OK Cupid: Round IVXXXIX

[Roly Poly Oly-Garch]

It's still a spade, I'm still well within my rights to call it a spade.

Which is, as I read it, what he was doing as well. He's not wrong, doesn't necessarily imply that you are. It's a half-assed sewer that only one person at a time can shit into.

He is wrong, and I can pinpoint the exact moment he went wrong.

What's happening in his relationship is between himself and his wife.

Where he became incontrovertibly wrong, though, is when he took it upon himself to contact a woman who HAS MADE IT CLEAR SHE IS NOT INTERESTED, and tried to shame her into changing her profile to make it more palatable to him.

Since when is it wrong to troll somebody, when you think they're being an asshole?

[Roly Poly Oly-Garch]

It's still a spade, I'm still well within my rights to call it a spade.

Which is, as I read it, what he was doing as well. He's not wrong, doesn't necessarily imply that you are. It's a half-assed sewer that only one person at a time can shit into.

But he said he doesn't think cheating is a word that should be applied to marriages 

THAT...was bullshit. Yes.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

It's still a spade, I'm still well within my rights to call it a spade.

Which is, as I read it, what he was doing as well. He's not wrong, doesn't necessarily imply that you are. It's a half-assed sewer that only one person at a time can shit into.

He is wrong, and I can pinpoint the exact moment he went wrong.

What's happening in his relationship is between himself and his wife.

Where he became incontrovertibly wrong, though, is when he took it upon himself to contact a woman who HAS MADE IT CLEAR SHE IS NOT INTERESTED, and tried to shame her into changing her profile to make it more palatable to him.

Since when is it wrong to troll somebody, when you think they're being an asshole?

Huh... I guess that entitled assholes dumping on women because they don't like not having an invitation to ass is a bit lower than what I usually think of as "trolling".

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

I guess by that definition, every opinionated mouthbreather and entitled corporate prick in America is "trolling". I might have to give it up, I'd rather be in better company.

[Roly Poly Oly-Garch]

It's still a spade, I'm still well within my rights to call it a spade.

Which is, as I read it, what he was doing as well. He's not wrong, doesn't necessarily imply that you are. It's a half-assed sewer that only one person at a time can shit into.

He is wrong, and I can pinpoint the exact moment he went wrong.

What's happening in his relationship is between himself and his wife.

Where he became incontrovertibly wrong, though, is when he took it upon himself to contact a woman who HAS MADE IT CLEAR SHE IS NOT INTERESTED, and tried to shame her into changing her profile to make it more palatable to him.

Since when is it wrong to troll somebody, when you think they're being an asshole?

Huh... I guess that entitled assholes dumping on women because they don't like not having an invitation to ass is a bit lower than what I usually think of as "trolling".

He was pointing out the level of assumption that that first line seemed to be drenched in. "Entitled asshole dumping on a woman because he doesn't have an invitation to ass" is even more drenched in assumption.

On OKC whenever I read some variation of "Be literate. That means no 'OMG' or 'LOL'," I'm likely as not going to call that out...nothing to do with ass availability, though I wouldn't be surprised in the slightest that people assumed otherwise.

[Cain]

Strangely enough, I was considering starting up a new OKCupid profile the other day.

Not until my essays are over (so, Christmas), but maybe after that...

THE LOVE DOCTOR IS IN.

Go ahead and set me up.

I may as well start now - no doubt I'll have down time between writing pages.

[Doktor Howl]

Strangely enough, I was considering starting up a new OKCupid profile the other day.

Not until my essays are over (so, Christmas), but maybe after that...

THE LOVE DOCTOR IS IN.

Go ahead and set me up.

I may as well start now - no doubt I'll have down time between writing pages.

Can you shoot me the blank template?  I'm at work and today's flags apparently include OKC.  Or I can just get it tonight.

[Cain]

Sure.  Give me a few minutes, as I need to setup a new profile (ie come up with a decent username and find an unused email account).

[Cain]

OK, here it is:

My Self-Summary
What I'm Doing With My Life
I'm Really Good At...
Favourite stuff
The Six Things I Could Never Do Without
I Spend A Lot of Time Thinking About...
On a typical Friday night I am...
You Should Message Me If...

[Doktor Howl]

OK, here it is:

My Self-Summary
What I'm Doing With My Life
I'm Really Good At...
Favourite stuff
The Six Things I Could Never Do Without
I Spend A Lot of Time Thinking About...
On a typical Friday night I am...
You Should Message Me If...

Oki doke.  Gimme until the end of the day.  Unexpectedly busy here.

[Cain]

Sure, not a problem.  Whenever you have the time.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

It's still a spade, I'm still well within my rights to call it a spade.

Which is, as I read it, what he was doing as well. He's not wrong, doesn't necessarily imply that you are. It's a half-assed sewer that only one person at a time can shit into.

He is wrong, and I can pinpoint the exact moment he went wrong.

What's happening in his relationship is between himself and his wife.

Where he became incontrovertibly wrong, though, is when he took it upon himself to contact a woman who HAS MADE IT CLEAR SHE IS NOT INTERESTED, and tried to shame her into changing her profile to make it more palatable to him.

Since when is it wrong to troll somebody, when you think they're being an asshole?

Huh... I guess that entitled assholes dumping on women because they don't like not having an invitation to ass is a bit lower than what I usually think of as "trolling".

He was pointing out the level of assumption that that first line seemed to be drenched in. "Entitled asshole dumping on a woman because he doesn't have an invitation to ass" is even more drenched in assumption.

On OKC whenever I read some variation of "Be literate. That means no 'OMG' or 'LOL'," I'm likely as not going to call that out...nothing to do with ass availability, though I wouldn't be surprised in the slightest that people assumed otherwise.

Dude, messaging someone on a dating site because you don't like their profile is a creeper move. Don't.

[Doktor Howl]

It's still a spade, I'm still well within my rights to call it a spade.

Which is, as I read it, what he was doing as well. He's not wrong, doesn't necessarily imply that you are. It's a half-assed sewer that only one person at a time can shit into.

He is wrong, and I can pinpoint the exact moment he went wrong.

What's happening in his relationship is between himself and his wife.

Where he became incontrovertibly wrong, though, is when he took it upon himself to contact a woman who HAS MADE IT CLEAR SHE IS NOT INTERESTED, and tried to shame her into changing her profile to make it more palatable to him.

Since when is it wrong to troll somebody, when you think they're being an asshole?

Huh... I guess that entitled assholes dumping on women because they don't like not having an invitation to ass is a bit lower than what I usually think of as "trolling".

He was pointing out the level of assumption that that first line seemed to be drenched in. "Entitled asshole dumping on a woman because he doesn't have an invitation to ass" is even more drenched in assumption.

On OKC whenever I read some variation of "Be literate. That means no 'OMG' or 'LOL'," I'm likely as not going to call that out...nothing to do with ass availability, though I wouldn't be surprised in the slightest that people assumed otherwise.

Dude, messaging someone on a dating site because you don't like their profile is a creeper move. Don't.

I love all profiles and I want them to love me.   

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Here is the thing. People get to decide what they find acceptable or unacceptable around their genitals. YOU don't get to decide. THEY get to decide.

That means that if they can't stand LOL or OMG, or if they can't tolerate poor dental hygiene, or they hate beards with a raging passion, or if they judge people who leave the house wearing sweatpants, or people who voted for Obama, or people who can't use punctuation correctly, or dyslexics, they don't have to be nice about it on their profiles. If that's the thing that's a dealbreaker for them when it comes to who gets to touch their junk, that's for THEM to decide. Don't like it? Move on. Don't fucking harass people because you don't like the way they communicate their standards for who they'd like to fuck.

Seriously, I can't believe I even have to say this.

[Doktor Howl]

Here is the thing. People get to decide what they find acceptable or unacceptable around their genitals. YOU don't get to decide. THEY get to decide.

That means that if they can't stand LOL or OMG, or if they can't tolerate poor dental hygiene, or they hate beards with a raging passion, or if they judge people who leave the house wearing sweatpants, or people who voted for Obama, or people who can't use punctuation correctly, or dyslexics, they don't have to be nice about it on their profiles. If that's the thing that's a dealbreaker for them when it comes to who gets to touch their junk, that's for THEM to decide. Don't like it? Move on. Don't fucking harass people because you don't like the way they communicate their standards for who they'd like to fuck.

Seriously, I can't believe I even have to say this.

If this was directed at my response, I agree.  I just want to share the inside of my head with total strangers.

If it was directed at NoLeDeMiel, then I'll just back on up for a moment.