i feel like i'm coming across as a bigoted asshole. i have no problem being a feminist. all i'm trying to say is that i can't derive my male identity from the movement because i'm only an ally to it. that means it's female-centric and it should be. yes, it deals with females and males, but not the totality of what it means to be male. and as GARBO pointed out, it is silly to derive my identity from it. well then where else should i look to find a space to express and discover a good positive male identity?
i've heard of white anti-racist spaces and i hear they're successful. of course they don't organize without input from the people of color community and a solid understanding of racism. but it's a place to go to if you're white to learn from other whites on how you're probably racist, how that feels to you as a white person, and how not to be such an ass.
i've heard of white anti-racist spaces and i hear they're successful. of course they don't organize without input from the people of color community and a solid understanding of racism. but it's a place to go to if you're white to learn from other whites on how you're probably racist, how that feels to you as a white person, and how not to be such an ass.