids, which of course he refused to see.

The parenting class Oregon makes you take when you get a divorce here tells you specifically not to do that and to just give it a couple of years before bringing home a replacement spouse, for the sake of the kids, but of course he thought he was special.

That's probably why 2nd, 3rd, and 4th marriages have a progressively higher divorce rate.

Which of course is what's screwing up the stats to say 50% of all marriages end in divorce.

Funny, because you'd think that most people would come out of a divorce thinking "Boy, I sure don't want to do that again!". Not that every divorce is a trainwreck, but even if it's amicable, it isn't something most people are looking forward to on their wedding day. But no, "Must erase the past! This new person that I have spent a few months with is so much better than my last memories of my ex! This must mean we are destined to be together!" It is easy to get caught up in new feelings and feel like you've found your soul mate. And sure, sometimes it does work out, but usually a few months isn't enough time to get to know someone to the extent you can tell if you will be compatible for life. My boss had a client recently that was on his 2nd or third divorce - and he was about the same age or barely older than me.

Also, apparently RWHN believes that age brings an immunity to making mistakes or getting caught up in the whirlwind of a new romance. No-one over the age of 30 makes mistakes ever! I would think that age would bring the knowledge/wisdom that the early stages of romance produce a huge endorphin rush that may seem like you were meant to be together forever, but that things can change as you get to know someone longer/spend more time around them. And, probably more important, as Nigel mentioned, the effects that bringing "replacement Mommy" into a home so soon can have on the children. But RWHN never really cared about The Children anyway

Yeah. I would think that having kids would make you even more cautious to do so. What happens if there's a second divorce, and they've gotten attached to her (and stepdad on the other side for that matter, in the even XWHN is doing the same thing).

[AFK]

My grandparents were engaged within 6 weeks and were married until my Grandmother passed away just a few years ago.  Her parents were engaged within 5 weeks and are still going strong. 


When you know, you know.


"We all fall down when we fear love."

[Nephew Twiddleton]

My grandparents were engaged within 6 weeks and were married until my Grandmother passed away just a few years ago.  Her parents were engaged within 5 weeks and are still going strong. 


When you know, you know.


"We all fall down when we fear love."

Well, yeah, that's the sort of shit they did in the good old days. You know when stalking and shit was considered romantic.

[AFK]

Six armed men on scooters busted a Rolex window and started grabbing merchandise in broad daylight. No one did a thing until septuagenarian Ann Timson

charged

the group of young men and started

beating the hell out of them with her purse.

All were arrested

[AFK]

My grandparents were engaged within 6 weeks and were married until my Grandmother passed away just a few years ago.  Her parents were engaged within 5 weeks and are still going strong. 


When you know, you know.


"We all fall down when we fear love."

Well, yeah, that's the sort of shit they did in the good old days.

Yes, back when romance wasn't considered cheesy and cliche.


TE,
Old School Romantic

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

It's not my place to judge and I have nothing against making commitments early on, it's just that it's usually not encouraged very soon after a divorce when there are kids involved because it can be so stressful on them.

[AFK]

Which is why I regularly talk to and check in with my kids.  Daily.  Which is why I am talking to my child development partners.  Why I had my daughter's guidance counselor and teacher regularly check in with her and report back to me.  Why the wedding won't be for another year so my daughter can complete her full upcoming school year.  Why I have the daycare staff keeping tabs on my son and making me aware of any potential stress or developmental impacts.


My job makes awareness and understanding of child development a necessity.  I know all too well what stress can do to a kid.  I know what I am doing. 

[Nephew Twiddleton]

Which is why I regularly talk to and check in with my kids.  Daily.  Which is why I am talking to my child development partners.  Why I had my daughter's guidance counselor and teacher regularly check in with her and report back to me.  Why the wedding won't be for another year so my daughter can complete her full upcoming school year.  Why I have the daycare staff keeping tabs on my son and making me aware of any potential stress or developmental impacts.


My job makes awareness and understanding of child development a necessity.  I know all too well what stress can do to a kid.  I know what I am doing.

WEll, Mazel Tov, then.

[P3nT4gR4m]

My grandparents were engaged within 6 weeks and were married until my Grandmother passed away just a few years ago.  Her parents were engaged within 5 weeks and are still going strong. 

You forget one important detail - none of those people were married to you

[Ben Shapiro]

Anyway, a better use of this thread is to get back to the original spirit of the thread.

I disagree.

A better use of this thread is speculating on which came first, your booze problem or your wife leaving you.

Him being a shitty father.

[Pæs]

A better place for this thread would be the legislator's office.