Difficult Choices: Get your dick out of that fish, you fish fucker!

[LMNO]

Wait, do you mean Passive like, "I'll let you do anything you want to me," or Passive like, "whatever, I'll just lie here like a squishier RealDoll."?


Because the former can be fun, while the latter can't.

[Adios]

When Mrs. Hawk and I got together we almost killed each other in bed for the first 4 years. Then came her plumbing being removed. Then my meds kicked in. We still occasionally have sex and it is still incredible. But even without the sex we still have a great relationship because we are best friends. I am weird I guess in that just casual sex without some type of emotional content was never very satisfying.

[AFK]

It can be if you are a budding necro.

No Aini!.  I said necro.  

[LMNO]

It's still rape if the corpse doesn't consent.

[P3nT4gR4m]

Not if you carve "surprise" into it 

[Faust]

The worst is the blank stare with no movement at all.
I was once with a woman who did that while I was doing my damndest and said, "Should I be doing something?" like I was changing the oil on my car and she felt guilty for not helping.

ugh! Been with a few chicks like that, no thank you!

Implicit in this choice is the dichotomy between being "good in bed" and being "passive". Do you guys think that's a fair distinction?


Can you be really passive and still be good in bed?

Passive no.
Aloof though can be weirld enjoyable sometimes, but only if she starts it, "come, we're having sex now" and then goes relaxed but that girl was cold and bossy all the time.

[BadBeast]

And passive can be a challenge. It's like saying "What car would you prefer? A crappy looking old Ford, that goes like stink, or a Lambourghini, that wont  go, because the battery is flat.
All it takes is a bit of a push, and you're away!

[Salty]

I dunno. Some people just don't have drive. For example, some people simply do not enjoy giving head. They may do it because they know their partner likes it, but there's a load of difference betweent someone who does it that way and someone who LOVES to give head.

Technique is one thing, eagerness is another.
Some people are just fridgid.

Alty,
dated one. One.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

And passive can be a challenge. It's like saying "What car would you prefer? A crappy looking old Ford, that goes like stink, or a Lambourghini, that wont  go, because the battery is flat.
All it takes is a bit of a push, and you're away!

I've found that people who are bad in bed don't change. It's like a bad kisser; they could learn, in theory, but in practice I've yet to be able to retrain one. It's because they're doing what turns THEM on. Better to find someone you're compatible with from the start.

Also, at my age, if the reason they're not good is "inexperience" then I really want nothing to do with them.

[Jasper]

It would have been a hard choice if the options were either an unbelievably sexy person that didn't really do much, or a person that, although quite hard to look at, could do incredible things to you in bed.

[Cramulus]

yeah, at 29 to 2, this was hardly a "difficult choice"

[Jasper]

On the plus side, this means I'M the weird one around here!

[Freeky]

Lol, this thread. I feel inspired all of a sudden.

[eighteen buddha strike]

I dated a girl who would answer the phone during sex.
That relationship didn't last very long.

[Jasper]

I could see that not bothering me much, as long as she didn't stop, or use my minutes up.