My ex girlfriend is now a stripper.

[The Good Reverend Roger]

More copypasta, is my bet.

I didn't bother reading it, so someone else can google it.

[DECI4]

Let me ask you a question: Were you two chaste when you were together? If not, did she enjoy the sex? If so, was she shy about being naked in front of you or asking for what she wanted? Did she ever dance semi-suggestively (fully clothed) at a club or bar for fun and catharsis? Enjoy the music and moving her body?

I don't understand why a smart girl, fully clothed, with glasses and a $12-an-hour Paralegal job, drunkenly dancing with her friends to booty-music is respectable but the moment she quits working for the shark, takes off the J. Crew Khakis and shakes her tooshie for a few hundred in a night, she's...got some "secrets" and possibly a flawed character.

Does. Not. Compute.

I already answered many of your  questions in the OP. No she is not shy , she's been a dancer all her life, I realize there is nothing inherently wrong with stripping. And my negative opinion of it is based on: The strippers I've known and the experiences and general culture they have related to me about the lifestyle, my own sporadic experiences at strip clubs and dealing with people who work in the industry (not just dancers) and my ex girlfriends own words about it. To Paraphrase:

"junkies and single mothers" "gross and shady people" "I'm not proud of it"

She has no children, she is not into drugs, and she has never been the overly  materialistic type.  In closing, I feel the way I do because it is completely out of her character to do something out of the blue that she claims to find demeaning, around a bunch of people she doesn't like, in a culture she doesn't feel comfortable in, for a quick buck.

[DECI4]

I'm a little confused as to why you seem to think that stripping is going to result in this girl sucking cock for crack in a Waffle House bathroom somewhere. Was there some indication that the job is leading her towards trouble, or do you just have such a low opinion of her (or of strippers in general) that you assume that will be the case?

Personally, I've known several women who stripped for a few years and then moved on to completely boring, normal lives. Typically as long as "stripper" stays a job without becoming an identity, it's no different than waiting tables or bartending or any other job that's really good money when you're young but doesn't have much in the way of a career path.

As I've explained, I've known a couple of ex-strippers pretty well and without going into explicit details, the job was not a positive thing in their  lives. Got into it young, got addicted to the money, all of a sudden being able to buy whatever you want more or less, hanging out in a culture of leeches, users and abusers.

I'm sorry but you people claiming it is "just like any other job"  are out of your fucking minds.
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[Triple Zero]

So, did you post this at Totse2 too?

[DECI4]

So, did you post this at Totse2 too?

No.

[East Coast Hustle]

You still haven't explained how anyone attractive enough to be a stripper would even give you the time of day, let alone touch your shriveled mutant pecker.

[DECI4]

You still haven't explained how anyone attractive enough to be a stripper would even give you the time of day, let alone touch your shriveled mutant pecker.

It must be my boyish charm and wit.

[navkat]

Let me ask you a question: Were you two chaste when you were together? If not, did she enjoy the sex? If so, was she shy about being naked in front of you or asking for what she wanted? Did she ever dance semi-suggestively (fully clothed) at a club or bar for fun and catharsis? Enjoy the music and moving her body?

I don't understand why a smart girl, fully clothed, with glasses and a $12-an-hour Paralegal job, drunkenly dancing with her friends to booty-music is respectable but the moment she quits working for the shark, takes off the J. Crew Khakis and shakes her tooshie for a few hundred in a night, she's...got some "secrets" and possibly a flawed character.

Does. Not. Compute.

I already answered many of your  questions in the OP. No she is not shy , she's been a dancer all her life, I realize there is nothing inherently wrong with stripping. And my negative opinion of it is based on: The strippers I've known and the experiences and general culture they have related to me about the lifestyle, my own sporadic experiences at strip clubs and dealing with people who work in the industry (not just dancers) and my ex girlfriends own words about it. To Paraphrase:

"junkies and single mothers" "gross and shady people" "I'm not proud of it"

She has no children, she is not into drugs, and she has never been the overly  materialistic type.  In closing, I feel the way I do because it is completely out of her character to do something out of the blue that she claims to find demeaning, around a bunch of people she doesn't like, in a culture she doesn't feel comfortable in, for a quick buck.

Did you just ignore what I said on purpose? Or did you genuinely miss the point? Cause I demonstrated how the introduction of her character is irrelevant and presented you with a perfectly reasonable argument for how you can frame this in the context of her character and still not feel threatened by it and what you essentially responded with was "I already addressed all this in the OP" and proceeded to repeat that the reason you're threatened by it is because it's out-of-character for her.

Your kettle logic is giving me a migraine.

[Luna]

Maybe, just maybe, she was ashamed because the first thing out of your yap the minute she mentioned the place was, "at least you're not a DANCER..."

[DECI4]

Maybe, just maybe, she was ashamed because the first thing out of your yap the minute she mentioned the place was, "at least you're not a DANCER..."

Sure, and later I apologized for that comment. However, she specifically lied about being a dancer there initially and throughout the course of our evening together made up stories about being a waitress there.

[navkat]

But...but...she's so smart and not a junkie!

Go ahead, say it one more time.

[Luna]

Maybe, just maybe, she was ashamed because the first thing out of your yap the minute she mentioned the place was, "at least you're not a DANCER..."

Sure, and later I apologized for that comment. However, she specifically lied about being a dancer there initially and throughout the course of our evening together made up stories about being a waitress there.

Possibly because she figured you'd be a judgmental twat about it.  Which...  Yeah.

[Placid Dingo]

Dance gently with the troll. One two one two. Do not be pulled into their frenzied rhythm. Tickle, do not beat. Smirk, do not grin. Be as the water under the bridge, not the Billy goat above.

[Luna]

Dance gently with the troll. One two one two. Do not be pulled into their frenzied rhythm. Tickle, do not beat. Smirk, do not grin. Be as the water under the bridge, not the Billy goat above.

Yeah, occasionally the temptation to take them out of the idiot box and smack them around gets to me.

[The Rev]

IS THIS GUY FOR REAL? Because if he is, the problem is entirely with him.