Renamed: GOD. DAMN. IT.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Anyway, I'm going to print this out and give it to my ex, because he's a dumbfuck and this is some brilliant denouncing from total strangers. 

I'd advise against that, Freeky.

Well, I'm still going to see if they have emergency evidence adding.

If he has til the day of the trial, so do you.  If I were you, I'd call the clerk and ask how you go about adding evidence, paperwork wise.

This, absolutely.

And when the denouncing comes, it needs to be from the judge. Which will totally happen.

DO NOT give this to your ex, however satisfying it might feel to go "SEE? OTHER PEOPLE THINK YOU'RE WRONG!". It would just be inflammatory.

[Freeky]

Right, right.  Also, using the state bar's lawyer referral thingy and getting in touch with a lawyer.  A (hopefully pro bono) lawyer is what I need at this point, nobody else can give me the advice I need.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Right, right.  Also, using the state bar's lawyer referral thingy and getting in touch with a lawyer.  A (hopefully pro bono) lawyer is what I need at this point, nobody else can give me the advice I need.

Yes, you need to do this, and in fact you should call them right now.

[Freeky]

Right, right.  Also, using the state bar's lawyer referral thingy and getting in touch with a lawyer.  A (hopefully pro bono) lawyer is what I need at this point, nobody else can give me the advice I need.

Yes, you need to do this, and in fact you should call them right now.

I already did. 

[Doktor Howl]

Anyway, I'm going to print this out and give it to my ex, because he's a dumbfuck and this is some brilliant denouncing from total strangers. 

I'd advise against that, Freeky.

Well, I'm still going to see if they have emergency evidence adding.

If he has til the day of the trial, so do you.  If I were you, I'd call the clerk and ask how you go about adding evidence, paperwork wise.

This, absolutely.

And when the denouncing comes, it needs to be from the judge. Which will totally happen.

DO NOT give this to your ex, however satisfying it might feel to go "SEE? OTHER PEOPLE THINK YOU'RE WRONG!". It would just be inflammatory.

And a grave tactical error.  No need to announce your intentions to the opposition.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Right, right.  Also, using the state bar's lawyer referral thingy and getting in touch with a lawyer.  A (hopefully pro bono) lawyer is what I need at this point, nobody else can give me the advice I need.

Yes, you need to do this, and in fact you should call them right now.

I already did. 

YAY! 

[Freeky]

Anyway, I'm going to print this out and give it to my ex, because he's a dumbfuck and this is some brilliant denouncing from total strangers. 

I'd advise against that, Freeky.

Well, I'm still going to see if they have emergency evidence adding.

If he has til the day of the trial, so do you.  If I were you, I'd call the clerk and ask how you go about adding evidence, paperwork wise.

This, absolutely.

And when the denouncing comes, it needs to be from the judge. Which will totally happen.

DO NOT give this to your ex, however satisfying it might feel to go "SEE? OTHER PEOPLE THINK YOU'RE WRONG!". It would just be inflammatory.

And a grave tactical error.  No need to announce your intentions to the opposition.

Yeah, I need to stop doing that.  He's completely oblivious, and needs his hand being held at every step.

[Doktor Howl]

Anyway, I'm going to print this out and give it to my ex, because he's a dumbfuck and this is some brilliant denouncing from total strangers. 

I'd advise against that, Freeky.

Well, I'm still going to see if they have emergency evidence adding.

If he has til the day of the trial, so do you.  If I were you, I'd call the clerk and ask how you go about adding evidence, paperwork wise.

This, absolutely.

And when the denouncing comes, it needs to be from the judge. Which will totally happen.

DO NOT give this to your ex, however satisfying it might feel to go "SEE? OTHER PEOPLE THINK YOU'RE WRONG!". It would just be inflammatory.

And a grave tactical error.  No need to announce your intentions to the opposition.

Yeah, I need to stop doing that.  He's completely oblivious, and needs his hand being held at every step.

To hell with that.  You keep up your end.  You WANT him to fall on his face.

[Freeky]

That's precisely what I'm trying to do. Let him fall on his face, I mean.  We'll see how things go.

[navkat]

Anyway, I'm going to print this out and give it to my ex, because he's a dumbfuck and this is some brilliant denouncing from total strangers. 

I'd advise against that, Freeky.

Well, I'm still going to see if they have emergency evidence adding.


Also, Navkat, I have told her before that she isn't the mom, and she doesn't have any right to be telling either of us what to be doing.  Her response to that was that she is a part of Monkey's life and she wants to put him on the right track (?!) and she watches him when he's over at his daddy's house so she is in a position where she has every right to make decisions.  You put it way more clearly than I could, though.

Yes, that's just what I'm addressing: no more watching him alone for any length of time. If Monkey's at daddy's house, daddy needs to be there, making the decisions. Daddy should not be at the bar while Monkey's at home with Ladyfriend or at work or anything else. During the workday, Monkey should be at daycare or the sitter you've chosen. During visits, daddy should be visiting with Monkey. Exceptions are: "I had to run to the corner store for a minute and didn't want to get him all bundled up when Ladyfriend was already here" and "There was a bona fide emergency and I needed to rely on the other adult in the house."

Also: giving a judge your PD.com details and entering this forum into evidence means Daddy will be given a copy too...which means you'd better watch what you say around here because he'll be watching you. So will Ladyfriend...like a fucking HAWK.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

I don't think she was going to give the judge anything regarding PD.com; she was going to submit the fact that they gave Monkey a medication containing aspirin. Without consulting her.

[Freeky]

That.


Nav, we have joint legal custody, so he has the right to leave him with whoever he chooses if I agree.  I think significant others default to I agree, (talking out my ass here), until I have a good fucking reason to object. 

Currently legal decision making power is 50/50, but I'm going to try and use this for 60/40 at least, preferably 75/25 or more in my favor.

[Freeky]

Ex just told me Monkey is still sick, and they're at the hospital.  If those assholes fucked my kid up, I'll never forgive them.

[Mesozoic Mister Nigel]

Ex just told me Monkey is still sick, and they're at the hospital.  If those assholes fucked my kid up, I'll never forgive them.

Oh my god. I'm sorry, I hope he gets better soon!

[Freeky]

Just tried to talk to the doctor who treated him, and she couldn't tell me antyhing because it was over the phone and she can't assume I have legal custody.  She has to talk to mgr and call me back.


If the cocksucker had just let me talk to her while he was still there, it wouldn't be a problem.