This morning, my little guy and I were wrestling around, and his head fell on my teeth (he fell over on me playfully, that's how). My front tooth still hurts, and I can't drink my soda without it hurting. :/ and no dentistry for Mistress Freeky, as she already owes the dentist mucho moneys for getting three teeth pulled.
Edit: Sorry about so many posts...
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on November 30, 2009, 10:00:58 PM
This morning, my little guy and I were wrestling around, and his head fell on my teeth (he fell over on me playfully, that's how). My front tooth still hurts, and I can't drink my soda without it hurting. :/ and no dentistry for Mistress Freeky, as she already owes the dentist mucho moneys for getting three teeth pulled.
Go to a different dentist.
You need to get on Medicaid or something, girl. With all this stuff happening to you it's necessary to be a bit more proactive.
Two mirrors
Superglue
Fixed light
You know what to do.
Ouch.
And 2nd'ing what Suu said. If it's workable, it's a good thing to have with a little one around.
I have to let my horrible side out and say "Do not apply Baaby directly to head."
Quote from: Richter on November 30, 2009, 10:29:53 PM
"Do not apply Baaby directly to head."
:lulz: :lulz: :lulz:
Duly noted for future reference.
I believe it's spelled "babby".
Noted.
STILL not to be taken orally.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on November 30, 2009, 10:00:58 PM
This morning, my little guy and I were wrestling around, and his head fell on my teeth (he fell over on me playfully, that's how). My front tooth still hurts, and I can't drink my soda without it hurting. :/ and no dentistry for Mistress Freeky, as she already owes the dentist mucho moneys for getting three teeth pulled.
Edit: Sorry about so many posts...
Ooooh, I have a terrible story for you. You don't want to know this, actually. Come to think to it. I'll just say that when I smiled, you could see the stitches.
Basically, you'd better go to the dentist.
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 01, 2009, 10:59:15 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on November 30, 2009, 10:00:58 PM
This morning, my little guy and I were wrestling around, and his head fell on my teeth (he fell over on me playfully, that's how). My front tooth still hurts, and I can't drink my soda without it hurting. :/ and no dentistry for Mistress Freeky, as she already owes the dentist mucho moneys for getting three teeth pulled.
Edit: Sorry about so many posts...
Ooooh, I have a terrible story for you. You don't want to know this, actually. Come to think to it. I'll just say that when I smiled, you could see the stitches.
Basically, you'd better go to the dentist.
My teeth feel better now. Ooh, ooh, what's your story?
:argh!: :argh!: :argh!: :argh!: :argh!:
BULL
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 01, 2009, 11:15:16 PM
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 01, 2009, 10:59:15 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on November 30, 2009, 10:00:58 PM
This morning, my little guy and I were wrestling around, and his head fell on my teeth (he fell over on me playfully, that's how). My front tooth still hurts, and I can't drink my soda without it hurting. :/ and no dentistry for Mistress Freeky, as she already owes the dentist mucho moneys for getting three teeth pulled.
Edit: Sorry about so many posts...
Ooooh, I have a terrible story for you. You don't want to know this, actually. Come to think to it. I'll just say that when I smiled, you could see the stitches.
Basically, you'd better go to the dentist.
My teeth feel better now. Ooh, ooh, what's your story?
I knocked my right front tooth on the edge of my cereal bowl drinking the milk, and it was incredibly painful and sensitive for a couple of days. Then it was less sensitive and I thought it was better. But then, a swelling formed, way up under my right nostril. Turned out that the whack had traumatised the root enough to kill it, and I had to have that tooth root-canaled. And then I got a bone infection and they had to go in through my gum and clean it out, and I had several delightful black stitches in my gum for a couple of weeks.
You couldn't really see them when I smiled though, that was a lie.
Lol, silly Nigel. The teeth I got pulled could have been root canaled, but it was too expensive. So I got them pulled instead. Now I have two gaping holes on either side of my smile. Hence why I don't often.
In other news, SHITFUCKING COCKSUCKING GHEI! My ex got told I was gonna use child support for rent, and he got pissy (though I was told after that that he can't say jack shit about it.) He tried to talk me out of doing it till February, when he gets his tax returns and he'll give me all that he doesn't use, but A) I doubt he'll get as much as he thinks he will, which means it will all go to a huge charge from his military days, courtesy said ex wife, and what's left after THAT will go to bringing her and their two kids down from CO, and B) that's months away. To top it off, he's threatened to apply for full custody (I have been assured he doesn't have a chance), gave me a sob story about how he's gonna get called for more child support by the state of CO cuz she and the kids are on state help, and also how he's gonna lose the apartment he's in if I do. Talk about a guilt trip from hell.
So I've been busy refilling out this form thingy that I have to take to the courts. Time to burn all my bridges, cuz all the friends we shared are gonna go apeshit, and I won't be welcome around them anymore. That happens frequently, I hear. :x
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 02, 2009, 03:20:52 AM
In other news, SHITFUCKING COCKSUCKING GHEI! My ex got told I was gonna use child support for rent, and he got pissy (though I was told after that that he can't say jack shit about it.)
He can't. Putting a roof over a kid's head is a perfectly legal use of child support in Arizona, as is feeding him, clothing him, and medical care.
I am a little vain about my teeth, even though they are far from perfect. I'm terrified of losing them.
How on earth is it that your ex feels that RENT is not an appropriate use of child support? That's what it's for... making it so you can pay your BILLS. For that matter, you could use it for concert tickets and clothes, as long as you're taking appropriate care of your child, the assumption being that it defrays your expenses. I could cash my ex's child support check and immediately go buy a pair of shoes, assuming I was already spending all of MY money feeding, clothing, and housing the kids. Child support isn't for buying the kid toys, it's for defraying your expenses as the custodial parent. Kids aren't cheap.
People irritate me. That reminds me of my ex, who doesn't understand why I budget $350/year for each child for clothes.
DUH, MOTHERFUCKER. THEY GROW.
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 02, 2009, 04:54:56 AM
I am a little vain about my teeth, even though they are far from perfect. I'm terrified of losing them.
How on earth is it that your ex feels that RENT is not an appropriate use of child support? That's what it's for... making it so you can pay your BILLS. For that matter, you could use it for concert tickets and clothes, as long as you're taking appropriate care of your child, the assumption being that it defrays your expenses. I could cash my ex's child support check and immediately go buy a pair of shoes, assuming I was already spending all of MY money feeding, clothing, and housing the kids. Child support isn't for buying the kid toys, it's for defraying your expenses as the custodial parent. Kids aren't cheap.
People irritate me. That reminds me of my ex, who doesn't understand why I budget $350/year for each child for clothes.
DUH, MOTHERFUCKER. THEY GROW.
He didn't understand how I'd gone through 200 dollars already, since the 20th. Since it's my sole income, and I had to get the little monkey winter clothes (I only managed to find one sweater and one pair of pants at target, that's retarded, so I have to make a LIST and give it to him before the fifth), and food, and a blanket for over here, cuz he's the security blanket type of kid.
Him: So before you were like, I don't know how I'd go through it all in a month!
Me: Well, apparently, I was underestimating how much food costs and such. And stephen needs clothes still, for winter.
Him: (irritated sigh) Make me a list.
I feel a bit irritated that I can't go buy the shit myself.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 02, 2009, 05:06:54 AM
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 02, 2009, 04:54:56 AM
I am a little vain about my teeth, even though they are far from perfect. I'm terrified of losing them.
How on earth is it that your ex feels that RENT is not an appropriate use of child support? That's what it's for... making it so you can pay your BILLS. For that matter, you could use it for concert tickets and clothes, as long as you're taking appropriate care of your child, the assumption being that it defrays your expenses. I could cash my ex's child support check and immediately go buy a pair of shoes, assuming I was already spending all of MY money feeding, clothing, and housing the kids. Child support isn't for buying the kid toys, it's for defraying your expenses as the custodial parent. Kids aren't cheap.
People irritate me. That reminds me of my ex, who doesn't understand why I budget $350/year for each child for clothes.
DUH, MOTHERFUCKER. THEY GROW.
He didn't understand how I'd gone through 200 dollars already, since the 20th. Since it's my sole income, and I had to get the little monkey winter clothes (I only managed to find one sweater and one pair of pants at target, that's retarded, so I have to make a LIST and give it to him before the fifth), and food, and a blanket for over here, cuz he's the security blanket type of kid.
Him: So before you were like, I don't know how I'd go through it all in a month!
Me: Well, apparently, I was underestimating how much food costs and such. And stephen needs clothes still, for winter.
Him: (irritated sigh) Make me a list.
I feel a bit irritated that I can't go buy the shit myself.
Wowwwww
Only $200???
And yeah, make him a list because he will never be cranky about your expenses again. I gave a list to my ex once and he spent roughly 5x what I would have on the same stuff, because he has no idea how to shop. He no longer questions my expenses, ever.
Oh yes, and my mom came in and was all like "I don't know why you're going through with (getting child support), cuz you WON'T get that much a month, he DOESN"T have the money for it, and you AREN'T entitled to it." So it's pretty clear how much support she feels for me.
:argh!: I hates the idiot peoples.
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 02, 2009, 05:13:56 AM
And yeah, make him a list because he will never be cranky about your expenses again. I gave a list to my ex once and he spent roughly 5x what I would have on the same stuff, because he has no idea how to shop. He no longer questions my expenses, ever.
Good good, then.
QuoteHow on earth is it that your ex feels that RENT is not an appropriate use of child support?
Answer:
Quotefor buying the kid toys
and whatever else he feels it ought to be used for the little monkey.
Why on earth does your mom think you're not entitled to child support? That's ridiculous. And it doesn't matter if he doesn't earn that much, if you have the kid full-time he needs to contribute, or he needs to agree to 50/50 parenting time so you can use your free days to increase YOUR earning potential.
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 02, 2009, 05:35:59 AM
Why on earth does your mom think you're not entitled to child support? That's ridiculous. And it doesn't matter if he doesn't earn that much, if you have the kid full-time he needs to contribute, or he needs to agree to 50/50 parenting time so you can use your free days to increase YOUR earning potential.
He makes 36k salary, so he DOES have the money. And he can't have a 50/50 parenting schedule for the same reason. It's a security goard company, so they have weird hours outside of the office, and he might be required to go stand a post. Just like this weekend.
The problem is that my dad is stupid (and thinks everyone around him is stupid when he is smart), and my mom doesn't ahve the grasp on reality that she thinks she does (she lives in a perfect little world, all her own), and also thinks my dad knows a lot about everything. They never go do research on anything, they watch the news and believe what they hear or just bitch about how stupid it is, and they don't have friends. Kind of makes things hard for them to make an informed opinion, but they make it all the same. Minus the 'informed'.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 02, 2009, 05:19:06 AM
Oh yes, and my mom came in and was all like "I don't know why you're going through with (getting child support), cuz you WON'T get that much a month, he DOESN"T have the money for it, and you AREN'T entitled to it."
Um, yeah, you should totally listen to her instead of the state of Arizona.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 02, 2009, 04:49:04 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 02, 2009, 05:19:06 AM
Oh yes, and my mom came in and was all like "I don't know why you're going through with (getting child support), cuz you WON'T get that much a month, he DOESN"T have the money for it, and you AREN'T entitled to it."
Um, yeah, you should totally listen to her instead of the state of Arizona.
Obviously, because she knows so much about everything. :roll:
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 02, 2009, 05:35:59 AM
Why on earth does your mom think you're not entitled to child support?
Freeky's mother cannot bear the thought of Freeky doing something right.
The very idea that Freeky might NOT fail at something gives her mother absolute fits.
Since the schmuck already has 2 kids and an ex-wife in Colorado living off of benefits, he sounds like a real piece of work. I say just let him default on child support, put him in jail, and then make the state give you money.
Also, if it wasn't for caller ID, I'd totally ask to call your mom and pretend to be someone from the state.
This is piss.
You're entitled to whatever it takes to raise your child to be healthy and happy.
Kids are DAMNED EXPENSIVE and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Anyone who thinks it's easy for a woman to raise a child on her own with no financial responsibility from the father is fucking loony. (I know all about it)
If he didn't want the responsibility then he shouldn't have gone to bed with you.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 02, 2009, 05:08:01 PM
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 02, 2009, 05:35:59 AM
Why on earth does your mom think you're not entitled to child support?
Freeky's mother cannot bear the thought of Freeky doing something right.
The very idea that Freeky might NOT fail at something gives her mother absolute fits.
Haha! I had a dad like that. Then I succeeded. Now he just gets this bemused look on his face when I tell him how things are, like his whole view of reality turned upside down again.
Used to be kinda annoying, now he's kinda cute. On the plus side - finding out your parents are idiots and everything they've ever told you is complete bullshit is kinda liberating and made my teenage years so much fun.
Quote from: Suu on December 02, 2009, 05:11:26 PM
Since the schmuck already has 2 kids and an ex-wife in Colorado living off of benefits, he sounds like a real piece of work. I say just let him default on child support, put him in jail, and then make the state give you money.
I disagre with this statement. She left him, after cheating on him while he was stationed overseas, used all the money he got from his paychecks on meth and other drugs, and took off with the kids and didn't let him see them for two years. I will not disagree that he's a piece of work, though, and I think they deserve each other, I just needed to be fair.
And if you did call that would be hysterical. We don't have caller ID on the house phone.
Quote from: Squid on December 02, 2009, 05:16:52 PM
If he didn't want the responsibility then he shouldn't have gone to bed with you.
Or made me get an abortion.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 02, 2009, 07:59:03 PM
Or made me get an abortion.
Say what? And your say in the matter was...?
Quote from: LMNO on December 02, 2009, 08:17:42 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 02, 2009, 07:59:03 PM
Or made me get an abortion.
Say what? And your say in the matter was...?
My say was the determining factor. He thinks that it's the woman's right to decide, and so I did. He's not a complete jackass bastard, he's just really self-absorbed.
I guess I'm not understanding the "made me" bit.
Do you mean he refused to support the child, in light of which it made more sense to abort?
In response to Squid saying he shouldn't have gone to bed with me if he didn't want a kid, that was an alternative, cuz damned if I didn't want to get laid by the time we got together.
I knew it. It was only a matter of time, I thought, until they brought out their favorite threat against me.
Last night, just before my monkey was supposed to be going to bed, my mom started bitching at me about the usual stuff: the house is a mess, I'm not taking care of my monkey, etc etc. I started picking up, because I just wanted her to shut her face as I was not having a good day. But she kept going. So finally I said angrily, "Just leave me alone!" and she got pissed. "Maybe a night on the STREET! With your SON! Might teach you a little respect!" and so on. And then she tried to pick up munchkin, which I really didn't appreciate as she had just threatened to kick him out and put him on the street in freezing weather. So I took him back, and she was like, "Oh so I can't even hold him now?"
I'd like a suggestion or two on how to tell my mom that this is bullshit and not okay in the least to do. It's not like she didn't keep telling me that I would always be welcome here while I was with my ex, because she did.
Personally? Uppercut to the jaw, followed by a knee in her stomach and an elbow to the back of her head. And that's just for starters.
She just threatened to put you and your kid onto the street. Because you didn't respect her "authority" enough. Words cannot describe how abhorrent I find that.
When people use children as a tool to hurt others it makes me want to put my boot through their skull.
I mean how fucking low do you have to be to threaten to put a child on the street?
Especially your grandchild.
That's just disgusting.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 06, 2009, 04:50:56 PM
I knew it. It was only a matter of time, I thought, until they brought out their favorite threat against me.
Last night, just before my monkey was supposed to be going to bed, my mom started bitching at me about the usual stuff: the house is a mess, I'm not taking care of my monkey, etc etc. I started picking up, because I just wanted her to shut her face as I was not having a good day. But she kept going. So finally I said angrily, "Just leave me alone!" and she got pissed. "Maybe a night on the STREET! With your SON! Might teach you a little respect!" and so on. And then she tried to pick up munchkin, which I really didn't appreciate as she had just threatened to kick him out and put him on the street in freezing weather. So I took him back, and she was like, "Oh so I can't even hold him now?"
I'd like a suggestion or two on how to tell my mom that this is bullshit and not okay in the least to do. It's not like she didn't keep telling me that I would always be welcome here while I was with my ex, because she did.
what Cain said.
You cannot do anything about this person but keep them from fucking up your children. Emotionally manipulative, selfish, and greedy people like that should be shot into the sun.
Quote from: Alty on December 06, 2009, 06:27:53 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 06, 2009, 04:50:56 PM
I knew it. It was only a matter of time, I thought, until they brought out their favorite threat against me.
Last night, just before my monkey was supposed to be going to bed, my mom started bitching at me about the usual stuff: the house is a mess, I'm not taking care of my monkey, etc etc. I started picking up, because I just wanted her to shut her face as I was not having a good day. But she kept going. So finally I said angrily, "Just leave me alone!" and she got pissed. "Maybe a night on the STREET! With your SON! Might teach you a little respect!" and so on. And then she tried to pick up munchkin, which I really didn't appreciate as she had just threatened to kick him out and put him on the street in freezing weather. So I took him back, and she was like, "Oh so I can't even hold him now?"
I'd like a suggestion or two on how to tell my mom that this is bullshit and not okay in the least to do. It's not like she didn't keep telling me that I would always be welcome here while I was with my ex, because she did.
what Cain said.
You cannot do anything about this person but keep them from fucking up your children. Emotionally manipulative, selfish, and greedy people like that should be shot into the sun.
Agreed, and what Squid said too. I was looking into a shelter for families, but a friend of mine said that it would be hard for me cuz I wouldn't have a sitter and wouldn't be able to tell people where I live. So maybe I'll have to hold off on that until I get a car.
Honey.
Goddamnit. This kind of shit pisses me off. Your mom is abusive, and from her comments about you getting child support indicate that she's a control freak who doesn't want you to obtain any measure of independence. She's tearing you down and discouraging you like that in order to try to keep you under her control.
Your mission, as I see it, is to quietly do everything you can do to get out from under her control. Filing for child support is a good first step. The next step is getting on public assistance... however abhorrent you might find that idea, it will give you tremendous leverage for the step after that, which is finding an apartment and going to school full-time. That's a challenge because of childcare, I know, but many universities have on-site childcare that is subsidized. Because of your situation as a single mother, it's likely that you will be able to get enough assistance while you're in school that you won't have to get a job. As a woman, I would highly recommend you go into the hard sciences, because once you have your undergrad degree, if your GPA is reasonably high, you can get everything else paid for, plus a small annual stipend. Between public assistance and a stipend, when you're done you could have a doctorate and owe less than $20,000 in student loans, which is nothing in the world of student loans.
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 06, 2009, 06:47:03 PM
Honey.
Goddamnit. This kind of shit pisses me off. Your mom is abusive, and from her comments about you getting child support indicate that she's a control freak who doesn't want you to obtain any measure of independence. She's tearing you down and discouraging you like that in order to try to keep you under her control.
Your mission, as I see it, is to quietly do everything you can do to get out from under her control. Filing for child support is a good first step. The next step is getting on public assistance... however abhorrent you might find that idea, it will give you tremendous leverage for the step after that, which is finding an apartment and going to school full-time. That's a challenge because of childcare, I know, but many universities have on-site childcare that is subsidized. Because of your situation as a single mother, it's likely that you will be able to get enough assistance while you're in school that you won't have to get a job. As a woman, I would highly recommend you go into the hard sciences, because once you have your undergrad degree, if your GPA is reasonably high, you can get everything else paid for, plus a small annual stipend. Between public assistance and a stipend, when you're done you could have a doctorate and owe less than $20,000 in student loans, which is nothing in the world of student loans.
II'm thinking you're right. However, I just don't know how to go about doing it, especially with going to school full-time. Should I get a job too? Roomates? I only know one person I would trust implicitly as a roomie, and she's a stripper with an infant, and HER ex is a serial douchebag, a bad person on all accounts and not just from a relationship standpoint. As I said, I looked into a shelter, but she advised me against it.
As for school money, I recently found out my grandpa took out a policy that could be exchanged for money years ago, for 20k, and it's matured. I had asked that I use ot for a car instead, but perhaps I overlooked the possibilities...
First things first. Most important is that you start with child support. That's your first step. Meanwhile, go to whatever the public assistance office is called in your state, and talk to them, not just about assistance but also about housing and education. Do not hesitate to mention that your current living situation is abusive. Seriously; that might sound extreme to you, but they will work to find you alternatives if they know. There may be subsidized housing in your area. If not, that's OK: get what you can in assistance, and between that and child support, it will give you a fair amount of independence.
You have $20k available for school, that's great! Use it for school. That includes using part of it to buy a car to get you to and from school: I recommend a used Volvo, because they're reliable. Don't spend more than $4k on a car, and that much only if you're buying it from a dealer. IF you can find a place to live near the college, skip the car.
Go to your local state university and talk to a counselor about your options. They may have resources, including housing and childcare resources, that you can't find out about unless you talk to them.
Your stripper friend might be an ideal housemate for you, but you might not need to have a housemate. Ideally, at the age your child is, you will be able to go to school full-time and not have to get a job.
I've been trying to figure out the particulars of applying for child support, the current one being do I have to send the fee in with my application, and where does it go, and do I need legal custody first. My friend is going though a pro-bono legal assistance firm, and says that I do need custody first. And for the rest, okie doke, I can do some of that today even.
Good advice, thanks much. :)
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 06, 2009, 07:34:14 PM
I've been trying to figure out the particulars of applying for child support, the current one being do I have to send the fee in with my application, and where does it go, and do I need legal custody first. My friend is going though a pro-bono legal assistance firm, and says that I do need custody first. And for the rest, okie doke, I can do some of that today even.
Good advice, thanks much. :)
What state do you live in? I can help you figure this out.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 06, 2009, 04:50:56 PM
"Maybe a night on the STREET! With your SON! Might teach you a little respect!"
Wow.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 06, 2009, 04:50:56 PM
"Oh so I can't even hold him now?"
I wouldn't allow it, if I were you. This is the child she wanted to punish with a night outdoors to teach you a lesson.
Regardless of what state you live in, call or go to the courthouse. They will have someone there who can walk you through the steps to getting child support. It should not cost you anything, regardless of what state you live in. I wish you lived in Oregon, because I could be way more helpful.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 06, 2009, 08:47:41 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 06, 2009, 04:50:56 PM
"Maybe a night on the STREET! With your SON! Might teach you a little respect!"
Wow.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 06, 2009, 04:50:56 PM
"Oh so I can't even hold him now?"
I wouldn't allow it, if I were you. This is the child she wanted to punish with a night outdoors to teach you a lesson.
Well, I'm going to have to play by her rules tomorrow, and guilt her into watching my monkey so I can borrow the truck and go do errands, otherwise that was actually one option I had thought of. I'm gonna have to plan the speech, though, cuz I know I'll forget something and leave it out, or totally muck it up.
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 06, 2009, 09:02:16 PM
Regardless of what state you live in, call or go to the courthouse. They will have someone there who can walk you through the steps to getting child support. It should not cost you anything, regardless of what state you live in. I wish you lived in Oregon, because I could be way more helpful.
I'm down here in Tucson with TGRR. I'll give them a call tomorrow.
This is the worst day of interraction with the ex yet.
He told me that he went and asked a couple of friends to babysit on Mondays, Turesdays, and Wednesdays, and I'd get him the rest of the week. He then told me that he'd be paying THEM THE TWO HUNDRED FUCKING DOLLARS I NEED TO FUCKING FEED MY GODDAMN SON AND CLOTHES HIM AND DO WHATEVER THE FUCK ELSE I CAN WHICH ISNT MUCH CONSIDERING IM ONLY GETTING 200 A MONTH!
So inside I'm fuming, but I don't let on. All I do is be like :| "No."
So he's like " :crankey: Well then I'm going to apply for full child custody, cuz we agreed to 50/50, and that means everything! AZ state law says 30 days is plenty of time to find a job, and that's how long you've had! I'm not gonna keep paying for everything, and you sprung it on me at the beginning of the month (that list I gave him), and if I had gotten the clothes and the car seat that alone would have cost me two hundred bucks! I got my other two boys who need sneakers and shit too!"
And I, who are not so good at the wording when I'm angry, (can you tell?) don't say anything, just stand there like :|
Inside I'm like, "You have a responsibility for him too!" and "You bastard, you think that 200 bucks once a month is going to be enough?!" and "So by this I'm guessing that you are not going to fork over the money you owe me."
He says that there's a guard class on the 16th, which I'm going to have go to, as it is a guaranteed job, even though it's gonna totally suck because I'm not a night person, and my mom isn't gonna let me sleep as long as I need to during the day, and a whole lot of other crap that's gonna put more strain. And he's like, at the end of the conversation, "and when you've saved up enough, you can have himi back. It's either that or you MOVE BACK IN."
And then I go inside and I tell my parents they have to fork over the money to pay for the guard card, (which they can do, but she couldn't put up for me to apply at the courts for child support and custody, so I had to go pro bono and I have to wait 4-6 weeks now just to fill out the paperwork), and they're like, "sure, we can help you with that, and we can help watch [the monkey] but not all day every day, and blah blah blah I'm a dirty whore."
And then we got in a fight cuz if I don't have a babysitter or enough sleep I'm gonna giet fired I know.
I could cry right now, I really could.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 08, 2009, 02:13:58 AM
This is the worst day of interraction with the ex yet.
He told me that he went and asked a couple of friends to babysit on Mondays, Turesdays, and Wednesdays, and I'd get him the rest of the week. He then told me that he'd be paying THEM THE TWO HUNDRED FUCKING DOLLARS I NEED TO FUCKING FEED MY GODDAMN SON AND CLOTHES HIM AND DO WHATEVER THE FUCK ELSE I CAN WHICH ISNT MUCH CONSIDERING IM ONLY GETTING 200 A MONTH!
So inside I'm fuming, but I don't let on. All I do is be like :| "No."
So he's like " :crankey: Well then I'm going to apply for full child custody, cuz we agreed to 50/50, and that means everything! AZ state law says 30 days is plenty of time to find a job, and that's how long you've had! I'm not gonna keep paying for everything, and you sprung it on me at the beginning of the month (that list I gave him), and if I had gotten the clothes and the car seat that alone would have cost me two hundred bucks! I got my other two boys who need sneakers and shit too!"
And I, who are not so good at the wording when I'm angry, (can you tell?) don't say anything, just stand there like :|
Inside I'm like, "You have a responsibility for him too!" and "You bastard, you think that 200 bucks once a month is going to be enough?!" and "So by this I'm guessing that you are not going to fork over the money you owe me."
He says that there's a guard class on the 16th, which I'm going to have go to, as it is a guaranteed job, even though it's gonna totally suck because I'm not a night person, and my mom isn't gonna let me sleep as long as I need to during the day, and a whole lot of other crap that's gonna put more strain. And he's like, at the end of the conversation, "and when you've saved up enough, you can have himi back. It's either that or you MOVE BACK IN."
And then I go inside and I tell my parents they have to fork over the money to pay for the guard card, (which they can do, but she couldn't put up for me to apply at the courts for child support and custody, so I had to go pro bono and I have to wait 4-6 weeks now just to fill out the paperwork), and they're like, "sure, we can help you with that, and we can help watch [the monkey] but not all day every day, and blah blah blah I'm a dirty whore."
And then we got in a fight cuz if I don't have a babysitter or enough sleep I'm gonna giet fired I know.
I could cry right now, I really could.
Let him apply for custody. Until then, no contact. If he wants to play hardball, let him. Once he applies for custody, fight it on grounds of the ex's drug problems, and then slam him for child support.
And why did you have to go pro bono? It's a form you turn in. There is no need for legal counsel until and unless he fights it.
I went to the court's website. There's all sorts of fees, I didn't know what they were for. Is that for the legal counseling?
And I know he'll fight it, he already told me he didn't want to be paying for the monkey 100%. Which I don't totally blame, but I still think he ought to do his part, and his part is whatever the state tells him it is.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 08, 2009, 02:21:25 AM
I went to the court's website. There's all sorts of fees, I didn't know what they were for. Is that for the legal counseling?
And I know he'll fight it, he already told me he didn't want to be paying for the monkey 100%. Which I don't totally blame, but I still think he ought to do his part, and his part is whatever the state tells him it is.
Call the office's number and ASK what is required.
Wow, you really need to get out from under the people who are holding all the power, Freeky. You can do this, for your child. Moms have this strange store of strength when they know they have to sacrifice for the kids, and they can move mountains even while starving and exhausted.
Time to move some mountains, Girl. Don't let this ex have control over you any longer. And don't let your mom get the best of you either. When she goes off, leave. Leave the house, leave the room. Do whatever you can to NOT give her an audience for the bullshit. She says it because she knows it hurts, and for some anit-maternal bullshit reason, she feels the need to hurt someone who's on a lower plane than her at the moment.
Whatever plans you can make to get the fuck out of there, to get full child support, just do it. Put all your energies there. Nigel and Rog are giving great advice about how to start that process, but leave these fuckers to themselves, and once you start ignoring them but still expecting them to ante up (tell the ex he pays you and that's that, you expect him to comply, tell your mom you need the truck, please, at such and such a time if it's free--don't grovel, don't plead, just state it simply and as if it's going to be done), they will see you as a powerful being in her own right.
Self-confidence doesn't have to be felt to be shown. That's the lovely part about appearances--fake it if you don't feel it, but it's time to stop backing down when you know you're right. Time to keep your baby in your focus at all times knowing that these steps are necessary for HIS well-being.
You can do it.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 08, 2009, 02:27:34 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 08, 2009, 02:21:25 AM
I went to the court's website. There's all sorts of fees, I didn't know what they were for. Is that for the legal counseling?
And I know he'll fight it, he already told me he didn't want to be paying for the monkey 100%. Which I don't totally blame, but I still think he ought to do his part, and his part is whatever the state tells him it is.
Call the office's number and ASK what is required.
Item #! on tomorrow's to do list... Was on today's to do list, but I ended up going to that pro bobo office and after that, stephen was too fussy to even go to the post office to get the address changed for DES crap to get here. I know, excuses excuses...
Mistress Freeky,
Needs a kick in the arse.
Quote from: Jenne on December 08, 2009, 02:39:47 AM
Wow, you really need to get out from under the people who are holding all the power, Freeky. You can do this, for your child. Moms have this strange store of strength when they know they have to sacrifice for the kids, and they can move mountains even while starving and exhausted.
Time to move some mountains, Girl. Don't let this ex have control over you any longer. And don't let your mom get the best of you either. When she goes off, leave. Leave the house, leave the room. Do whatever you can to NOT give her an audience for the bullshit. She says it because she knows it hurts, and for some anit-maternal bullshit reason, she feels the need to hurt someone who's on a lower plane than her at the moment.
Whatever plans you can make to get the fuck out of there, to get full child support, just do it. Put all your energies there. Nigel and Rog are giving great advice about how to start that process, but leave these fuckers to themselves, and once you start ignoring them but still expecting them to ante up (tell the ex he pays you and that's that, you expect him to comply, tell your mom you need the truck, please, at such and such a time if it's free--don't grovel, don't plead, just state it simply and as if it's going to be done), they will see you as a powerful being in her own right.
Self-confidence doesn't have to be felt to be shown. That's the lovely part about appearances--fake it if you don't feel it, but it's time to stop backing down when you know you're right. Time to keep your baby in your focus at all times knowing that these steps are necessary for HIS well-being.
You can do it.
I know. I know all of that, and i know I'm getting closer to actually doing these things too. I nearly did walk out of the room when they began their bullshit, but their bullshit began "There's the door.." and I have no place else right now. Or any way to get there.
And I nearly told the ex off for all his bullshittery, the fact that I said "no" to him at all shows I came a long way from where I used to be, before even TGRR knew me. It all just moves slowly, but I have been taking steps. They're just small, and that will have to do for now, because it will all come together in the end.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 08, 2009, 02:55:55 AM
Quote from: Jenne on December 08, 2009, 02:39:47 AM
Wow, you really need to get out from under the people who are holding all the power, Freeky. You can do this, for your child. Moms have this strange store of strength when they know they have to sacrifice for the kids, and they can move mountains even while starving and exhausted.
Time to move some mountains, Girl. Don't let this ex have control over you any longer. And don't let your mom get the best of you either. When she goes off, leave. Leave the house, leave the room. Do whatever you can to NOT give her an audience for the bullshit. She says it because she knows it hurts, and for some anit-maternal bullshit reason, she feels the need to hurt someone who's on a lower plane than her at the moment.
Whatever plans you can make to get the fuck out of there, to get full child support, just do it. Put all your energies there. Nigel and Rog are giving great advice about how to start that process, but leave these fuckers to themselves, and once you start ignoring them but still expecting them to ante up (tell the ex he pays you and that's that, you expect him to comply, tell your mom you need the truck, please, at such and such a time if it's free--don't grovel, don't plead, just state it simply and as if it's going to be done), they will see you as a powerful being in her own right.
Self-confidence doesn't have to be felt to be shown. That's the lovely part about appearances--fake it if you don't feel it, but it's time to stop backing down when you know you're right. Time to keep your baby in your focus at all times knowing that these steps are necessary for HIS well-being.
You can do it.
I know. I know all of that, and i know I'm getting closer to actually doing these things too. I nearly did walk out of the room when they began their bullshit, but their bullshit began "There's the door.." and I have no place else right now. Or any way to get there.
And I nearly told the ex off for all his bullshittery, the fact that I said "no" to him at all shows I came a long way from where I used to be, before even TGRR knew me. It all just moves slowly, but I have been taking steps. They're just small, and that will have to do for now, because it will all come together in the end.
Good, well, it sounds like you are at least going towards the goal you have set for yourself: independence. Just be as strong as you can when they start flinging the shit. I'm serious--walk out on them. Even if they are threatening to throw you out, walk out. Taking the abuse doesn't mean that you're any safer than if you don't.
True enough. :/
Damn.
Freeky, do me a favor: Get Out of the House. Just go. Take Monkey with you. You are being abused. Just because the bruises don't show doesn't mean it's not assault. Find a shelter. Find a friend's house. Spend the night camping, even. Just show them that they can't keep slapping you around.
So today's agenda sees me going to the child support enforcement office, cuz it'' be quicker than waiting 4-6 weeks, and is only 25 bucks.
I'm debating going to the courts and putting in an application for custoday as well, because when the shit hits the fan the ex is gonna go ballistic and probably not let me see the monkey.
Anyone know if working at the same place he does where he would be my boss is a bad idea?
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 08, 2009, 04:05:17 PM
Anyone know if working at the same place he does where he would be my boss is a bad idea?
YES.
Freeky, there's not a whole lot I can do for you, but just know that I care. Listen to Jenne and Nigel's advice, they are both incredibly strong women that fought their own shares of trouble and it warms my heart that they are trying to help (srsly, that's awesome of you, ladies). And Roger and LMNO and others, of course.
You can do this, Freeky. I get the idea that you sometimes do not think much of yourself, but the situation you're in, the way you're already dealing with all of it RIGHT NOW, tells me otherwise. Big respects.
Quote from: Triple Zero on December 08, 2009, 04:15:58 PM
Freeky, there's not a whole lot I can do for you, but just know that I care. Listen to Jenne and Nigel's advice, they are both incredibly strong women that fought their own shares of trouble and it warms my heart that they are trying to help (srsly, that's awesome of you, ladies). And Roger and LMNO and others, of course.
You can do this, Freeky. I get the idea that you sometimes do not think much of yourself, but the situation you're in, the way you're already dealing with all of it RIGHT NOW, tells me otherwise. Big respects.
Thank you.
And thank you everyone else, too, that's been supportive and gave me advice and stuff.
Quote from: LMNO on December 08, 2009, 04:06:26 PM
YES.
Okay then.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 08, 2009, 04:05:17 PM
So today's agenda sees me going to the child support enforcement office, cuz it'' be quicker than waiting 4-6 weeks, and is only 25 bucks.
I'm debating going to the courts and putting in an application for custoday as well, because when the shit hits the fan the ex is gonna go ballistic and probably not let me see the monkey.
How is he gonna do that? He can't even manage the kid on the weekends he agreed to.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 08, 2009, 04:05:17 PM
Anyone know if working at the same place he does where he would be my boss is a bad idea?
Yes. It's a REALLY bad idea.
Thanks, Trip. And Freeky--there HAS to be other jobs than where he's working. DO NOT let him bully you into taking it just so he won't file for full custody. Not having a job will NOT get the courts to give him the kid. NO. NO and NO and NO.
Remember: the GOAL is INDEPENDENCE. You won't get this by clocking in day in and day out where he does. Fuck no. He'll be able to keep tabs on everyfuckingthing you do from then on out.
Get ALL the info you can. Every bit of it. Surf the net, go to the library, go hang out at the county offices. Find a pro bono family lawyer, do everything YOU can to get free info. Get a gameplan, make lists. Prioritize said lists.
Top of them should be "NO LONGER GIVING EX AND PARENTS POWER OVER ME." Keep it at the top and only cross it off when 1) you are out of your 'rents' house and 2) you have court papers affording you full custody and a child support settlement from the ex.
You can do this. You really can.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 08, 2009, 04:20:23 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 08, 2009, 04:05:17 PM
So today's agenda sees me going to the child support enforcement office, cuz it'' be quicker than waiting 4-6 weeks, and is only 25 bucks.
I'm debating going to the courts and putting in an application for custoday as well, because when the shit hits the fan the ex is gonna go ballistic and probably not let me see the monkey.
How is he gonna do that? He can't even manage the kid on the weekends he agreed to.
Remember what his ex did to him? Took off with the kids for two years, he didn't know if they were alive or dead. That's one of the reasons I believe him, I think he wants to make someone else suffer for what that twat did to him and his kids.
He's already propositioned two friends to take him, and pay them what he ought to give me, just so that I can't say I have him full time. Oh, he might say that it's so I can get a job/work, but that's the upside for him. I don't have him as often, ergo I don't have a valid claim, possibly in his mind. Definitely in mine. And he's MY fucking kid, I don't want to share him if it isn't necessary! :argh!:
@Jenne: Yeah, I hear you. I asked myself and thought about it, and in the end, I decided that it was possibly the worst thing to do, and not just because I am afraid of the dark, and being outside at night, and being alone in the dark outside at night. Which is what the job basically entails. There was also he could control how many hours I get, so if I did something that pissed him off he could cut me off and then call me an unfit mother, financially at least, he can control what days I work, which considering that my mom has point blank refused to watch him all the time he could use this to his advantage, and a whole host of horrible shit could go down. So I really didn't need to ask. But it gives my mom justification to say that I only go for jobs that I want. :/
NOTHING wrong with going for the jobs you want. You tell your mother that that's how people who keep their jobs choose them. Presumably her helping you is not predicated on you taking any shit-flinging job available, correct? Otherwise the luxury of staying with her and her husband is nullified and you might as well be on the street. Especially if she's not offering help with daycare.
The sooner you're out of your mother's clutches, the better. Best not to put yourself right back into your EX'S clutches in the pursuit of doing so, however.
According to him, it's either I get my shit together (and what, pray tell, is wrong with me going to school full time and having a roomie or two whilst I get child support?) and get a job or I can move back in with him, or he gets custody. :horrormirth:
No no no, he can't dictate shit to you like that. Blow raspberries in his face when he does that to you. He's talking out of his ass. Complete and utter lies, being used to force you to do something his way. Tell him to talk to your hand and that emotional blackmail is not going to work here.
Or, just tell him the batcave called and wants its guano back.
Quote from: Jenne on December 09, 2009, 05:07:56 AM
No no no, he can't dictate shit to you like that. Blow raspberries in his face when he does that to you. He's talking out of his ass. Complete and utter lies, being used to force you to do something his way. Tell him to talk to your hand and that emotional blackmail is not going to work here.
Or, just tell him the batcave called and wants its guano back.
HAH! :lulz:
I continue to do what I can, but in baby steps. This afternoon didn't go as planned, as apparently I need a case already opened for this stuff at the Child support enforcement office. It's gonna be pretty hard to think of a good reason where he'll give me his social and crap.
You should try to get some legal aid.
Sometimes they offer free attorneys for this kind of carp
At least they do in this state. Don't know about yours.
Quote from: Squid on December 09, 2009, 05:25:37 AM
You should try to get some legal aid.
Sometimes they offer free attorneys for this kind of carp
At least they do in this state. Don't know about yours.
They do, but it'll take 4-6 weeks just to get a call for an appointment to come in and fill out the paperwork. I tried that route a few days ago. I'll have to go down to the courthouse myself, I suppose, and get the custody stuff in, at least. I feel that I'd be better off putting in the paperwork before he does, rather than he go after me. I don't really see the difference, but I'll feel better for it.
Where are you, anyway?
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 08, 2009, 04:05:17 PM
So today's agenda sees me going to the child support enforcement office, cuz it'' be quicker than waiting 4-6 weeks, and is only 25 bucks.
I'm debating going to the courts and putting in an application for custoday as well, because when the shit hits the fan the ex is gonna go ballistic and probably not let me see the monkey.
Anyone know if working at the same place he does where he would be my boss is a bad idea?
He can't just take the kid and not let you see him, that's kidnapping.
And no, you should not work for your ex.
Definitely go to the courts and file for custody. If you have had your son the majority of the time until now, your ex doesn't have a chance.
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 09, 2009, 05:41:27 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 08, 2009, 04:05:17 PM
So today's agenda sees me going to the child support enforcement office, cuz it'' be quicker than waiting 4-6 weeks, and is only 25 bucks.
I'm debating going to the courts and putting in an application for custoday as well, because when the shit hits the fan the ex is gonna go ballistic and probably not let me see the monkey.
Anyone know if working at the same place he does where he would be my boss is a bad idea?
He can't just take the kid and not let you see him, that's kidnapping.
And no, you should not work for your ex.
Definitely go to the courts and file for custody. If you have had your son the majority of the time until now, your ex doesn't have a chance.
In the interest of fairness, I will say this: He tries to see him as often as possible. I think. Originally, I had him one week, ex would watch him most Fridays and Saturdays so I could get to do stuff, I take him Sundays so he can bowl, and then the next week he takes monkey nights. After one go round of this, I get a call that his boss said he can't be doing that, or his paycheck would suffer. I remember typing this out, I think... But since then, I have had to seriously fanagle to get him to take the monkey on weekends, and only one weekend at that, and week nights are spotty at best. He's supposed to get him tomorrow cuz I haven't slept in a week, practically, and also for the next two weekends.
But I still think that him paying our friends to sit during the day during the week is just so that I can't see the monkey as often!!!! :argh!:
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 09, 2009, 04:58:17 AM
According to him, it's either I get my shit together (and what, pray tell, is wrong with me going to school full time and having a roomie or two whilst I get child support?) and get a job or I can move back in with him, or he gets custody. :horrormirth:
There is nothing wrong with it, his threats are empty, and taking and pawning off the kid on babysitters just so you don't have him is not going to do him any good in court... and you need to fight it ASAP. You need to go to the welfare office first thing in the morning next chance you get, explain your situation, and see what help is available. It is paramount that you go first thing in the morning because they really do give preference to people who show up early (because it shows they're motivated) and it's equally imperative that you go in person because you can't get much help on the phone. When you're in front of them, they help you. Likewise when you do make it to the courthouse.
Are you familiar with this website? http://www.singlemomfinancialhelp.com/blog/state-assistance-programs-for-single-mothers/arizona/
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 09, 2009, 05:34:21 AM
Quote from: Squid on December 09, 2009, 05:25:37 AM
You should try to get some legal aid.
Sometimes they offer free attorneys for this kind of carp
At least they do in this state. Don't know about yours.
They do, but it'll take 4-6 weeks just to get a call for an appointment to come in and fill out the paperwork. I tried that route a few days ago. I'll have to go down to the courthouse myself, I suppose, and get the custody stuff in, at least. I feel that I'd be better off putting in the paperwork before he does, rather than he go after me. I don't really see the difference, but I'll feel better for it.
Where are you, anyway?
I'm in Florida.
Do what you have to do no matter how long it takes. It's worth it. In the mean time don't sit around waiting. Take Nigel's advice, get your balls rolling. The lady knows what she's talking about.
You wouldn't believe the amount of help that's out there waiting for you. You just have to work to get it.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 09, 2009, 02:43:55 AM
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 08, 2009, 04:20:23 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 08, 2009, 04:05:17 PM
So today's agenda sees me going to the child support enforcement office, cuz it'' be quicker than waiting 4-6 weeks, and is only 25 bucks.
I'm debating going to the courts and putting in an application for custoday as well, because when the shit hits the fan the ex is gonna go ballistic and probably not let me see the monkey.
How is he gonna do that? He can't even manage the kid on the weekends he agreed to.
Remember what his ex did to him? Took off with the kids for two years, he didn't know if they were alive or dead. That's one of the reasons I believe him, I think he wants to make someone else suffer for what that twat did to him and his kids.
He's already propositioned two friends to take him, and pay them what he ought to give me, just so that I can't say I have him full time.
1. Won't work. Remember what I showed you on the az.gov site?
2. He's gonna have lots of friends left if this keeps up.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 09, 2009, 05:13:34 AM
Quote from: Jenne on December 09, 2009, 05:07:56 AM
No no no, he can't dictate shit to you like that. Blow raspberries in his face when he does that to you. He's talking out of his ass. Complete and utter lies, being used to force you to do something his way. Tell him to talk to your hand and that emotional blackmail is not going to work here.
Or, just tell him the batcave called and wants its guano back.
HAH! :lulz:
I continue to do what I can, but in baby steps. This afternoon didn't go as planned, as apparently I need a case already opened for this stuff at the Child support enforcement office. It's gonna be pretty hard to think of a good reason where he'll give me his social and crap.
Taxes.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 09, 2009, 04:58:17 AM
According to him, it's either I get my shit together (and what, pray tell, is wrong with me going to school full time and having a roomie or two whilst I get child support?) and get a job or I can move back in with him, or he gets custody. :horrormirth:
Why the fuck are you listening to him?
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 09, 2009, 02:20:43 PM
Why the fuck are you listening to him?
I listen to everybody, but not him so much anymore. It didn't bother me as much as the first time, really.
QuoteTaxes.
I'll try it.
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2. He's gonna have lots of friends left if this keeps up.
. Right? He won't have much of a gaming group left if this keeps up.
So the ex has the monkey tonight. Maybe I'll be able to get some sleep. We didn't talk long, my feet were beginning to freeze, but he said that he wasn't going to implement babysitters until I gave the ok, because he isn't "that big an ass."
The thing is, I feel like I ought to tell him in the morning, "I'm not going to work right away, I'm going to school first. Go ahead and file for custody, I think I'll get him anyway," only I'm not so sure. Not unsure of getting the monkey, unsure that I should tell him to file custody, because he might try and keep him after that until the courts decide.
Confused AFRAID. :x
He's not legally allowed to "keep" him on days that he isn't assigned visitation.
That's called kidnapping, you can call the police, press charges, he will go to jail.
Then who wins a custody lawsuit?
I don't think you really need to tell him what your personal plans for the future are. As long as they include providing food, clothing, shelter, health and happiness for your child, what say does he have in anything you do.
If you're not out partying, drinking and/or doing drugs and spending valuable time raising your child properly then who the hell does he think he is to pry into your business.
Your business is your own. You're not property of anyone's.
Please, do as Nigel suggests. Get the assistance you need and go to school. Whatever custody obstacles get in the way, just overcome them. Many of us have had to do it. It's a pain in the ass but as long as you do your research, use teh GOOGLE for things you don't understand and stand firm on what is best for your son, you'll persevere and be fine.
I know it sounds cheesy and stupid but it will work out in the end. As long as you stay strong and don't get flustered.
Quote from: Squid on December 10, 2009, 06:43:17 AM
He's not legally allowed to "keep" him on days that he isn't assigned visitation.
That's called kidnapping, you can call the police, press charges, he will go to jail.
Then who wins a custody lawsuit?
I don't think you really need to tell him what your personal plans for the future are. As long as they include providing food, clothing, shelter, health and happiness for your child, what say does he have in anything you do.
If you're not out partying, drinking and/or doing drugs and spending valuable time raising your child properly then who the hell does he think he is to pry into your business.
Your business is your own. You're not property of anyone's.
Please, do as Nigel suggests. Get the assistance you need and go to school. Whatever custody obstacles get in the way, just overcome them. Many of us have had to do it. It's a pain in the ass but as long as you do your research, use teh GOOGLE for things you don't understand and stand firm on what is best for your son, you'll persevere and be fine.
I know it sounds cheesy and stupid but it will work out in the end. As long as you stay strong and don't get flustered.
Thanks for the encouragin words.
Quote from: Squid on December 10, 2009, 06:43:17 AM
He's not legally allowed to "keep" him on days that he isn't assigned visitation.
That's called kidnapping, you can call the police, press charges, he will go to jail.
Then who wins a custody lawsuit?
I don't think you really need to tell him what your personal plans for the future are. As long as they include providing food, clothing, shelter, health and happiness for your child, what say does he have in anything you do.
If you're not out partying, drinking and/or doing drugs and spending valuable time raising your child properly then who the hell does he think he is to pry into your business.
Your business is your own. You're not property of anyone's.
Please, do as Nigel suggests. Get the assistance you need and go to school. Whatever custody obstacles get in the way, just overcome them. Many of us have had to do it. It's a pain in the ass but as long as you do your research, use teh GOOGLE for things you don't understand and stand firm on what is best for your son, you'll persevere and be fine.
I know it sounds cheesy and stupid but it will work out in the end. As long as you stay strong and don't get flustered.
Freeky spends just about every waking moment with her kid, at least as far as I have seen. She's a hell of a mom.
The ex isn't an
evil guy, just insanely self-centered. He doesn't even want custody (as evidenced by the string of "coincidences" which keep him from taking the kid when he agreed to...he just doesn't want to pay child support, above the pitiful amount he considers "reasonable".
College is going to have to go on hold anyway, because my parents are conspiring against me. :|
But I'm going to go apply at the Sears Call Center today, because they are hiring now. Maybe i'll be able to keep it for a couple of months if I get the job.
DO NOT tell him your long-term plans. Whether you work or go to school are none of his business and he will only use that knowledge to try to bully you.
You need to establish a legal parenting/custody plan. Do whatever it takes to get that established. He CANNOT have you stripped of custody for anything short of child abuse, so don't worry about that. If he tries, the court will determine him to be an "unreasonable parent" and will award you custody.
Do not, ever, deny him access to the kid, or the court will deem you to be an "unreasonable parent".
GET YOUR ASS SOME STATE ASSISTANCE. You need childcare whether you go to work or go to school, so get it started ASAP. It will take time, but you need to get independent from your toxic parents and if you don't start, it won't happen.
Stop listening to people who don't have your best interests in mind, ie. your ex and your mom. They are not trying to help you. Assume that everything they tell you is self-serving bullshit.
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 10, 2009, 06:49:50 PM
DO NOT tell him your long-term plans. Whether you work or go to school are none of his business and he will only use that knowledge to try to bully you.
You need to establish a legal parenting/custody plan. Do whatever it takes to get that established. He CANNOT have you stripped of custody for anything short of child abuse, so don't worry about that. If he tries, the court will determine him to be an "unreasonable parent" and will award you custody.
Do not, ever, deny him access to the kid, or the court will deem you to be an "unreasonable parent".
GET YOUR ASS SOME STATE ASSISTANCE. You need childcare whether you go to work or go to school, so get it started ASAP. It will take time, but you need to get independent from your toxic parents and if you don't start, it won't happen.
Stop listening to people who don't have your best interests in mind, ie. your ex and your mom. They are not trying to help you. Assume that everything they tell you is self-serving bullshit.
Actually, her mother is acting out of malice, not self-interest.
After a long think, I think I have to move back in with my ex. He's not abusive, it's 1 vs 1 instead of 2 vs 1, and I will have leverageg against him.
I'm going to enjoy my weekend first, though, and talk to him tomorrow about to hammer out the details.
wut
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 12, 2009, 05:57:54 PM
After a long think, I think I have to move back in with my ex. He's not abusive, it's 1 vs 1 instead of 2 vs 1, and I will have leverageg against him.
I'm going to enjoy my weekend first, though, and talk to him tomorrow about to hammer out the details.
Oh Freeky. There go your goals. :(
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 12, 2009, 05:57:54 PM
After a long think, I think I have to move back in with my ex. He's not abusive, it's 1 vs 1 instead of 2 vs 1, and I will have leverageg against him.
I'm going to enjoy my weekend first, though, and talk to him tomorrow about to hammer out the details.
That is a terrible idea. He's proven himself to be controlling. What you NEED to do is get some State assistance, get your own place, and go back to school.
I get the impression that you have grown so accustomed to other people controlling you that you don't really know how to steer your own ship. It's a good time to learn.
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 13, 2009, 11:36:47 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 12, 2009, 05:57:54 PM
After a long think, I think I have to move back in with my ex. He's not abusive, it's 1 vs 1 instead of 2 vs 1, and I will have leverageg against him.
I'm going to enjoy my weekend first, though, and talk to him tomorrow about to hammer out the details.
That is a terrible idea. He's proven himself to be controlling. What you NEED to do is get some State assistance, get your own place, and go back to school.
I get the impression that you have grown so accustomed to other people controlling you that you don't really know how to steer your own ship. It's a good time to learn.
Yeah, I know... I don't like this idea either, but but I got this advice from Roger and other people. He may be controlling, but its out of self absorbtion, instead of malice (like what my mom does). I'm really trying to get shit done, but my case worker is a total cunt and I never use that word. She uses all the red tape she can to be a horrendous person. She didn't even see me in her cubicle when I went there last, but put me in and interviewd me in a storage room. She wanted to put my parents on the paperwork because I lived with them, even though I'm over 22 and isn't required or something. But that's a different rant all together.
This whole thing is aggravating as hell, because there are NO choices that are the right choices, at least none that are feasible at this point in time.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 14, 2009, 12:30:37 AM
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 13, 2009, 11:36:47 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 12, 2009, 05:57:54 PM
After a long think, I think I have to move back in with my ex. He's not abusive, it's 1 vs 1 instead of 2 vs 1, and I will have leverageg against him.
I'm going to enjoy my weekend first, though, and talk to him tomorrow about to hammer out the details.
That is a terrible idea. He's proven himself to be controlling. What you NEED to do is get some State assistance, get your own place, and go back to school.
I get the impression that you have grown so accustomed to other people controlling you that you don't really know how to steer your own ship. It's a good time to learn.
Yeah, I know... I don't like this idea either, but but I got this advice from Roger and other people. He may be controlling, but its out of self absorbtion, instead of malice (like what my mom does). I'm really trying to get shit done, but my case worker is a total cunt and I never use that word. She uses all the red tape she can to be a horrendous person. She didn't even see me in her cubicle when I went there last, but put me in and interviewd me in a storage room. She wanted to put my parents on the paperwork because I lived with them, even though I'm over 22 and isn't required or something. But that's a different rant all together.
This whole thing is aggravating as hell, because there are NO choices that are the right choices, at least none that are feasible at this point in time.
I guess if it gets you a step closer to independence, moving back in with him isn't the worst thing you could do. I just worry that i t'll end up being a trap.
Can you change case workers? Request another one, I mean?
Also, somehow the idea that your last hope is moving in with a guy who threatens you with taking your child away with lies and deceit sounds just utterly sad and a bit defeating.
Anyway, like Nigel, I hope it's a stepping stone, though it really does sound like another say for him to get you back under his thumb. You may be leaving the frying pan and leaping into the fire, so to speak.
I don't know about changing case workers. But we're going to work out - in writing - the rules and such, so that it won't be like, "well, what are we doing here?" and stuff. Or something. I do appreciate the concern, though, from everyone.
All I want to say is that this sounds like a horrible decision and I wish there was another option for you. I really wish so.
Quote from: Squid on December 14, 2009, 02:22:49 AM
All I want to say is that this sounds like a horrible decision and I wish there was another option for you. I really wish so.
You and me both. There is this much consolation; it will not be a long stay at all. His ex and his other two boys are coming down February, after she gets through paying her parole whatsit. Six people is too many for a two bedroom apartment, so I will definitely be going. Plus I can't stand the woman, and while the boys are very good kids I can't deal with other people's children, most of the time anyway.
A car for me is in the works, too. It's being acquired through trade, my parents doing work for a vehicle the neighbors currently own. Which is currently broke, so I can't even test drive it to see if I like it. And the neighbor can't get to fixing it till after the first of the year.
Quote from: BAI on December 14, 2009, 02:43:10 AM
:argh!:
Aw. MS. Freaky. Sorry to hear all this.
I guess if you have a choice between the devil and the deep blue, for a little while, you have to pick breathing sulphor or treading water I guess.
But, please, don;t stay with this fellow if he:
1. makes you sad more than he makes you happy.
2. if he's too self absorbed to look after the little one.
and, please give your mother the old /ignore.
god. I'm sorry your having such a tough time atm. I'm positive you;ll work thru things and find out what will work best for you. You may be stuck in a bit of a rut at the moment, but, your working out your problems, and I hope things work out for you.
We're just living together, not dating again. I'm thinking treading water isn't going to be too terribly bad, provided I get a spending allowance for keep house and watching Monkey. If we can't agree, I'll have to stay here, I guess.
Quote from: Squid on December 14, 2009, 02:22:49 AM
All I want to say is that this sounds like a horrible decision and I wish there was another option for you. I really wish so.
There isn't. Freeky has talked to me about this, and as sad and horrible as it is, it's better than the situation she is currently in. Worst part is, it's a binary solution set.
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 14, 2009, 01:12:43 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 14, 2009, 12:30:37 AM
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 13, 2009, 11:36:47 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 12, 2009, 05:57:54 PM
After a long think, I think I have to move back in with my ex. He's not abusive, it's 1 vs 1 instead of 2 vs 1, and I will have leverageg against him.
I'm going to enjoy my weekend first, though, and talk to him tomorrow about to hammer out the details.
That is a terrible idea. He's proven himself to be controlling. What you NEED to do is get some State assistance, get your own place, and go back to school.
I get the impression that you have grown so accustomed to other people controlling you that you don't really know how to steer your own ship. It's a good time to learn.
Yeah, I know... I don't like this idea either, but but I got this advice from Roger and other people. He may be controlling, but its out of self absorbtion, instead of malice (like what my mom does). I'm really trying to get shit done, but my case worker is a total cunt and I never use that word. She uses all the red tape she can to be a horrendous person. She didn't even see me in her cubicle when I went there last, but put me in and interviewd me in a storage room. She wanted to put my parents on the paperwork because I lived with them, even though I'm over 22 and isn't required or something. But that's a different rant all together.
This whole thing is aggravating as hell, because there are NO choices that are the right choices, at least none that are feasible at this point in time.
I guess if it gets you a step closer to independence, moving back in with him isn't the worst thing you could do. I just worry that i t'll end up being a trap.
Well, there's one positive here: If the ex is a shit, the Tucson Cabal will make him wish he was never born. No violence, it's just that we have by the short and skinnies due to the nature of his job. He runs the local branch of his security company, and they guard all kinds of places that are ripe for jakery.
What the hell kind of world do we live in, when the option of living with you ex is better than living with your own goddamn parents?
Quote from: LMNO on December 14, 2009, 04:20:26 PM
What the hell kind of world do we live in, when the option of living with you ex is better than living with your own goddamn parents?
We live in a world run by hairless apes.
Next question?
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 14, 2009, 04:21:30 PM
Quote from: LMNO on December 14, 2009, 04:20:26 PM
What the hell kind of world do we live in, when the option of living with you ex is better than living with your own goddamn parents?
We live in a world run by hairless apes.
Next question?
:horrormirth:
So I'm about to go over to my ex's to hang out for the day. Tomorrow, we will discuss terms of me living there.
I realized a few days ago that I wouldn't be able to file for child support, seeing as Monkey would be living with him. I'm hoping that I can get him to sign things for DES that'll let me get state help, though.
So I'm going to stay here at my mom's. The ex didn't take to my idea (of me staying there without a job, but providing a clean house and taking care of monkey and helping out with food by way of food stamps) very well. I probably didn't sell myself very well, in the first place. After reflecting, he said that basically my idea sounded like what I wanted was to be like our ex roomate, who refused to work, didn't clean, and ate all the food, with the added bonus of him sleeping on the couch cuz it's my bed.
His counterargument was "I don't care what the house looks like."
After a long pause in the coversation, I mentioned that I wanted to go to school. It seems like every time I bring this point up, everyone adds taht there are tons of people who do both, and the ex was no exception. i couldn't think of much to say to that. I'm still trying to work on my rebuttal skills.
After he took a shower, I told him that I didn't think it was gonna work out, because if he didn't think that a clean house, food, and a happy kid living under his roof and all for free was a fair trade for a couple of months living there, we weren't on the same page. And then he started shouting at me while I was trying to get ready to go, and was holding the monkey, whom I was taking with me cuz the ex had to work. So I just stood there and listened to him until his work phone rang, when he put Monkey down. I finished getting ready and picked monkey up and started towards the door, when the ex started yelling again.
I can't remember most of what he said, but he must have brought up the fact that 50/50 meant that I had to share the expenses too, and if he had to pay for it all he might as well take Monkey full time. I recall saying that that was another reason I didn't want to live there, because if I did anything that he didn't like he could threaten to take Monkey away completely, which he had already done twice. Then he started talking about how yeah, he knew how my parents treated me, we were together for three years and he's been trying to help me, from getting a job to telling them to fuck off, and he sees so muc hpotential in me etc etc etc...
By then I was about to cry, because he brought up inadvertently that we weren't together anymore. So I told him I had to leave and walked out. eventually I called my mom to come pick me up.
He just called me to apologize for yelling and to say that he hadn't ever threatened me with taking Monkey away, and if that's the way it came off he never meant to.
He never apologized to me when we were together. I'm not sure how I feel, except depressed.
So, change of plans for next Friday. We game at Nivek's.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 20, 2009, 11:23:29 PM
So, change of plans for next Friday. We game at Nivek's.
Don't know if I'll be able to make it. I heard D say to B last night, "So are we gaming at my place next week cuz you wont have Monkey?"
:sad:
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 20, 2009, 11:34:53 PM
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 20, 2009, 11:23:29 PM
So, change of plans for next Friday. We game at Nivek's.
Don't know if I'll be able to make it. I heard D say to B last night, "So are we gaming at my place next week cuz you wont have Monkey?"
:sad:
Let me know.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 20, 2009, 11:39:37 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 20, 2009, 11:34:53 PM
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 20, 2009, 11:23:29 PM
So, change of plans for next Friday. We game at Nivek's.
Don't know if I'll be able to make it. I heard D say to B last night, "So are we gaming at my place next week cuz you wont have Monkey?"
:sad:
Let me know.
Ok.
So I'm at the downtown library right now. I went to the courthouse finally, but I couldn't get all the packets I need because I have no moneys to buy them with. I need 9, with an optional 10th one for a reason I forgot. :|
The only weirdo I spotted today was some guy talking to some old lady on the bus, and showed her a picture of a diseased foot. I was listening to my headphones, so I don't know what they said...
WHERE DO YOU FIND THE WEIRDIES, ROGER?! :?
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 21, 2009, 07:43:57 PM
So I'm at the downtown library right now. I went to the courthouse finally, but I couldn't get all the packets I need because I have no moneys to buy them with. I need 9, with an optional 10th one for a reason I forgot. :|
The only weirdo I spotted today was some guy talking to some old lady on the bus, and showed her a picture of a diseased foot. I was listening to my headphones, so I don't know what they said...
WHERE DO YOU FIND THE WEIRDIES, ROGER?! :?
You probably walked past a dozen of them. Still, some guy displaying a pic of a diseased foot to random old ladies is a good start...but you probably missed the best bit by wearing headphones instead of paying attention.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 21, 2009, 07:47:03 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 21, 2009, 07:43:57 PM
So I'm at the downtown library right now. I went to the courthouse finally, but I couldn't get all the packets I need because I have no moneys to buy them with. I need 9, with an optional 10th one for a reason I forgot. :|
The only weirdo I spotted today was some guy talking to some old lady on the bus, and showed her a picture of a diseased foot. I was listening to my headphones, so I don't know what they said...
WHERE DO YOU FIND THE WEIRDIES, ROGER?! :?
You probably walked past a dozen of them. Still, some guy displaying a pic of a diseased foot to random old ladies is a good start...but you probably missed the best bit by wearing headphones instead of paying attention.
Yes. When I come to drop them back off again, I will take the bus and not listen to headphones.
this whole thread makes me :sad:
I'm right behind Nigel. He needs to pay you more than 200 a month because that is chump change when it comes to having to support yourself and your kid. You absolutely should nail him for the child support, and if he threatens to take your kid away from you (oh sorry...NOT threaten to file for full custody... :|) you should file for full custody as well. Words cannot describe how I feel about your mother.
Quote from: Sparkley Pink Shit on December 21, 2009, 08:38:36 PM
this whole thread makes me :sad:
I'm right behind Nigel. He needs to pay you more than 200 a month because that is chump change when it comes to having to support yourself and your kid. You absolutely should nail him for the child support, and if he threatens to take your kid away from you (oh sorry...NOT threaten to file for full custody... :|) you should file for full custody as well. Words cannot describe how I feel about your mother.
I agree with the bolded part especially, although she hasn't been really bad for a few days.
Yeah, I feel like a total heel, but I've got some of the paperwork I need filled out in order to start the ball rolling on all that crap. I don't think I'll ever NOT feel like a twat going through with this, so I've just gotta.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 21, 2009, 09:33:33 PM
Quote from: Sparkley Pink Shit on December 21, 2009, 08:38:36 PM
this whole thread makes me :sad:
I'm right behind Nigel. He needs to pay you more than 200 a month because that is chump change when it comes to having to support yourself and your kid. You absolutely should nail him for the child support, and if he threatens to take your kid away from you (oh sorry...NOT threaten to file for full custody... :|) you should file for full custody as well. Words cannot describe how I feel about your mother.
I agree with the bolded part especially, although she hasn't been really bad for a few days.
Yeah, I feel like a total heel, but I've got some of the paperwork I need filled out in order to start the ball rolling on all that crap. I don't think I'll ever NOT feel like a twat going through with this, so I've just gotta.
Why would you feel like a heel? It's his kid, too, and you DID try to do things the easy way.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 21, 2009, 09:35:16 PM
Why would you feel like a heel? It's his kid, too, and you DID try to do things the easy way.
Because he brought up good points. I am old enough to work, and being on the system for the rest of my life isn't feasible (not that I want that), and it isn't fair if it isn't 50/50 all the way. And he usually ends such conversations in statements that run along the lines of "I know you have it in you, you have such potential, and you're not living up to that potential" and so on.
It's sometimes too easy to see the other side of the argument for me.
He's trying to worm his way out of paying more child support. Don't listen to his bullshit about being 'too old' to go to school, and who ever said you were going to be "on the system" for the rest of your life? 50/50 is fair, but 200 a month is bullshit. He should fork over at least 1k imo, because rent, and childcare are EXPENSIVE!
Quote from: Sparkley Pink Shit on December 21, 2009, 09:52:57 PM
He's trying to worm his way out of paying more child support. Don't listen to his bullshit about being 'too old' to go to school, and who ever said you were going to be "on the system" for the rest of your life? 50/50 is fair, but 200 a month is bullshit. He should fork over at least 1k imo, because rent, and childcare are EXPENSIVE!
According to the state, it'll be about 600 out of his paycheck. You must have misread somewhere, because he never said I was too old to go to school. He just thinks I ought to get a job too, which, on top of not having a full-time babysitter if I worked, would be out of the question.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 21, 2009, 09:33:33 PM
Quote from: Sparkley Pink Shit on December 21, 2009, 08:38:36 PM
this whole thread makes me :sad:
I'm right behind Nigel. He needs to pay you more than 200 a month because that is chump change when it comes to having to support yourself and your kid. You absolutely should nail him for the child support, and if he threatens to take your kid away from you (oh sorry...NOT threaten to file for full custody... :|) you should file for full custody as well. Words cannot describe how I feel about your mother.
I agree with the bolded part especially, although she hasn't been really bad for a few days.
Yeah, I feel like a total heel, but I've got some of the paperwork I need filled out in order to start the ball rolling on all that crap. I don't think I'll ever NOT feel like a twat going through with this, so I've just gotta.
You are not a heel. You are doing exactly the right thing; you are doing what is best, right, and fair for you and your child.
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 21, 2009, 10:18:45 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 21, 2009, 09:33:33 PM
Quote from: Sparkley Pink Shit on December 21, 2009, 08:38:36 PM
this whole thread makes me :sad:
I'm right behind Nigel. He needs to pay you more than 200 a month because that is chump change when it comes to having to support yourself and your kid. You absolutely should nail him for the child support, and if he threatens to take your kid away from you (oh sorry...NOT threaten to file for full custody... :|) you should file for full custody as well. Words cannot describe how I feel about your mother.
I agree with the bolded part especially, although she hasn't been really bad for a few days.
Yeah, I feel like a total heel, but I've got some of the paperwork I need filled out in order to start the ball rolling on all that crap. I don't think I'll ever NOT feel like a twat going through with this, so I've just gotta.
You are not a heel. You are doing exactly the right thing; you are doing what is best, right, and fair for you and your child.
Thanks. :)
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 21, 2009, 09:42:26 PM
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 21, 2009, 09:35:16 PM
Why would you feel like a heel? It's his kid, too, and you DID try to do things the easy way.
Because he brought up good points. I am old enough to work, and being on the system for the rest of my life isn't feasible (not that I want that), and it isn't fair if it isn't 50/50 all the way. And he usually ends such conversations in statements that run along the lines of "I know you have it in you, you have such potential, and you're not living up to that potential" and so on.
It's sometimes too easy to see the other side of the argument for me.
He's just being manipulative, because if he really believed in your potential he would support your decision to go back to school. He's just trying to passive-aggressively undermine you. "Living up to your potential" would be getting the support you need to return to school.
Telling you that you have the potential to do that without help, without child support or financial aid, while working full time, is just a way for him to shirk his responsibility. Yes, women do manage to do just that. However, not only do the kids get shortchanged in that case, but also the women often end up with stress-related chronic illness or mental problems, because no one should have to work full-time AND raise a kid WHILE going to school. That's why we have support and financial aid programs! My mom worked full time and raised me while going to grad school... sure, that makes her a strong admirable woman, but she's also a fucking neglectful nutjob with fibromyalgia, and I ran wild getting into all kinds of terrible trouble. NO ONE should be put in that position, and you are right to do whatever it takes to avoid being put there.
And you ARE doing what it takes, and that is FUCKING AWESOME.
Nigel, do you want some apple pie for christmas?
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 21, 2009, 09:42:26 PM
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 21, 2009, 09:35:16 PM
Why would you feel like a heel? It's his kid, too, and you DID try to do things the easy way.
Because he brought up good points. I am old enough to work, and being on the system for the rest of my life isn't feasible (not that I want that), and it isn't fair if it isn't 50/50 all the way. And he usually ends such conversations in statements that run along the lines of "I know you have it in you, you have such potential, and you're not living up to that potential" and so on.
It's sometimes too easy to see the other side of the argument for me.
What good points? He doesn't want to pay for his kid.
END OF STORY.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on December 21, 2009, 10:29:13 PM
What good points? He doesn't want to pay for his kid.
END OF STORY.
I'm just having a hard time applying the manipulative bastard template onto him, is all, I guess. :sad:
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 21, 2009, 10:28:03 PM
Nigel, do you want some apple pie for christmas?
I am off pie, but thank you! I would gladly accept anything else. :)
Quote from: The Right Reverend Nigel on December 22, 2009, 12:49:35 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on December 21, 2009, 10:28:03 PM
Nigel, do you want some apple pie for christmas?
I am off pie, but thank you! I would gladly accept anything else. :)
I'll figure something out.
Something
TASTY!
You know, 50/50 is kind of bullshit. If he earns more, then "half" is less of a burden on him than it is on you.
Just as an example, let's say it costs $1000 a month to raise your kid. Keep in mind I just pulled that number out of the air because it's a round number.
Anyway, let's also say that you make (through whatever means) $500 a month, and he makes $2000.
If you were to split the cost of raising your kid "50/50", he'd be spending 25% of his income, but you'd be spending 100%! That's not fair. The burden on you is much, much greater.
What would be fair would be to spend an equal percentage of income. That way, each of your burdens are the same.
In this instance, if you both spent 40% of your income, he'd be paying $800, and you'd be paying $200. That would be fair.
But that's probably too much math for him.
Alphapance is driving the right motocyclette here, Freeky. The bastard ex has NO concept of what the courts will ask him to do, and if he does, he's faking it hard to keep you under his thum and scared. Please, please don't give in to him! He's a user and abuser, outright.
I really hope you can get the paperwork in to get your schooling started soon. I know you can do this--just keep plugging away and turn a deaf ear to your parents and the asshole who fathered your kid.
LMNO: That's a good point that I never thought of...
Jenne: Yeah, I was hoping to do school without getting loans, but I think I'll end up having to. :/
Honestly, what the courts do with the child support guidelines worksheet is take the sum of both of your incomes and then determine a fair amount from that.
You can look it us through sites like http://www.supreme.state.az.us/childsup/ and stuff.
And Nigel is absolutely right on 2 things:
1) he's full of shit with this "you have so much potential you're not living up to" crap. that's his way of saying "I'm gonna say something positive/encouraging at you to make you feel a little better so I can weasel my way out of having to give you child support". it's a fucking cop out maneuver and bullshit. obviously, you know what you're capable of. he's a turd.
2) working full time+going to school full time+full time parenting= YUO WILL CRAZY
something will suffer. often it's either grades (which will make you lose your funding) or the child. which is worse. often people have said to me "why don't you go back to school"? and my reply is usually "so if i see my family all of three hours a day as it is(if i'm lucky), i'll see them when if i go to school? never? sounds great."
sure, people do it all the time. there are people i work with who have kids and go to school. their kids are usually in the principal's office once a month, but whatever.
Quote from: Squid on December 22, 2009, 04:46:14 PM
Honestly, what the courts do with the child support guidelines worksheet is take the sum of both of your incomes and then determine a fair amount from that.
You can look it us through sites like http://www.supreme.state.az.us/childsup/ and stuff.
And Nigel is absolutely right on 2 things:
1) he's full of shit with this "you have so much potential you're not living up to" crap. that's his way of saying "I'm gonna say something positive/encouraging at you to make you feel a little better so I can weasel my way out of having to give you child support". it's a fucking cop out maneuver and bullshit. obviously, you know what you're capable of. he's a turd.
2) working full time+going to school full time+full time parenting= YUO WILL CRAZY
something will suffer. often it's either grades (which will make you lose your funding) or the child. which is worse. often people have said to me "why don't you go back to school"? and my reply is usually "so if i see my family all of three hours a day as it is(if i'm lucky), i'll see them when if i go to school? never? sounds great."
sure, people do it all the time. there are people i work with who have kids and go to school. their kids are usually in the principal's office once a month, but whatever.
I totally get all of that. But people around me don't seem to. It's like Tucson is putting stupid pills in the water (which would explain why it tastes so bad out of the tap), except that a few people are immune. :x
Well here ya go then
If you get it, but others don't then obviously you are smarter than they are and should play off of their--is this poop on my finger? Nope, chocolate. I digress. Use this to your advantage and WIN WIN WIN.
Quote from: Squid on December 23, 2009, 05:37:12 AM
Well here ya go then
If you get it, but others don't then obviously you are smarter than they are and should play off of their--is this poop on my finger? Nope, chocolate. I digress. Use this to your advantage and WIN WIN WIN.
:lulz: :lulz: :lulz:
Yes ma'am! -salute-
Oh yeah, and he's getting us both new phones. Nice of him.
(http://sarasotadetail.com/gallery2/d/9529-1/Drop_the_Soap-Its_a_trap.jpg)
Quote from: Squid on December 23, 2009, 06:13:16 AM
(http://sarasotadetail.com/gallery2/d/9529-1/Drop_the_Soap-Its_a_trap.jpg)
Play close attention, Freeky. Squid's got the tail of it and is showing it who's boss.
Man, I've been down every road when it comes to abusive men, divorce and child custody.
Don git me stahted.
It's all a fucking game, and the way to win is to out wit them.
And it's unbelievably, remarkably, surprisingly EASY.
Also, learning to live a very self sufficient, self reliant, independent lifestyle will help.
When you no longer need anyone but yourself, you've won.
Do I need to show you "the wheel of abuse"? So you can get a better grasp on what these people are doing? After all, education is key. AND it's an easy way to beat them at their own game if you know what their next move is going to be before they do it.
A GAME. An easy one to win. They're very predictable and do the same shit over and over and over. You'll notice a pattern.
Also- emotional or verbal abuse is still abuse. Even when it sounds like they're being nice.
Quote from: Squid on December 23, 2009, 04:14:34 PM
Man, I've been down every road when it comes to abusive men, divorce and child custody.
Don git me stahted.
It's all a fucking game, and the way to win is to out wit them.
And it's unbelievably, remarkably, surprisingly EASY.
Also, learning to live a very self sufficient, self reliant, independent lifestyle will help.
When you no longer need anyone but yourself, you've won.
Do I need to show you "the wheel of abuse"? So you can get a better grasp on what these people are doing? After all, education is key. AND it's an easy way to beat them at their own game if you know what their next move is going to be before they do it.
A GAME. An easy one to win. They're very predictable and do the same shit over and over and over. You'll notice a pattern.
Also- emotional or verbal abuse is still abuse. Even when it sounds like they're being nice.
THIS!!
Some people are broken and there isn't enough "change" in the universe for them to be decent human beings!
So keeping child support on the down-low from the ex is not going to work. We have to make up a custody agreement. And sign it. Both of us. And there's a class we may have to take. I was hoping to avoid confrontation, but I guess that isn't going to work. :/
This is the wheel of abuse, only licensed for use on abusive husbands:
(http://i518.photobucket.com/albums/u346/heinous_simian/3951149-Torture-device-on-display-a.jpg)
Quote from: Felix on January 13, 2010, 11:16:56 PM
This is the wheel of abuse, only licensed for use on abusive husbands:
(http://www.astro.wisc.edu/~mab/education/astro103/lectures/l26/l26.html)
broko photo. :sad:
Fixed.
The only revenge suitable for that is being successful and happy and forgetting that they exist.
My first mental response was ":sad: That'll be hard."
And then I realized what I was thinking, and I was all "GODFUCKINGDAMMIT! :cranky: "
Well then again, if they're bad parents that probably won't be that great a revenge.
In lieu of my previous answer, get a nailgun and board up their house in the night, then set it on fire. You may want help with the boards to get it done fast enough.
As much fun as that almost sounds, I wouldn't get any enjoyment out of it. I am a lovey dovey hippie who won't take a human life, even if they deserve it.
Thanks for the suggestion though. :)
When I'm stressed out and I can't/won't lash out at the world, I secretly imagine everyone and everything I can see is on fire.
It keeps me warm. :)
That's lovely. :D
Whenever I hear my mom slamming stuff around the kitchen, for no reason at all (except maybe an imagined slight to her from anyone or anything), I sincerely hopes she breaks everythiing she was handling and near her at the time of the accident/breaks something and gets hurt. That's a thought that always makes me smile a bit... :)
It also helps to sing out loud.
Poorly.
Off key and off beat. A song you hate.
RAH RAH AH AH AH, RUM AH OH NUH UH, SHEAH HUH OOH PA PA, I NEED SOME NEW PANCE!
Quote from: Turdley Burgleson on January 14, 2010, 01:40:40 AM
It also helps to sing out loud.
Poorly.
Off key and off beat. A song you hate.
RAH RAH AH AH AH, RUM AH OH NUH UH, SHEAH HUH OOH PA PA, I NEED SOME NEW PANCE!
Lol, I like your version. :lulz:
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on January 14, 2010, 01:22:54 AM
Whenever I hear my mom slamming stuff around the kitchen, for no reason at all (except maybe an imagined slight to her from anyone or anything), I sincerely hopes she breaks everythiing she was handling and near her at the time of the accident/breaks something and gets hurt. That's a thought that always makes me smile a bit... :)
tip: it helps if you "rebalance" the plates and bowls in the cupboards.
Quote from: Triple Zero on January 14, 2010, 03:13:08 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on January 14, 2010, 01:22:54 AM
Whenever I hear my mom slamming stuff around the kitchen, for no reason at all (except maybe an imagined slight to her from anyone or anything), I sincerely hopes she breaks everythiing she was handling and near her at the time of the accident/breaks something and gets hurt. That's a thought that always makes me smile a bit... :)
tip: it helps if you "rebalance" the plates and bowls in the cupboards.
:D :lulz:
Quote from: Triple Zero on January 14, 2010, 03:13:08 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on January 14, 2010, 01:22:54 AM
Whenever I hear my mom slamming stuff around the kitchen, for no reason at all (except maybe an imagined slight to her from anyone or anything), I sincerely hopes she breaks everythiing she was handling and near her at the time of the accident/breaks something and gets hurt. That's a thought that always makes me smile a bit... :)
tip: it helps if you "rebalance" the plates and bowls in the cupboards.
Oh. See? This guy is a genius.
So I just had a huge text argument with the ex.
A few days ago, his ex brought his kids to him because they were getting kicked out of their apartment. She has since gotten into the hospital.
This morning, a mutual friend brought me Monkey (he was over at the ex's for the weekend). It being 1 o'clock, Monkey's late naptime, I tried to get hold of the ex. No luck, so I called our mutual friend and asked if he knew whether Monkey had had his nap. He said he didn't know, all he did know was that he had fed and changed him. Rage makes me forget details, so I don't remember why he mentioned that the ex got up at 11. So I got hold of the ex (he was trying to call me while I was on the phone with M.F.) who said that Monkey probably needed a nap because he was lying on the floor in front of the tv, with his brothers also watching tv.
Now, I'ma stop here and go over the facts so far. 1. Ex got up at 11. 2. M.F. fed Monkey and changed his diaper. 3. Monkey was lying on the floor like he was about to pass out right then.
After I got off the phone, I remembered a point I wanted to bring up with the ex. "Btw, thats pretty serious to me that you only left monkey with his brothers to watch him while you slept." He called me back and said he didn't want to hear it, that I used to let him run around by himself behind the baby gate while I slept. I jung up on him, because I carry an argument out better if it isn't face to face (or voice to voice), and texted him with a rebuttal. Long story short, he continued to accuse me of being a neglegent mom, I had more examples of him neglecting Monkey than he had excuses and explanations for TODAY ALONE, and he said at the end that he's filling out paperwork this week to take to the courthouse to get Monkey taken away from me.
Today has been absolutely grand, let me tell you.
Two hours after I told the ex I was done with the conversation, I get two texts, one from the ex and one from the friend who brought Stephen to me. They were within two minutes of each other, and they both said that the friend didn't feed him, the ex did. I suppose I could have heard wrong, but there's tons of things that didn't match up that the ex went on about, and I even said to my friend that I wasn't inclined to believe it, but I wasn't sure why he'd lie. Haven't heard back from him. :/
Let that fucker TRY to have him taken away from you. He won't be successful, and chances are he just said that to threaten you anyways. Slam his ass with child support, or a 2X4. Either works just as well.
have you looked into getting financial aid, and scholarships if you go to school? That can be a lot of money. I got a scholarship for over $7k/yr for four years, and I only had a 3.4 GPA. This was above and beyond tuition, which was paid for 100% by Pell Grants.
Quote from: Sparkley Pink Shit on February 01, 2010, 12:41:57 AM
Let that fucker TRY to have him taken away from you. He won't be successful, and chances are he just said that to threaten you anyways. Slam his ass with child support, or a 2X4. Either works just as well.
I have the paperwork, I just need to fill it out and file it. And its a good thing I haven't seen him today, because option number 2 was foremost in my mind. :evil:
Quote from: Jerry_Frankster on February 01, 2010, 12:49:55 AM
have you looked into getting financial aid, and scholarships if you go to school? That can be a lot of money. I got a scholarship for over $7k/yr for four years, and I only had a 3.4 GPA. This was above and beyond tuition, which was paid for 100% by Pell Grants.
I have, and I have been assigned this total whorebag twat of a caseworker. She seemed determined to fuck me over. Last time I met with her, she didn't even give me the courtesy of seeing me in her cubicle.
PS, your manatee makes me lol.
are you able to turn it in tomorrow? Because if so, that is my hw assignment for you.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on February 01, 2010, 01:21:15 AM
Quote from: Sparkley Pink Shit on February 01, 2010, 12:41:57 AM
Let that fucker TRY to have him taken away from you. He won't be successful, and chances are he just said that to threaten you anyways. Slam his ass with child support, or a 2X4. Either works just as well.
I have the paperwork, I just need to fill it out and file it. And its a good thing I haven't seen him today, because option number 2 was foremost in my mind. :evil:
Quote from: Jerry_Frankster on February 01, 2010, 12:49:55 AM
have you looked into getting financial aid, and scholarships if you go to school? That can be a lot of money. I got a scholarship for over $7k/yr for four years, and I only had a 3.4 GPA. This was above and beyond tuition, which was paid for 100% by Pell Grants.
I have, and I have been assigned this total whorebag twat of a caseworker. She seemed determined to fuck me over. Last time I met with her, she didn't even give me the courtesy of seeing me in her cubicle.
PS, your manatee makes me lol.
Is this a University caseworker, or one from some other government office?
OH, TEH MANATEE!!!
Quote from: Jerry_Frankster on February 01, 2010, 02:33:00 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on February 01, 2010, 01:21:15 AM
Quote from: Sparkley Pink Shit on February 01, 2010, 12:41:57 AM
Let that fucker TRY to have him taken away from you. He won't be successful, and chances are he just said that to threaten you anyways. Slam his ass with child support, or a 2X4. Either works just as well.
I have the paperwork, I just need to fill it out and file it. And its a good thing I haven't seen him today, because option number 2 was foremost in my mind. :evil:
Quote from: Jerry_Frankster on February 01, 2010, 12:49:55 AM
have you looked into getting financial aid, and scholarships if you go to school? That can be a lot of money. I got a scholarship for over $7k/yr for four years, and I only had a 3.4 GPA. This was above and beyond tuition, which was paid for 100% by Pell Grants.
I have, and I have been assigned this total whorebag twat of a caseworker. She seemed determined to fuck me over. Last time I met with her, she didn't even give me the courtesy of seeing me in her cubicle.
PS, your manatee makes me lol.
Is this a University caseworker, or one from some other government office?
OH, TEH MANATEE!!!
Its a DES (Department of Economical Security) worker. I'm focusing on getting work right now, because then I can get the hell out of where I live right now.
Quote from: Sparkley Pink Shit on February 01, 2010, 02:24:44 AM
are you able to turn it in tomorrow? Because if so, that is my hw assignment for you.
Yes, Miss SPS.
I'm really feeling sad that this has happened to you, Freeky. I nearly cried, but then I remembered that my tear ducts have long since dried up like a wrinkly old persons elbows. If you want, I could hire someone to cunt punch the people who have made you sad or angry. I really dislike your mother, if she heard all the things I would say to her, her ears would catch on fire from all the RAGE!!!! :argh!:
Quote from: ThatGreenGentleman on February 01, 2010, 03:21:00 AM
I'm really feeling sad that this has happened to you, Freeky. I nearly cried, but then I remembered that my tear ducts have long since dried up like a wrinkly old persons elbows. If you want, I could hire someone to cunt punch the people who have made you sad or angry. I really dislike your mother, if she heard all the things I would say to her, her ears would catch on fire from all the RAGE!!!! :argh!:
:lulz: If it ever gets to that point, I'll look you up.
Freeky seems like one of the nicer people on PD.com, and always seems to genuinely have her child's best interests at heart. It makes me angry when people shirk their financial obligation to their family (like it or not, bub, your kid and the girl who gave birth to him are your family now whether you like it or not, and whether you choose to live with them or not does not in any way alter the obligation you have incurred) and it makes me all the more angry when it is done to someone who is actually a good person and has done nothing to deserve that sort of treatment.
you should kick him in the nads.
IN THA NADS.
Right now I has the rage equivalent to about 56 angry suns that have heart burn from too much RAGE!!!! :argh!:
Thanks ECH, HFLS.
And "in the nads!" shall be my battlecry, until the wanker has been thoroughly defeated.
It shall be a marvelous battle cry. When you use it on someone, tell us all about it. It would make a pretty good story. :lulz:
:D
So I had my first lulz at someone else's expense text conversation today. With my ex.
Ex: Do you want to do my job? lol this shit really sucks.
Me: What do you do, and will I get paid? lol
Ex: Well right now you'd be standing post at the gem show and I'd pay you a different way.
Me: Hahahaha.
Ex: You never got back to me on being friends with benefits idea btw.
Me: We tried that and it didn't work out for me.
Ex: Ya but that was at the beginning of the whole new thing now could be different unless you got a boyfriend that is
Me: No one officially yet, but I'm working on it.
Ex: Wow umm
Me: Wow umm what?
Ex: Just shocked and kinda sad but hopefully hes better than me.
(Long pause, because I didn't know how to respond and because I called a friend to let her in on the lulz)
Ex: Did I say something wrong?
Me: He seems nice, anyway.
Me: No, I was just on the phone.
Ex: Who is he
Me: Guy named Vince (LIE.) I met him hanging out with friends.
Ex: Ok cool wow I didn't think I would feel like this
Ex: So what would you say to 1 last time for old time's sake
Me: (Thoughts to self: :argh!: :x :crankey: ) I would say no in a vvery kind and slightly apologetic way. (Truth)
Ex: O ok :(
Ex: *text edited because it was pretty offensively disgusting, suffice to say that he isn't getting any* I just really miss you.
(Long pause)
Ex: I'm sorry, I shouldn't have said that.
Me: I agree.
I was luaghing so hard during this conversation. Seriously.
Kinda been wondering about what my biological family is like recently. Kind of depressing, since it was a closed adoption (oh yeah, I'm adopted) and I had papers somewhere that said they'd rather me not look them up. Ever. :sad:
I gues that would answer my question right there, but still.
how did you do on your homework assignment missy? Or am I gonna have to spank you with a ruler? :fap:
Quote from: Sparkley Pink Shit on February 05, 2010, 04:47:48 AM
how did you do on your homework assignment missy? Or am I gonna have to spank you with a ruler? :fap:
... I need the ruler, Miss SPS... :sad: :oops: Hopefully I can get my mom to watch Monkey so I can run downtown and drop off the first of many forms tomorrow. I've been holding off, cuz I want to get it looked at, but he's starting to get too involved with work again, and I nearly started a fight with him this afternoon for not being able to watch his kid.
He has even less excuses to be doing this shit with his other two boys here. :mad: :crankey:
If I was in your jackboots, I'd look into disappearing him and selling his kidneys.
You know, for science. :)
Quote from: Horrendous Foreign Love Stoat on February 05, 2010, 05:04:46 AM
Ms. Freak, cannot you get the visitation rights sorted, as he obviously does not want to spend time with his kids. :?
That's part of the process of getting child support. Paternity has to be established (for cases where the parents weren't married), custody has to be sorted out, and parenting time goes into a plan, and its not a flexible schedule either, both parties have to have the child(ren)for x amount of days as agreed upon by themselves. Which sounds easy enough, but I don't want to screw him (he is operations manager, after all, and sometimes has to stand at a post or whatever), nor do I want to give him too much responsibility, because he has so far shown that he can't handle it.
Quote from: Horrendous Foreign Love Stoat on February 05, 2010, 05:13:03 AM
aw, your too nice. :cry:
Sounds like a massive hassle.
It is and it isn't. I've been procrastinating for to get my first form looked at. And then I think about it and I kick myself.
I'm nice to people so they don't wreck me. :lulz: I'm starting to be not as nice, though. A little less confrontation avoiding. PD's positive influence showing through, I'm sure. :lulz:
I had to get a signed statement from my ex this morning saying he pays me 200 in child support. I needed it to get onto state help. He was super bitchy about it, and when I actually got to his office to get it from him, he threw a fit. He acted more of a jerk, and when I got the letter from him I left without saying too much.
He texted me, apologizing for being so short tempered, his excuse being that he had two no-shows and he had to fill the gaps quickly. I didn't feel like being openly forgiving or hostile, so my response was non-comittal. Then he texted me that he had no right to do that because he still cares about me and it isn't nice. I was going to ignore that, because there wasn't a lot I could think of for i, but he sent it again, and so I replied back that no, it wasn't cool, but I saw it as a chance to practice not caring about what people think of me. I continued on to say that I probably should have started doing that when we were together.
I ended up getting depressed because it was a mean thing to say, and I meant it to be mean. :sad: But maybe he'll leave off texting me really awkward stuff now, cuz I haven't heard back from him all day.
You should be getting a lot more than $200/mo, that's ridiculous.
Don't get depressed. He's trying to emotionally manipulate you, probably so he can get away with dicking you around more. Recognize he is doing this, and simply ignore everything about him that does not relate directly towards getting money out of his tightwad hands. Its not sincere, its calculated and meant to have an effect on you. Don't let him succeed at this game.
I didn't let on that I felt bad, and I only feel bad for trying to make him feel bad. And also because he brought up emotional baggage.
And yes, 200 is outrageously not enough, and he keeps sticking to the fact that we agreed upon it before I knew how far 200 didn't go and was not over him at all as his argument that he doesn't have to pay more.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on February 12, 2010, 12:17:41 AM
I didn't let on that I felt bad, and I only feel bad for trying to make him feel bad. And also because he brought up emotional baggage.
And yes, 200 is outrageously not enough, and he keeps sticking to the fact that we agreed upon it before I knew how far 200 didn't go and was not over him at all as his argument that he doesn't have to pay more.
I'm sure a judge or social worker would be happy to argue right back at him, since he obviously doesn't want to listen to you.
Quote from: Suu on February 12, 2010, 05:05:46 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on February 12, 2010, 12:17:41 AM
I didn't let on that I felt bad, and I only feel bad for trying to make him feel bad. And also because he brought up emotional baggage.
And yes, 200 is outrageously not enough, and he keeps sticking to the fact that we agreed upon it before I knew how far 200 didn't go and was not over him at all as his argument that he doesn't have to pay more.
I'm sure a judge or social worker would be happy to argue right back at him, since he obviously doesn't want to listen to you.
Yup. I've got a phone meeting with my DES case worker, and when I officially have food stamps and stuff, I'll qualify for deferred/waived filing fees for child support and stuff.
Side note, I felt really awesome this morning because I was wearing my sexy high heels with my jeans, and my butt looked great.
Exactly what Cain said. Ignore him while you go about the business of getting your paperwork in order. He is now a non-person.
Stop letting whether your mom will watch your kid be a factor in whether you go do what you need to do. You want to know what family court and social workers are used to? Single moms. With their kids. You CAN go places and get things done with your child present; yes, it's less convenient than doing it without your kid, but you'll adapt, and the more used to going places and getting things done with you your kid is, the easier he'll be to manage in public.
The state does not give a flying fuck about the amount you and he agreed on; they care about their state support guidelines, and depending on how your state handles things he may have to pay back support. He might be ordered to pay a LOT of back support. He's just hosing himself in the long run.
Is his name on the birth certificate? That automatically establishes paternity in most states unless the man named on the birth certificate contests it.
Division of physical custody usually defaults to the typical practice of the previous six weeks unless both parents agree otherwise. Division of legal custody usually defaults to whoever has primary custody of the child unless both parents agree otherwise. Beware of being pushed for joint custody because it sounds like he'll go for it to reduce his child support obligation, and then leave the kid with you 90% of the time anyway.
Parenting plans aren't hard, let me know if you need help writing one; I've done it twice.
I know it all seems overwhelming at first, but the further you delve into it the more manageable it becomes. Don't delay any further, and don't talk to your ex anymore unless you need to for your child's care. Be grateful that you don't have a job or school right now, because can you imagine how much harder this process is if you're working full-time? I will tell you the story of my previous divorce and ensuing custody battle, if you want to hear one of those "I had to walk uphill in the snow both ways" kinds of stories.
YOU CAN DO THIS. And you need to stop procrastinating and stop making excuses for why you "can't" get it done.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on February 12, 2010, 05:17:00 AM
Quote from: Suu on February 12, 2010, 05:05:46 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on February 12, 2010, 12:17:41 AM
I didn't let on that I felt bad, and I only feel bad for trying to make him feel bad. And also because he brought up emotional baggage.
And yes, 200 is outrageously not enough, and he keeps sticking to the fact that we agreed upon it before I knew how far 200 didn't go and was not over him at all as his argument that he doesn't have to pay more.
I'm sure a judge or social worker would be happy to argue right back at him, since he obviously doesn't want to listen to you.
Yup. I've got a phone meeting with my DES case worker, and when I officially have food stamps and stuff, I'll qualify for deferred/waived filing fees for child support and stuff.
Side note, I felt really awesome this morning because I was wearing my sexy high heels with my jeans, and my butt looked great.
YAYYYYYY YOU! :D OK, ignore my previous pep talk/scolding. You are doing what you need to do!
Quote from: Calamity Nigel on February 12, 2010, 05:46:01 AM
Exactly what Cain said. Ignore him while you go about the business of getting your paperwork in order. He is now a non-person.
This is what I told you on the phone, Freeky. Don't give the bastard an inch.
Nigel, I would like to take you up on your offer of help writing a parenting plan.
And "IN THA NADS" shall be my battlecry! :D
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on February 12, 2010, 03:36:21 PM
Nigel, I would like to take you up on your offer of help writing a parenting plan.
And "IN THA NADS" shall be my battlecry! :D
Coolio.
What I need from you is:
A. What days each week you will have the monkey and what days sperm donor will have the monkey (based on current practice is good, or otherwise if you have an ideal you would like to legally enforce).
B. How you want to divvy up birthdays and holidays, including summer vacations.
I have to re-type my own parenting plan so I can email it to my mediation lawyer, and I'll send a copy to you as well so you can see what it looks like and what kinds of things you'll want to consider. It's a surprisingly non-legalese-sounding document.
So much of this I don't understand...
They make you pay to file forms for child-support?
Is there no system that simply extracts a standard amount money from the father whether he likes it or not?
What kind of legal rights is he entitled to for your son?
Yeah, that's the court system.
It's not always the mother who is getting screwed, sometimes the dads have to do this shit to see their kids and get what they need, too.
At the moment, absolutely none from a legal standpoint. Filing for custody, though, he'll end up having rights.
Man.
Not that this is news to you, but Arizona is fucked up.
:lulz:
I'm just glad I don't live in Phoenix. -shudder-
Quote from: Alty on February 12, 2010, 07:17:34 PM
Man.
Not that this is news to you, but Arizona is fucked up.
Arizona wrecks people. For real.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on February 12, 2010, 07:19:27 PM
:lulz:
I'm just glad I don't live in Phoenix. -shudder-
Phoenix is proof that there are, in fact, worse fates than death.
I guess I should be thanking the oil companies, but we've (apparently) got so much assistance here, it now seems ridiculous.
Mrs. Alty and I tried moving to Seattle a few years back. Lasted three months. Couldn't get childcare, couldn't get jobs. Came back and got shit taken care of within days.
People make fun of those Alaska Independence Party assholes, as well they should. But...they sort of have a point, shit is different here. I guess that's one more thing I've been naive about.
I know. When I dated ex #1 we went up there for LARPing. :x
Also went to Ozzfest up there one year. That was fun, but I got a horrible sunburn and some sort of black dust crap that took a week of showering to get off.
Quote from: Alty on February 12, 2010, 07:23:35 PM
I guess I should be thanking the oil companies, but we've (apparently) got so much assistance here, it now seems ridiculous.
Mrs. Alty and I tried moving to Seattle a few years back. Lasted three months. Couldn't get childcare, couldn't get jobs. Came back and got shit taken care of within days.
People make fun of those Alaska Independence Party assholes, as well they should. But...they sort of have a point, shit is different here. I guess that's one more thing I've been naive about.
Things are "different" here, too.
You know how the fundies are all hoping for the rapture, so they can go to heaven without the fuss of dying? Well, Arizona is how you can do the same thing and wind up in hell.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on February 12, 2010, 07:24:19 PM
I know. When I dated ex #1 we went up there for LARPing. :x
Also went to Ozzfest up there one year. That was fun, but I got a horrible sunburn and some sort of black dust crap that took a week of showering to get off.
That was the soot from burning sinners, Freeky. You're lucky you got it off at all.
I was gonna say nanobot swarm. But that's just me.
Quote from: Alty on February 12, 2010, 07:17:34 PM
Man.
Not that this is news to you, but Arizona is fucked up.
Rhode Island is even better. They made Herbert pay to serve the papers to me even though I already signed them and was aware of the divorce. So because they had to serve them, they just brought them back to him instead of telling him on the spot when the court date was. :asshat:
Quote from: Doktor Howl on February 12, 2010, 07:27:12 PM
Quote from: Alty on February 12, 2010, 07:23:35 PM
I guess I should be thanking the oil companies, but we've (apparently) got so much assistance here, it now seems ridiculous.
Mrs. Alty and I tried moving to Seattle a few years back. Lasted three months. Couldn't get childcare, couldn't get jobs. Came back and got shit taken care of within days.
People make fun of those Alaska Independence Party assholes, as well they should. But...they sort of have a point, shit is different here. I guess that's one more thing I've been naive about.
Things are "different" here, too.
You know how the fundies are all hoping for the rapture, so they can go to heaven without the fuss of dying? Well, Arizona is how you can do the same thing and wind up in hell.
I'm starting to get the picture.
How come none of this is mentioned in the Tuscon Metropolitan Chamber of Commerce website?
I think it may have been all those things, and soot from burned clothing. People lit bonfires in the grassy area of the stadium, where I was.
:horrormirth: Court systems...
Quote from: Alty on February 12, 2010, 07:30:54 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on February 12, 2010, 07:27:12 PM
Quote from: Alty on February 12, 2010, 07:23:35 PM
I guess I should be thanking the oil companies, but we've (apparently) got so much assistance here, it now seems ridiculous.
Mrs. Alty and I tried moving to Seattle a few years back. Lasted three months. Couldn't get childcare, couldn't get jobs. Came back and got shit taken care of within days.
People make fun of those Alaska Independence Party assholes, as well they should. But...they sort of have a point, shit is different here. I guess that's one more thing I've been naive about.
Things are "different" here, too.
You know how the fundies are all hoping for the rapture, so they can go to heaven without the fuss of dying? Well, Arizona is how you can do the same thing and wind up in hell.
I'm starting to get the picture.
How come none of this is mentioned in the Tuscon Metropolitan Chamber of Commerce website?
:lulz:
True fact: I went down to troll the Chamber of Commerce meeting once, and I didn't have the heart to do it. They weren't the happiest people I've ever met...They all sort of sat around with horrified looks on their faces. I asked "What are we going to do about the 40% real unemployment in Tucson?", and the vice president of the organization said "I have no idea", and then she looked like she was going to burst into tears. So I just kinda left.
Shoulda caught it on tape.
Quote from: Sigmatic on February 12, 2010, 07:38:08 PM
Shoulda caught it on tape.
I didn't own a flash recorder then. :sad:
Besides, it was like being at a funeral, or maybe in a bunker waiting for the Russians to descend on them in a vengeful fury.
Would have been youtube doubler gold though...
Quote from: Sigmatic on February 12, 2010, 07:41:33 PM
Would have been youtube doubler gold though...
Played across from what? "Seasons in the Sun" by Terry Jacks? :lulz:
Quote from: Alty on February 12, 2010, 06:59:27 PM
So much of this I don't understand...
They make you pay to file forms for child-support?
Is there no system that simply extracts a standard amount money from the father whether he likes it or not?
What kind of legal rights is he entitled to for your son?
That part sucks. It's cheaper than divorce, though, and needs to be done.
Welllllll, my vision is...
Play the clip: Tearful confirmation of how fucked Tucson is. Let it finish. Then, cut to a clip of a chimpanzee breaking stuff to yakety sax.
Quote from: Sigmatic on February 12, 2010, 07:48:23 PM
Welllllll, my vision is...
Play the clip: Tearful confirmation of how fucked Tucson is. Let it finish. Then, cut to a clip of a chimpanzee breaking stuff to yakety sax.
:lulz:
Quote from: Calamity Nigel on February 12, 2010, 07:47:16 PM
Quote from: Alty on February 12, 2010, 06:59:27 PM
So much of this I don't understand...
They make you pay to file forms for child-support?
Is there no system that simply extracts a standard amount money from the father whether he likes it or not?
What kind of legal rights is he entitled to for your son?
That part sucks. It's cheaper than divorce, though, and needs to be done.
No doubt. I just had a bit of geographical solipsism.
Quote from: Calamity Nigel on February 12, 2010, 07:47:16 PM
Quote from: Alty on February 12, 2010, 06:59:27 PM
So much of this I don't understand...
They make you pay to file forms for child-support?
Is there no system that simply extracts a standard amount money from the father whether he likes it or not?
What kind of legal rights is he entitled to for your son?
That part sucks. It's cheaper than divorce, though, and needs to be done.
Yep. The bozo keeps threatening her with "taking custody", but his chances are precisely jack and shit. I told Freeky to keep complete records of purchases for monkey, along with notes, and not to tell him shit - period - until the court says she has to.
The only saving grace here is, he won't be just taking the kid and hauling ass, because he can't, and because he really has no intention of gaining custody, he just doesn't want to pay his bills.
I used to be fairly neutral in this (I was friends with both of them from the beginning), but his behavior has disgusted me, and Freeky has impressed the hell out of me with her intestinal fortitude (especially leaving him in the first place, which had to be scary as hell).
I hate people who make custody threats to try to extort their way out of paying child support... it's SUCH bullshit. Luckily, the courts see right through the bullshit.
Pickles ran away again. :x :cry: He's small enough to fit under the back gate, and we can't seem to fix it so he can't move the boards and whatever else we put up to keep him in the yard.
:cry: :cry: :cry:
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 02, 2010, 04:47:05 PM
Pickles ran away again. :x :cry: He's small enough to fit under the back gate, and we can't seem to fix it so he can't move the boards and whatever else we put up to keep him in the yard.
:cry: :cry: :cry:
I have a solution for that. It would involve some steel bands and some threaded rod. And some hooks.
I'd suggest a handful of steel ball bearings and a really powerful magnet.
Quote from: LMNO on March 02, 2010, 04:51:15 PM
I'd suggest a handful of steel ball bearings and a really powerful magnet.
I'm kinda thinking of building a harness for the little rodent that will entangle it in the fence. We could add a joybuzzer tripped by the bending of the rods that would add a little negative reinforcement.
It's the only way the animal will learn. It has a brain the size of a thimble.
:x
...
:x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :aww: :aww: :crankey: :walken: :omg: :alevil:
I was only trying to help.
Of course, for the joy buzzer to work, we'd have to shave the little...um, is pickles male or female, anyway?
So.... just the staples, then?
Boy, and
NO!
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 02, 2010, 04:55:26 PM
Boy, and
NO!
Well, we have to do something, or the little bastard will wind up as coyote poop.
Look, just let me show you what I'm talking about. It won't hurt the dog (physically, anyway), and it just might save its life.
Plus, I can use up some of these excess joy buzzers I have.
You make my inner rainbows and puppies and unicorns cry! :x
But...
As long as you don't use a joy buzzer...
Maybe you could stop by sometime this week?
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 02, 2010, 05:03:18 PM
You make my inner rainbows and puppies and unicorns cry! :x
But...
As long as you don't use a joy buzzer...
Maybe you could stop by sometime this week?
But the joy buzzer is the important part. He has to learn. Otherwise, he'll have to wear the harness forever.
But yeah, I'll stop by.
Went round the neighborhood and found Pickles. That little butt...
Also, I HAVE TICKETS TO GO TO WRESTLEMANIA!!!! YEAHHH!
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 02, 2010, 09:13:21 PM
Went round the neighborhood and found Pickles. That little butt...
Also, I HAVE TICKETS TO GO TO WRESTLEMANIA!!!! YEAHHH!
I can have the harness built by Thursday.
You don't happen to have a bunch of D cells laying around, do you?
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 02, 2010, 09:20:49 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 02, 2010, 09:13:21 PM
Went round the neighborhood and found Pickles. That little butt...
Also, I HAVE TICKETS TO GO TO WRESTLEMANIA!!!! YEAHHH!
I can have the harness built by Thursday.
You don't happen to have a bunch of D cells laying around, do you?
I could check. Why?
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 02, 2010, 09:36:08 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 02, 2010, 09:20:49 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 02, 2010, 09:13:21 PM
Went round the neighborhood and found Pickles. That little butt...
Also, I HAVE TICKETS TO GO TO WRESTLEMANIA!!!! YEAHHH!
I can have the harness built by Thursday.
You don't happen to have a bunch of D cells laying around, do you?
I could check. Why?
No reason. I'll need about 6 of them.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 02, 2010, 09:38:01 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 02, 2010, 09:36:08 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 02, 2010, 09:20:49 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 02, 2010, 09:13:21 PM
Went round the neighborhood and found Pickles. That little butt...
Also, I HAVE TICKETS TO GO TO WRESTLEMANIA!!!! YEAHHH!
I can have the harness built by Thursday.
You don't happen to have a bunch of D cells laying around, do you?
I could check. Why?
No reason. I'll need about 6 of them.
I don't think I have that many.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 03, 2010, 02:45:21 AM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 02, 2010, 09:38:01 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 02, 2010, 09:36:08 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 02, 2010, 09:20:49 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 02, 2010, 09:13:21 PM
Went round the neighborhood and found Pickles. That little butt...
Also, I HAVE TICKETS TO GO TO WRESTLEMANIA!!!! YEAHHH!
I can have the harness built by Thursday.
You don't happen to have a bunch of D cells laying around, do you?
I could check. Why?
No reason. I'll need about 6 of them.
I don't think I have that many.
Don't worry about it. I found an old golf cart battery that will do nicely.
I finally got my car for really reals, really! WOOT! Now I just need the keys and to get it out of the neighbor's yard.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 03, 2010, 07:52:50 PM
I finally got my car for really reals, really! WOOT! Now I just need the keys and to get it out of the neighbor's yard.
Congrats! There are few feelings of freedom quite like the wheels to get away from a shitty living situation.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 03, 2010, 07:52:50 PM
I finally got my car for really reals, really! WOOT! Now I just need the keys and to get it out of the neighbor's yard.
FREEDOM!
The world will be yours.
YAY CARRRRRRR! :D
Freeky: Harness is built, including battery pack. Thank God for having the I&E lab right across from my office.
We'll install it on the little bastard tomorrow when I pick you up for coffee night. This will cure the little shit. Or at least he'll never run away again, one way or the other.
Okay for now,
Dok.
PS: Do you know how much capacitors COST, these days?
I really hope you have a video camera.
Quote from: LMNO on March 04, 2010, 07:10:50 PM
I really hope you have a video camera.
I can try with my phone, I suppose.
I keep meaning to buy a flash/video camera, but I keep having to pay hospital bills.
Additional benefit: This will keep the dog out of the bushes out back, too.
EDIT: We're going to have to enlarge the doggie door, though, and hope the little bastard can learn to go straight down the middle when he uses it.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 04, 2010, 07:15:54 PM
EDIT: We're going to have to enlarge the doggie door, though, and hope the little bastard can learn to go straight down the middle when he uses it.
What?? The next biggest one I think is the one for Mongo sized dogs! He's a fucking papillon, there's only so much he'll be able to carry! :x
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 04, 2010, 07:21:10 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 04, 2010, 07:15:54 PM
EDIT: We're going to have to enlarge the doggie door, though, and hope the little bastard can learn to go straight down the middle when he uses it.
What?? The next biggest one I think is the one for Mongo sized dogs! He's a fucking papillon, there's only so much he'll be able to carry! :x
Point. Do you think he can manage 5 pounds? If not, we may have to run a cable from the battery.
He might be able to do 5 pounds when he gets to full sized.
You're sure this isn't going to hurt him?
ETA: Coffee night! :noodledance: And I just broke 2k posts. Gosh.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 04, 2010, 07:23:33 PM
He might be able to do 5 pounds when he gets to full sized.
Right. I'll make the necessary modifications tomorrow.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 04, 2010, 07:23:33 PM
You're sure this isn't going to hurt him?
Oh, there's
conditions, now. I am fairly certain there will be no
long-term effects from "Torquemada's Invisible Fence™".
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 04, 2010, 07:23:33 PM
ETA: Coffee night! :noodledance: And I just broke 2k posts. Gosh.
We have no ideas for tomorrow, so we'll either go sunroofing, or crawl around in that old Nike missile silo again. How are you with ladders/heights?
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 04, 2010, 07:47:14 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 04, 2010, 07:23:33 PM
He might be able to do 5 pounds when he gets to full sized.
Right. I'll make the necessary modifications tomorrow.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 04, 2010, 07:23:33 PM
You're sure this isn't going to hurt him?
Oh, there's conditions, now. I am fairly certain there will be no long-term effects from "Torquemada's Invisible Fence™".
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 04, 2010, 07:23:33 PM
ETA: Coffee night! :noodledance: And I just broke 2k posts. Gosh.
We have no ideas for tomorrow, so we'll either go sunroofing, or crawl around in that old Nike missile silo again. How are you with ladders/heights?
I'm fine with heights and ladders so long as I'm not expected to go jumping off shit.
Harness modifications are complete.
Dustmop won't be running away anymore.
I am warily happy about this.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 04:54:19 PM
I am warily happy about this.
Thought you might be. I need you to shave a 1.5" square patch on either side of the dog, though.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 05, 2010, 05:00:10 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 04:54:19 PM
I am warily happy about this.
Thought you might be. I need you to shave a 1.5" square patch on either side of the dog, though.
I'm pretty sure this is going to end up being animal abuse. :|
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 05:05:08 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 05, 2010, 05:00:10 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 04:54:19 PM
I am warily happy about this.
Thought you might be. I need you to shave a 1.5" square patch on either side of the dog, though.
I'm pretty sure this is going to end up being animal abuse. :|
Probably. But dustmop has to learn.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 05, 2010, 05:05:55 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 05:05:08 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 05, 2010, 05:00:10 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 04:54:19 PM
I am warily happy about this.
Thought you might be. I need you to shave a 1.5" square patch on either side of the dog, though.
I'm pretty sure this is going to end up being animal abuse. :|
Probably. But dustmop has to learn.
... I'm not going to do anything inhumane to Pickles. I'll crate train him instead.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 05:09:43 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 05, 2010, 05:05:55 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 05:05:08 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 05, 2010, 05:00:10 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 04:54:19 PM
I am warily happy about this.
Thought you might be. I need you to shave a 1.5" square patch on either side of the dog, though.
I'm pretty sure this is going to end up being animal abuse. :|
Probably. But dustmop has to learn.
... I'm not going to do anything inhumane to Pickles. I'll crate train him instead.
It's not inhumane. Dustmop isn't a human, after all. Look, it's really simple. You shave those two spots for the conductive tape, I'll hook the dog up, and then you wait in the front room while I let the little freak out. You should play loud music while I'm out back, though. It will relax you. Really fucking loud. This is crucial to the success of the treatment.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 05, 2010, 05:22:18 PM
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Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 05, 2010, 05:05:55 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 05:05:08 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 05, 2010, 05:00:10 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 04:54:19 PM
I am warily happy about this.
Thought you might be. I need you to shave a 1.5" square patch on either side of the dog, though.
I'm pretty sure this is going to end up being animal abuse. :|
Probably. But dustmop has to learn.
... I'm not going to do anything inhumane to Pickles. I'll crate train him instead.
It's not inhumane. Dustmop isn't a human, after all. Look, it's really simple. You shave those two spots for the conductive tape, I'll hook the dog up, and then you wait in the front room while I let the little freak out. You should play loud music while I'm out back, though. It will relax you. Really fucking loud. This is crucial to the success of the treatment.
JUST CUZ IM AN IDIOT DOESNT MEAN IM STUPID!!! :x
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 05:23:51 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 05, 2010, 05:22:18 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 05:09:43 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 05, 2010, 05:05:55 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 05:05:08 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 05, 2010, 05:00:10 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 04:54:19 PM
I am warily happy about this.
Thought you might be. I need you to shave a 1.5" square patch on either side of the dog, though.
I'm pretty sure this is going to end up being animal abuse. :|
Probably. But dustmop has to learn.
... I'm not going to do anything inhumane to Pickles. I'll crate train him instead.
It's not inhumane. Dustmop isn't a human, after all. Look, it's really simple. You shave those two spots for the conductive tape, I'll hook the dog up, and then you wait in the front room while I let the little freak out. You should play loud music while I'm out back, though. It will relax you. Really fucking loud. This is crucial to the success of the treatment.
JUST CUZ IM AN IDIOT DOESNT MEAN IM STUPID!!! :x
You're neither, Freeky. Trust the Doktor on this one, though. We'll cure that little hamster looking thing, one way or the other.
Bah. Fine. I would just like to say that I am extremely uncomfortable with this.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 05:28:35 PM
Bah. Fine. I would just like to say that I am extremely uncomfortable with this.
Everything will be fine. Dustmop won't give you any more trouble.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 05, 2010, 05:30:03 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 05:28:35 PM
Bah. Fine. I would just like to say that I am extremely uncomfortable with this.
Everything will be fine. Dustmop won't give you any more trouble.
Here's hoping.
Just for being the voice between reason and science .. While on the one hand Dok's idea is sound (if it is what I think it is), minor electric shocks would condition the critter within no time. However, dogs are pack animals, and are used to learning from the alpha dogs, and not from uncaring machines.
Naturally, it being Freeky's doggie, she will be its alpha dog. For--among other things--the simple reason it's usually whoever feeds it.
You might wanna ask Syn, he has a dog and she is trained perfectly. Better than his kids, anyway :-P
OTOH, Dok also used to have a dog so he might know.
One thing about running away is something I think Syn told me, when they are young they will jump all over the place when you let them out and they need to learn they need to pay attention to where their master is. So what you do is when in the park or something, the doggie is being hyperactive and playing and when it's not paying attention, you hide behind a tree or streetpost or whatever, staying out of sight but keeping an eye on the doggie until it realized its master is GONE. And then you let it panic for a little while. And then you go back and the doggie will be MEGA HAPPY and SCRAED SHITLESS and never loose sight of you again.
Is the theory.
But I never had a dog.
Just a rabbit. Which had SCARED SHITLESS as its default factory setting or something.
Quote from: Triple Zero on March 05, 2010, 06:10:13 PM
Just for being the voice between reason and science .. While on the one hand Dok's idea is sound (if it is what I think it is), minor electric shocks would condition the critter within no time. However, dogs are pack animals, and are used to learning from the alpha dogs, and not from uncaring machines.
There will be no minor electric shocks involved.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 05, 2010, 05:30:03 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 05:28:35 PM
Bah. Fine. I would just like to say that I am extremely uncomfortable with this.
Everything will be fine. Dustmop won't give you any more trouble.
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Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 05, 2010, 06:11:16 PM
Quote from: Triple Zero on March 05, 2010, 06:10:13 PM
Just for being the voice between reason and science .. While on the one hand Dok's idea is sound (if it is what I think it is), minor electric shocks would condition the critter within no time. However, dogs are pack animals, and are used to learning from the alpha dogs, and not from uncaring machines.
There will be no minor electric shocks involved.
This is what he meant. :sad: :x
On the subject of dinner for you lot. Should I cook up that stir fry before you come to get me, or see if Nurse Mayhem will let me use their kitchen?
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 07:21:10 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 05, 2010, 06:11:16 PM
Quote from: Triple Zero on March 05, 2010, 06:10:13 PM
Just for being the voice between reason and science .. While on the one hand Dok's idea is sound (if it is what I think it is), minor electric shocks would condition the critter within no time. However, dogs are pack animals, and are used to learning from the alpha dogs, and not from uncaring machines.
There will be no minor electric shocks involved.
This is what he meant. :sad: :x
Well maybe, or perhaps not. He just said "it will close the circuit". That means
anything could happen. Maybe just a loud bell. Or a spring loaded spike trap harness.
Or a rain of frogs.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 05, 2010, 07:29:46 PM
On the subject of dinner for you lot. Should I cook up that stir fry before you come to get me, or see if Nurse Mayhem will let me use their kitchen?
Either or.
Call Nurse Mayhem and check with her.
Oh, and I might be running a bit late.
Ok.
I borrowed my mom's truck to go apply for a job, since now that I'm on my parent's car insurance they let me do so. I realized that I'm not quite as scared of driving as I used to be (I used to have nightmares about being in car wrecks), but not driving for so long has not seemed to affect my skills at all. That is to say, I never had any in the first place.
I had fun at it, but I can't deny that I have no clue what I'm doing. The scariest part should have been when I took a turn at 50 (I didn't know if I should have slowed down or not, so I didn't) and the wheels started skidding out, but this was the one bit that made me laugh the most. The part that did scare me most was trying to back out of the parking space when I was finished, because I didn't know what the fuck I was doing. I got stuck once (turned out I had it in neutral), and kept running up over the curb. I am never going to park in a corner spot again, that shit was embarrassing.
And I'm going to be doing this on a regular basis soon. :x
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 07, 2010, 06:24:44 PM
The scariest part should have been when I took a turn at 50 (I didn't know if I should have slowed down or not, so I didn't)
:lulz:
EXCELSIOR!
:lulz:
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 07, 2010, 06:32:58 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 07, 2010, 06:24:44 PM
The scariest part should have been when I took a turn at 50 (I didn't know if I should have slowed down or not, so I didn't)
:lulz:
EXCELSIOR!
:lulz:
When I was on the way home, I couldn't seem to stay at speed, though. I kept trying, but my foot would come off the gas like OH GAWD NO THIS IS TOO FAST! :x
If you'd been behind me, you'd have been shouting obscenities.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 07, 2010, 06:35:27 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 07, 2010, 06:32:58 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 07, 2010, 06:24:44 PM
The scariest part should have been when I took a turn at 50 (I didn't know if I should have slowed down or not, so I didn't)
:lulz:
EXCELSIOR!
:lulz:
When I was on the way home, I couldn't seem to stay at speed, though. I kept trying, but my foot would come off the gas like OH GAWD NO THIS IS TOO FAST! :x
If you'd been behind me, you'd have been shouting obscenities.
Yes, and parking in your trunk.
I just need practice. I hope. I was more comforatable doing 55 than I thought I would be, though.
Quick question, is it reasonable to think that the less calories you take in, the quicker you lose weight, at least to a point?
I only lose weight when I eat less.. so yes, I'd think so.
Quote from: Requia ☣ on March 07, 2010, 06:51:11 PM
I only lose weight when I eat less.. so yes, I'd think so.
Good good. Calorie counting away! :D
Quote from: Triple Zero on March 07, 2010, 07:05:36 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 07, 2010, 06:46:33 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 07, 2010, 06:35:27 PM
If you'd been behind me, you'd have been shouting obscenities.
Yes, and parking in your trunk.
:lmnuendo:
:lulz:
Quote from: Triple Zero on March 07, 2010, 07:05:36 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 07, 2010, 06:46:33 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 07, 2010, 06:35:27 PM
If you'd been behind me, you'd have been shouting obscenities.
Yes, and parking in your trunk.
:lmnuendo:
I AM a Doktor, sir. We have our professional ethics to consider.
Herr Doktor's ethic is beyond reproach.
He would not operate as such upon a fellow, and if so operating upon others it is a forgone conclusion that he would put on gloves prior to beginng.
Quote from: Richter on March 08, 2010, 01:07:37 AM
Herr Doktor's ethic is beyond reproach.
He would not operate as such upon a fellow, and if so operating upon others it is a forgone conclusion that he would put on gloves prior to beginng.
Quite right. One for each hand, and one for my scalp.
I officially have food stamps now, which is a good thing because now I have court fees deferred no problem!
Waiting for the letter in the mail, and then I can finally get the ball moving again.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 09, 2010, 04:46:27 PM
I officially have food stamps now, which is a good thing because now I have court fees deferred no problem!
Waiting for the letter in the mail, and then I can finally get the ball moving again.
Yay!
Quote from: Calamity Nigel on March 09, 2010, 05:36:21 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 09, 2010, 04:46:27 PM
I officially have food stamps now, which is a good thing because now I have court fees deferred no problem!
Waiting for the letter in the mail, and then I can finally get the ball moving again.
Yay!
:noodledance:
:mrgreen:
also:
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 08, 2010, 01:17:15 AM
Quote from: Richter on March 08, 2010, 01:07:37 AM
Herr Doktor's ethic is beyond reproach.
He would not operate as such upon a fellow, and if so operating upon others it is a forgone conclusion that he would put on gloves prior to beginng.
Quite right. One for each hand, and one for my scalp.
I would even dare assume, that if in professional parleyance applicaiton of das boot was required, he would not fail to glove it first, should contamination present itself as a concern to be averted during the dynamic implementation of said booting.
Just remembered the best part of getting food stamps: Now I can start saving what little money the ex gives me so I can GTFO of my mom's house.
Apparently my dog is sick. Not Pickles, my other dog. She's a senior dog, overweight, and poorly fed. I wouldn't be surprised if that's the problem, really. If it isn't, and it isn't their fault, well, I guess that could happen, but my parents have no idea how to take care of dogs. :x
They took her to the vet this morning, and they came back without her.
actual vet, or "we took her to the vet, aka dumped her on the road/humane society"? Also, if real vet, euth, or overnighted?
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 10, 2010, 03:54:33 PM
Apparently my dog is sick. Not Pickles, my other dog. She's a senior dog, overweight, and poorly fed. I wouldn't be surprised if that's the problem, really. If it isn't, and it isn't their fault, well, I guess that could happen, but my parents have no idea how to take care of dogs. :x
They took her to the vet this morning, and they came back without her.
Ask them if they expect any better when they're old and sick.
Quote from: Richter on March 10, 2010, 03:59:41 PM
Ask them if they expect any better when they're old and sick.
:alevil:
However, it is the correct answer.
Quote from: LMNO on March 10, 2010, 04:04:00 PM
Quote from: Richter on March 10, 2010, 03:59:41 PM
Ask them if they expect any better when they're old and sick.
:alevil:
However, it is the correct answer.
:mittens:
Quote from: Richter on March 10, 2010, 03:59:41 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky on March 10, 2010, 03:54:33 PM
Apparently my dog is sick. Not Pickles, my other dog. She's a senior dog, overweight, and poorly fed. I wouldn't be surprised if that's the problem, really. If it isn't, and it isn't their fault, well, I guess that could happen, but my parents have no idea how to take care of dogs. :x
They took her to the vet this morning, and they came back without her.
Ask them if they expect any better when they're old and sick.
Richter, as always, is full of Redman-esque good advice. Freeky, listen to this man. He has always been a great help to me when the bastards overrun the ramparts.
They left her there for observation. They really do care about her, but its like I said, they don't take care of her properly (she really ought to be on a strict diet of dog food made for senior dogs instead of cheap fatty crap and tables scraps).
As for what Richter has said, I agree with the sentiment, but don't plan on bringing it up until its pertinent or after i move out.
Update: I guess she's doing a little better, alert and stuff. They're going to do a sonogram later today. :sad:
well that's a lot better than I'd expected...I was bracing for the "they just dumped her" response. :x
She might be able to come home this evening. They didn't find anything with the sonogram.
Oh, good!
Dog is on the mend. In other news, my ex is hitting on me. Again.
It's making me laugh, though, cuz he thinks he's so dark and twisted. He's so gray that... that... HE'S REALLY GRAY, OKAY?!
Professor Freeky,
Not real good at analogy.
Quote from: Professor Freeky on March 15, 2010, 03:53:00 PM
Dog is on the mend. In other news, my ex is hitting on me. Again.
It's making me laugh, though, cuz he thinks he's so dark and twisted. He's so gray that... that... HE'S REALLY GRAY, OKAY?!
Professor Freeky,
Not real good at analogy.
:lulz:
Toldja. You lost a bunch of pounds, and poor old Ex is going all goth in his remorse.
Squish him, then wash emo stains off of stompin' boots. EOS.
He keeps giving me the "Come to the darkside" line, and I told him he wasn't dark enough for me, what should I say next?
Quote from: Professor Freeky on March 15, 2010, 03:57:10 PM
He keeps giving me the "Come to the darkside" line, and I told him he wasn't dark enough for me, what should I say next?
EITHER
Tell him you won't consider it until he proves his love for you by becoming the gothiest goth ever.
Get pics of the 34 year old in the net shirt and baggies, then tell him he just isn't goth
enough.
Get pics of reaction.
OR
Just tell him it's over, and he should find another sucker.
Went with the "Its over" route. Boring, but nicer.
JOB INTERVIEW: T-minus 1 hour 45 minutes and counting.
Quote from: Professor Freeky on March 15, 2010, 04:12:41 PM
JOB INTERVIEW: T-minus 1 hour 45 minutes and counting.
Good luck. :)
Thanks.
I'll still get a pic of him in Tripp pants next to his Camaro, though, for your photo album. :D
Good Luck!
Yayyyy job interview! Good luck!
Thanks guys. :D
So the place I had the interview is over on Prince and Oracle, for you spags who know where that is. I made my mom take me an hour early, in case we ran into problems on the road. Good thing, too, they had been moving a mobile home, and it had caught a power line and knocked it down. Took us 20 minutes to make it a block by going around the scene.
We get there, find the place no trouble (for once, I'm terrible at finding places, and my mom is worse than I am), and I start filling out the application. Now they were advertising on the door that they wanted customer relations and managerial training. I happen to have worked for a short period of time with CutCo, an in-your-home knife seller, so I put that down, which I usually don't. (It's cuz I failed miserably at the whole thing.) The dude I inerviewed with, he was like "Yeah, Vector Enterprises, that's CutCo, right? Well, what we're doing here is pretty much the same thing." And immediately I'm going this is a horrible mistake, but its money, so...
I got the job. I start orientation and training tomorrow. What the job basically boils down to is I get carted off with three to six other people in a van with Kirby carpet washers to go show them off to people in their homes and answer questions the customer may have. I'll be working 10-12 hours a day, six days a week, starting at 9 AM. They go as far as White Mountain (wherever that is) sometimes. The pay is $1,600 a month, based on 60 appointments, with some commission added on top I guess.
So I'm thinking to myself, this is not good. Oh, yes, I'm taking the job for now, but what about my Monkey? I won't get to see him at all, except for Sundays, and maybe an hour each morning. Also, I'm supposed to watch my soon-to-be roomie's kid while she goes to work, which will be impossible if I keep this job.
So my dilemma is, are my priorities straight? A paying job over mommy time for a month, maybe two if my sitters have patience, and then mommy time and home-keeping over paying job? Or do I just keep the job permanently, even though for the hours I'd be working its horribly cheap. Or find a new job while working this one, if possible?
Also, I learned my lesson about not taking a stroller with me any time I plan on taking the bus with Monkey. That was a nightmare...
1. It's a scam.
2. It's a scam.
It's a paying scam, which is all I'm concerned about at the moment, but it makes me less worried that I'm being petty and selfish for wanting to quit before I even started.
And it's a scam where I don't have to do the legwork. :woot:
Quote from: Professor Freeky on March 15, 2010, 09:50:15 PM
It's a paying scam,
Is it?
Describe precisely how this job works. The moment they associated themselves with Cutco, alarm bells started going off (it is actually impossible to succeed at CutCo, in case you didn't know).
IT'S A TRAP
Get different job. Have you tried craigslist, or a local employment agency?
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 15, 2010, 09:52:05 PM
Quote from: Professor Freeky on March 15, 2010, 09:50:15 PM
It's a paying scam,
Is it?
Describe precisely how this job works. The moment they associated themselves with Cutco, alarm bells started going off (it is actually impossible to succeed at CutCo, in case you didn't know).
(Yeah, I know. That's why I quit early on. Got some nice knives out of the deal, though.)
Their call center calls a particular area code, looking for customers. They make appointments. My boss puts me, 6 other people, and enough carpet cleaners for one each of us into a van. I go to a house, put on a show for the people, and they maybe ask me questions. If they decide they want to buy, a sales dude comes in and makes the deal. Rinse and repeat. Basically, I'm there to make it look pretty, like one of the girls on Price Is Right.
Quote from: Sparkley Pink Shit on March 15, 2010, 09:54:56 PM
Get different job. Have you tried craigslist, or a local employment agency?
My mom found this on Craigslist. Funny enough, CutCo advertises on CareerBuilders. The name they go by is Vector Ent.
Quote from: Professor Freeky on March 15, 2010, 10:04:45 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 15, 2010, 09:52:05 PM
Quote from: Professor Freeky on March 15, 2010, 09:50:15 PM
It's a paying scam,
Is it?
Describe precisely how this job works. The moment they associated themselves with Cutco, alarm bells started going off (it is actually impossible to succeed at CutCo, in case you didn't know).
(Yeah, I know. That's why I quit early on. Got some nice knives out of the deal, though.)
Their call center calls a particular area code, looking for customers. They make appointments. My boss puts me, 6 other people, and enough carpet cleaners for one each of us into a van. I go to a house, put on a show for the people, and they maybe ask me questions. If they decide they want to buy, a sales dude comes in and makes the deal. Rinse and repeat. Basically, I'm there to make it look pretty, like one of the girls on Price Is Right.
Quote from: Sparkley Pink Shit on March 15, 2010, 09:54:56 PM
Get different job. Have you tried craigslist, or a local employment agency?
My mom found this on Craigslist. Funny enough, CutCo advertises on CareerBuilders. The name they go by is Vector Ent.
PM me the name of the company, and I'll do a little digging. Can't hurt.
Oh lord.
I work 10-12 hours shifts many days and rarely see my son. But he's a teenager and can handle that. Yours needs constant attention at his age.
The pay they want to give you (if they even give you that) is not worth the time you'll lose with your son.
The best thing you could do is try your damnedest to find a regular 8 hour job from morning to evening. It sucks working that many hours 6 days a week ...
if you do the math, it comes out to you working about 60 hours a week (10 hour days), which is 240 hours a month, when you divide that by the 1600 bucks they wanna pay you, take a look at the hourly figure... $6.67.
What's your minimum wage? That's about a dollar under mine here.
Oh here:
"At a public meeting held on October 7, 2009, the Industrial Commission of Arizona determined that Arizona's minimum wage of $7.25 per hour would be maintained for calendar year 2010. Arizona's minimum wage will not increase in 2010 because the CPI-U decreased and the Minimum Wage Act does not provide for a decrease in the Arizona minimum wage. Maintaining the Arizona minimum wage at $7.25 per hour rate means that Arizona's minimum wage will continue to be the same as the federal minimum wage of $7.25 through 2010. "
From the workforce website (i guess it is)
http://www.workforce.az.gov/
So they wanna overwork you and underpay you. Awesome.
I know, Squiddy. I know. But $1600, from my perspective, is a fuckton of money that I don't have right now.
My sister did some Vector work one summer. They're legit and aimed primarily at students who need short term work. However, it's a lot of work, but you will get paid and there is commission.
Yeah, I remember getting paid, too. Just not a lot, and I couldn't get anyone to give me references.
I'm just taking into consideration the cost of your time.
Are they paying you enough for the time you'll lose with your son?
is it worth $1600 a month to miss out on all the little things?
That's what I'm looking at.
I mean sure, the 1600 bucks sound better than $00, but you could make more at a fast food restaurant and work fewer hours.
You could technically take this job on while looking for another one, bt the only time you'll have to interview would be sundays or late nights. I'm not trying to be a Debby Downer, I just think the mother being around as much as possible with the little ones is super fucking important.
Quote from: Turdley Burgleson on March 16, 2010, 12:02:52 AM
I'm just taking into consideration the cost of your time.
Are they paying you enough for the time you'll lose with your son?
is it worth $1600 a month to miss out on all the little things?
That's what I'm looking at.
I mean sure, the 1600 bucks sound better than $00, but you could make more at a fast food restaurant and work fewer hours.
You could technically take this job on while looking for another one, bt the only time you'll have to interview would be sundays or late nights. I'm not trying to be a Debby Downer, I just think the mother being around as much as possible with the little ones is super fucking important.
I totally agree with you. I'm only doing this for a month, but I know it's going to kill me, not being around.
Don't take it.
It will make you exhausted and Monkey neurotic, and you'll both be miserable. You could make more money (a lot more) doing phone sex just a few hours a week, and be less stressed out.
It sounds dodgy. Also, I'm pretty sure that $1600 has never actually been made by anyone there, at least in a single month. With commission based jobs, they always give the highest theoretical earnings you can make, in the advertising. This assumes nearly godlike sales abilities and endless amounts of effort, which no-one actually has. I remember one job I applied to where I could make, in theory, 15-18k a year. It was minimum wage, with a pathetic commission based bonus. I did the math and you'd need to make one sale every 20 minutes, every day, to actually earn that amount. I wouldn't be surprised if this turned out to be the same.
Freeky maybe being the local Avon lady might pay better dividends, and give you more time with monkey. also you can take the stroller and monkey with you when you do the deliveries.
Quote from: Calamity Nigel on March 16, 2010, 01:50:04 AM
Don't take it.
It will make you exhausted and Monkey neurotic, and you'll both be miserable. You could make more money (a lot more) doing phone sex just a few hours a week, and be less stressed out.
THIS.
JUST THINK OF EVERY GUY CALLING YOU AS BEING 30-50, OVERWEIGHT, WEARING A BAD MULLET, AND DRIVING A CLONE CAR. YOU'LL BE FINE.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 16, 2010, 02:15:21 PM
Quote from: Calamity Nigel on March 16, 2010, 01:50:04 AM
Don't take it.
It will make you exhausted and Monkey neurotic, and you'll both be miserable. You could make more money (a lot more) doing phone sex just a few hours a week, and be less stressed out.
THIS.
JUST THINK OF EVERY GUY CALLING YOU AS BEING 30-50, OVERWEIGHT, WEARING A BAD MULLET, AND DRIVING A CLONE CAR. YOU'LL BE FINE.
:cranky: WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT? OH GAWD! :horrormirth:
Quote from: Professor Freeky on March 16, 2010, 02:45:59 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 16, 2010, 02:15:21 PM
Quote from: Calamity Nigel on March 16, 2010, 01:50:04 AM
Don't take it.
It will make you exhausted and Monkey neurotic, and you'll both be miserable. You could make more money (a lot more) doing phone sex just a few hours a week, and be less stressed out.
THIS.
JUST THINK OF EVERY GUY CALLING YOU AS BEING 30-50, OVERWEIGHT, WEARING A BAD MULLET, AND DRIVING A CLONE CAR. YOU'LL BE FINE.
:cranky: WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT? OH GAWD! :horrormirth:
:)
Seriously Freeky, when I was a "voice actress" I made $5 for picking up the phone, and $1/minute after the first 15 minutes. A lot of guys get off in the first 15 minutes, so if I got 4 calls an hour I was at $20/hour, but I also had a lot of rich and/or stupid guys who would keep me on the line for hours just talking. At $1/minute. I burned out on it after a year but it was good money while it lasted. You would just need your own phone line and some privacy. You sign on to work when you're available, and you can draw whatever lines you want (ie no brown, beast, pedo). My switchboard girls were really awesome, and I emailed in my invoice and got paid every two weeks.
You tend to get more dedicated regulars if you specialize in something like humiliation or SM. I would put up with almost anything weird (sans the abovementioned pervo stuff) so I had some very, very interesting clients.
:lulz:
Nigel, you have unintentionally invented trolling boot camp :lulz:
Quote from: Richter on March 16, 2010, 03:44:21 PM
Nigel, you have unintentionally invented trolling boot camp :lulz:
:lulz:
Quote from: Richter on March 16, 2010, 03:44:21 PM
Nigel, you have unintentionally invented trolling boot camp :lulz:
Wut :lulz: :?
You get to practice degrading, humiliating, and shouting at hundreds of anonymous, willing, PAYING people.
This is ideal encouragement for sharpening the skills.
Quote from: Richter on March 16, 2010, 04:43:42 PM
You get to practice degrading, humiliating, and shouting at hundreds of anonymous, willing, PAYING people.
This is ideal encouragement for sharpening the skills.
True!
After that I moved on to alt.support.shyness. Those guys were... I can't describe them. They paid not in money, but in lulz.
Update: I quit. My friend's mom said she tried to work at the very same place I went to, and it is, indeed, a scam. :sad:
Quote from: Professor Freeky on March 17, 2010, 04:58:45 AM
Update: I quit. My friend's mom said she tried to work at the very same place I went to, and it is, indeed, a scam. :sad:
Good! No scams for Freeky. Truly, try "voice actressing". It will burn you out fast, but get you money for independence and further ventures.
Quote from: Professor Freeky on March 17, 2010, 04:58:45 AM
Update: I quit. My friend's mom said she tried to work at the very same place I went to, and it is, indeed, a scam. :sad:
Good for you, Freeky. Now keep plugging. Also, with your narrative skills, Nigel may be on to something.
Quote from: Calamity Nigel on March 17, 2010, 06:31:43 AM
Quote from: Professor Freeky on March 17, 2010, 04:58:45 AM
Update: I quit. My friend's mom said she tried to work at the very same place I went to, and it is, indeed, a scam. :sad:
Good! No scams for Freeky. Truly, try "voice actressing". It will burn you out fast, but get you money for independence and further ventures.
Thanks for the tip. :D
Bump, since I'm having too much drama lately.
Just got a text from the ex, it seems he was served today. He decided since i was serving him, he wasn't going to give me a statement verifying he pays child support (which i thought I needed for to get my benefits renewed.) After a back and forth, in which he accused me of spitting in his face and claiming to pay more than the courts would require, he has threatened to keep me from having full custody of the Monkey (my original worry is gone for now, but I have other lesser concerns) and is going to "put an injunction on [me] from moving".
THE LULZ! OH GOD, THE UNMITIGATED LULZ! :lulz:
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:09:23 PM
Bump, since I'm having too much drama lately.
Just got a text from the ex, it seems he was served today. He decided since i was serving him, he wasn't going to give me a statement verifying he pays child support (which i thought I needed for to get my benefits renewed.) After a back and forth, in which he accused me of spitting in his face and claiming to pay more than the courts would require, he has threatened to keep me from having full custody of the Monkey (my original worry is gone for now, but I have other lesser concerns) and is going to "put an injunction on [me] from moving".
THE LULZ! OH GOD, THE UNMITIGATED LULZ! :lulz:
How do you put an injunction on someone against relocating in the same city? :lulz:
If you were crossing state lines with the monkey, he might be able to do it...But given:
1. The hilarious idea of how little he thinks the state will ding him for, and
2. His record for following through with his ridiculous threats,
I think you're on safe ground. Save the texts, too, so you can demonstrate that he tried to cut off food and insurance to the monkey.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:11:43 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:09:23 PM
Bump, since I'm having too much drama lately.
Just got a text from the ex, it seems he was served today. He decided since i was serving him, he wasn't going to give me a statement verifying he pays child support (which i thought I needed for to get my benefits renewed.) After a back and forth, in which he accused me of spitting in his face and claiming to pay more than the courts would require, he has threatened to keep me from having full custody of the Monkey (my original worry is gone for now, but I have other lesser concerns) and is going to "put an injunction on [me] from moving".
THE LULZ! OH GOD, THE UNMITIGATED LULZ! :lulz:
How do you put an injunction on someone against relocating in the same city? :lulz:
If you were crossing state lines with the monkey, he might be able to do it...But given:
1. The hilarious idea of how little he thinks the state will ding him for, and
2. His record for following through with his ridiculous threats,
I think you're on safe ground. Save the texts, too, so you can demonstrate that he tried to cut off food and insurance to the monkey.
Should i ask him that, or would it be obvious I'm needling him?
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:13:08 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:11:43 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:09:23 PM
Bump, since I'm having too much drama lately.
Just got a text from the ex, it seems he was served today. He decided since i was serving him, he wasn't going to give me a statement verifying he pays child support (which i thought I needed for to get my benefits renewed.) After a back and forth, in which he accused me of spitting in his face and claiming to pay more than the courts would require, he has threatened to keep me from having full custody of the Monkey (my original worry is gone for now, but I have other lesser concerns) and is going to "put an injunction on [me] from moving".
THE LULZ! OH GOD, THE UNMITIGATED LULZ! :lulz:
How do you put an injunction on someone against relocating in the same city? :lulz:
If you were crossing state lines with the monkey, he might be able to do it...But given:
1. The hilarious idea of how little he thinks the state will ding him for, and
2. His record for following through with his ridiculous threats,
I think you're on safe ground. Save the texts, too, so you can demonstrate that he tried to cut off food and insurance to the monkey.
Should i ask him that, or would it be obvious I'm needling him?
Go ahead. It's a legitimate question.
I'd like to take a moment to thank PD and Discordja for fucking with my head wiring to make it easier to think and not be bullied. :D
I think I'll go bump that one thread to express my gratitude.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:18:21 PM
I'd like to take a moment to thank PD and Discordja for fucking with my head wiring to make it easier to think and not be bullied. :D
I think I'll go bump that one thread to express my gratitude.
Just one more service we provide.
Quote from: Something Stupid the Ex Just Texted MeIt is in the Az state parenting laws
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:18:21 PM
I'd like to take a moment to thank PD and Discordja for fucking with my head wiring to make it easier to think and not be bullied. :D
I think I'll go bump that one thread to express my gratitude.
We didn't do it.
We showed you how to do it
to yourself. We're mean that way.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:20:21 PM
Quote from: Something Stupid the Ex Just Texted MeIt is in the Az state parenting laws
There are no "AZ state parenting laws". None. There are laws concerning child abuse and neglect (moving across town doesn't count as either), and there are custody laws (which don't apply if you don't cross state lines), and that's it. There are no laws on how to be a parent, and if there were, he wouldn't need a fucking injunction.
:lulz:
If he's going to lie, he could at least
do a little research.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:22:55 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:20:21 PM
Quote from: Something Stupid the Ex Just Texted MeIt is in the Az state parenting laws
There are no "AZ state parenting laws". None. There are laws concerning child abuse and neglect (moving across town doesn't count as either), and there are custody laws (which don't apply if you don't cross state lines), and that's it. There are no laws on how to be a parent, and if there were, he wouldn't need a fucking injunction.
:lulz:
If he's going to lie, he could at least do a little research.
He's trying to scare me into dropping it. I'll bet money on it. :lulz:
Quote from: LMNO on July 16, 2010, 08:20:43 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:18:21 PM
I'd like to take a moment to thank PD and Discordja for fucking with my head wiring to make it easier to think and not be bullied. :D
I think I'll go bump that one thread to express my gratitude.
We didn't do it.
We showed you how to do it to yourself. We're mean that way.
You.
BASTARDS. :lulz:
Oh, wait, maybe it's in the legal codes dealing with "Bruce's convenience and/or wishes concerning the way the world works."
:lulz:
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:25:29 PM
He's trying to scare me into dropping it. I'll bet money on it. :lulz:
Obviously. And I'm really enjoying the notion of how furious he must be that meek little Freeky no longer listens to him.
:lulz:
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:26:09 PM
Oh, wait, maybe it's in the legal codes dealing with "Bruce's convenience and/or wishes concerning the way the world works."
:lulz:
Just like where he would be within his rights to call Child Protection Services because I didn't get a job within 30 days.
:lulz:
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:27:04 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:25:29 PM
He's trying to scare me into dropping it. I'll bet money on it. :lulz:
Obviously. And I'm really enjoying the notion of how furious he must be that meek little Freeky no longer listens to him.
:lulz:
Me too, Dok. Me too.
:lulz:
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:28:31 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:26:09 PM
Oh, wait, maybe it's in the legal codes dealing with "Bruce's convenience and/or wishes concerning the way the world works."
:lulz:
Just like where he would be within his rights to call Child Protection Services because I didn't get a job within 30 days.
:lulz:
Yeah, I think that's in the code dealing with "Bruce's Impotent Rage".
The amount of ownage being discussed here has me almost stroking myself in glee :lulz:
RICHTER YOU'D BETTER KNOCK THAT SHIT OFF, OR I'LL BEND YUOR SPACE TIME!
:lulz: :lulz: :lulz: :lulz: :lulz: :lulz:
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:36:35 PM
RICHTER YOU'D BETTER KNOCK THAT SHIT OFF, OR I'LL BEND YUOR SPACE TIME!
She's not kidding...I was groping Maria in front of her 5 or 6 months ago, and she flipped the town of Marana inside out. Do never test Freeky's frustrations.
Damn, how have y'all refrained from arranging a "little accident" for this stupid fucker is beyond me. :argh!:
Freeky, how you stop yourself from fucking with him, acting like you're scared then then doing a booyah fuck you is some serious self control! :wink:
Quote from: Khara on July 16, 2010, 08:39:12 PM
Damn, how have y'all refrained from arranging a "little accident" for this stupid fucker is beyond me. :argh!:
Because Freeky is going to squeeze him like a grape.
Quote from: Khara on July 16, 2010, 08:39:12 PM
Freeky, how you stop yourself from fucking with him, acting like you're scared then then doing a booyah fuck you is some serious self control! :wink:
Actually, Freeky needs to keep on doing what she's doing. Once child support and custody have been established, she can (and should) jack his shit up anyway she pleases.
Just my opinion.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:26:09 PM
Oh, wait, maybe it's in the legal codes dealing with "Bruce's convenience and/or wishes concerning the way the world works."
:lulz:
:lulz: This made me choke on my tea.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:38:03 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:36:35 PM
RICHTER YOU'D BETTER KNOCK THAT SHIT OFF, OR I'LL BEND YUOR SPACE TIME!
She's not kidding...I was groping Maria in front of her 5 or 6 months ago, and she flipped the town of Marana inside out. Do never test Freeky's frustrations.
It makes sense now. Where Nigel is the Prolapsing Discodian force, Freeky is the Puckering force. The Wing to the Nigellian Wang, so to speak.
Quote from: Nigel on July 16, 2010, 08:43:05 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:26:09 PM
Oh, wait, maybe it's in the legal codes dealing with "Bruce's convenience and/or wishes concerning the way the world works."
:lulz:
:lulz: This made me choke on my tea.
I've been giggling like a loon for the last half hour. My I&E techs think I've done something rotten to one of the other managers...I can hear them talking about me from the next room over.
"He only laughs like that when there's a car accident."
Quote from: Richter on July 16, 2010, 08:43:57 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:38:03 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:36:35 PM
RICHTER YOU'D BETTER KNOCK THAT SHIT OFF, OR I'LL BEND YUOR SPACE TIME!
She's not kidding...I was groping Maria in front of her 5 or 6 months ago, and she flipped the town of Marana inside out. Do never test Freeky's frustrations.
It makes sense now. Where Nigel is the Prolapsing Discodian force, Freeky is the Puckering force. The Wing to the Nigellian Wang, so to speak.
Freeky can also make car rides incredibly short or interminably long.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:38:03 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:36:35 PM
RICHTER YOU'D BETTER KNOCK THAT SHIT OFF, OR I'LL BEND YUOR SPACE TIME!
She's not kidding...I was groping Maria in front of her 5 or 6 months ago, and she flipped the town of Marana inside out. Do never test Freeky's frustrations.
Someday, I'm gonna go to the east coast, and there will be nothing but carnage and men looking confused and scared and satisfied left over after I leave.
But first, I have to wage a foods war. LET US DON OUR COLANDER HELMETS AND PREPARE THE AMMUNITION!
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(http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y153/Meiintas/Picture0090.jpg)
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:45:26 PM
Someday, I'm gonna go to the east coast,
You are not allowed in the same region as Suu and Darth Cupcake. Two of you can be in the same area, but not all three of you.
That's in the federal sechsay rules.
Quote from: Richter on July 16, 2010, 08:43:57 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:38:03 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:36:35 PM
RICHTER YOU'D BETTER KNOCK THAT SHIT OFF, OR I'LL BEND YUOR SPACE TIME!
She's not kidding...I was groping Maria in front of her 5 or 6 months ago, and she flipped the town of Marana inside out. Do never test Freeky's frustrations.
It makes sense now. Where Nigel is the Prolapsing Discodian force, Freeky is the Puckering force. The Wing to the Nigellian Wang, so to speak.
IMAGINE what will happen when I go to Tucson! :fap:
Quote from: Nigel on July 16, 2010, 08:50:41 PM
Quote from: Richter on July 16, 2010, 08:43:57 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:38:03 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:36:35 PM
RICHTER YOU'D BETTER KNOCK THAT SHIT OFF, OR I'LL BEND YUOR SPACE TIME!
She's not kidding...I was groping Maria in front of her 5 or 6 months ago, and she flipped the town of Marana inside out. Do never test Freeky's frustrations.
It makes sense now. Where Nigel is the Prolapsing Discodian force, Freeky is the Puckering force. The Wing to the Nigellian Wang, so to speak.
IMAGINE what will happen when I go to Tucson! :fap:
I intend to stand directly between you and Freeky.
But don't worry, I'll be wearing safety glasses.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:44:28 PM
Quote from: Nigel on July 16, 2010, 08:43:05 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:26:09 PM
Oh, wait, maybe it's in the legal codes dealing with "Bruce's convenience and/or wishes concerning the way the world works."
:lulz:
:lulz: This made me choke on my tea.
I've been giggling like a loon for the last half hour. My I&E techs think I've done something rotten to one of the other managers...I can hear them talking about me from the next room over.
"He only laughs like that when there's a car accident."
:lulz: That's great!
I want Freeky to reply to his next foray into explaining imaginary laws with:
(http://i33.tinypic.com/2ir2a37.jpg)
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:52:01 PM
Quote from: Nigel on July 16, 2010, 08:50:41 PM
Quote from: Richter on July 16, 2010, 08:43:57 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:38:03 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:36:35 PM
RICHTER YOU'D BETTER KNOCK THAT SHIT OFF, OR I'LL BEND YUOR SPACE TIME!
She's not kidding...I was groping Maria in front of her 5 or 6 months ago, and she flipped the town of Marana inside out. Do never test Freeky's frustrations.
It makes sense now. Where Nigel is the Prolapsing Discodian force, Freeky is the Puckering force. The Wing to the Nigellian Wang, so to speak.
IMAGINE what will happen when I go to Tucson! :fap:
I intend to stand directly between you and Freeky.
But don't worry, I'll be wearing safety glasses.
Wise man.
Quote from: Nigel on July 16, 2010, 08:52:15 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:44:28 PM
Quote from: Nigel on July 16, 2010, 08:43:05 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:26:09 PM
Oh, wait, maybe it's in the legal codes dealing with "Bruce's convenience and/or wishes concerning the way the world works."
:lulz:
:lulz: This made me choke on my tea.
I've been giggling like a loon for the last half hour. My I&E techs think I've done something rotten to one of the other managers...I can hear them talking about me from the next room over.
"He only laughs like that when there's a car accident."
:lulz: That's great!
I want Freeky to reply to his next foray into explaining imaginary laws with:
(http://i33.tinypic.com/2ir2a37.jpg)
:lulz:
Quote from: LMNO on July 16, 2010, 08:20:43 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:18:21 PM
I'd like to take a moment to thank PD and Discordja for fucking with my head wiring to make it easier to think and not be bullied. :D
I think I'll go bump that one thread to express my gratitude.
We didn't do it.
We showed you how to do it to yourself. We're mean that way.
We're like the Catholic church in reverse.
Quote from: Iason Ouabache on July 17, 2010, 03:04:39 AM
Quote from: LMNO on July 16, 2010, 08:20:43 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:18:21 PM
I'd like to take a moment to thank PD and Discordja for fucking with my head wiring to make it easier to think and not be bullied. :D
I think I'll go bump that one thread to express my gratitude.
We didn't do it.
We showed you how to do it to yourself. We're mean that way.
We're like the Catholic church in reverse.
:mittens: Newsfeed!
Quote from: Nigel on July 16, 2010, 08:53:15 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:52:01 PM
Quote from: Nigel on July 16, 2010, 08:50:41 PM
Quote from: Richter on July 16, 2010, 08:43:57 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:38:03 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:36:35 PM
RICHTER YOU'D BETTER KNOCK THAT SHIT OFF, OR I'LL BEND YUOR SPACE TIME!
She's not kidding...I was groping Maria in front of her 5 or 6 months ago, and she flipped the town of Marana inside out. Do never test Freeky's frustrations.
It makes sense now. Where Nigel is the Prolapsing Discodian force, Freeky is the Puckering force. The Wing to the Nigellian Wang, so to speak.
IMAGINE what will happen when I go to Tucson! :fap:
I intend to stand directly between you and Freeky.
But don't worry, I'll be wearing safety glasses.
Wise man.
Safety first. I don't want to turn into an OSHA video, after all.
Upon further consideration, I won't be wearing underwear, as no underpance could stand the unusual stresses likely to be caused by the proximity of both yourself and Freeky, and it would be painful and embarrassing for them to come unglued under that hideous strain.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 17, 2010, 05:30:52 AM
Quote from: Nigel on July 16, 2010, 08:53:15 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:52:01 PM
Quote from: Nigel on July 16, 2010, 08:50:41 PM
Quote from: Richter on July 16, 2010, 08:43:57 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:38:03 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:36:35 PM
RICHTER YOU'D BETTER KNOCK THAT SHIT OFF, OR I'LL BEND YUOR SPACE TIME!
She's not kidding...I was groping Maria in front of her 5 or 6 months ago, and she flipped the town of Marana inside out. Do never test Freeky's frustrations.
It makes sense now. Where Nigel is the Prolapsing Discodian force, Freeky is the Puckering force. The Wing to the Nigellian Wang, so to speak.
IMAGINE what will happen when I go to Tucson! :fap:
I intend to stand directly between you and Freeky.
But don't worry, I'll be wearing safety glasses.
Wise man.
Safety first. I don't want to turn into an OSHA video, after all.
Upon further consideration, I won't be wearing underwear, as no underpance could stand the unusual stresses likely to be caused by the proximity of both yourself and Freeky, and it would be painful and embarrassing for them to come unglued under that hideous strain.
In that case, I'll have the Meathammah along. I'm pretty sure I'm going to want to hit something with a mallet after you do this.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 17, 2010, 05:33:43 AM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 17, 2010, 05:30:52 AM
Quote from: Nigel on July 16, 2010, 08:53:15 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:52:01 PM
Quote from: Nigel on July 16, 2010, 08:50:41 PM
Quote from: Richter on July 16, 2010, 08:43:57 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:38:03 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:36:35 PM
RICHTER YOU'D BETTER KNOCK THAT SHIT OFF, OR I'LL BEND YUOR SPACE TIME!
She's not kidding...I was groping Maria in front of her 5 or 6 months ago, and she flipped the town of Marana inside out. Do never test Freeky's frustrations.
It makes sense now. Where Nigel is the Prolapsing Discodian force, Freeky is the Puckering force. The Wing to the Nigellian Wang, so to speak.
IMAGINE what will happen when I go to Tucson! :fap:
I intend to stand directly between you and Freeky.
But don't worry, I'll be wearing safety glasses.
Wise man.
Safety first. I don't want to turn into an OSHA video, after all.
Upon further consideration, I won't be wearing underwear, as no underpance could stand the unusual stresses likely to be caused by the proximity of both yourself and Freeky, and it would be painful and embarrassing for them to come unglued under that hideous strain.
In that case, I'll have the Meathammah along. I'm pretty sure I'm going to want to hit something with a mallet after you do this.
I'm pretty sure I'm going to want that something to be me.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 17, 2010, 06:09:24 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 17, 2010, 05:33:43 AM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 17, 2010, 05:30:52 AM
Quote from: Nigel on July 16, 2010, 08:53:15 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:52:01 PM
Quote from: Nigel on July 16, 2010, 08:50:41 PM
Quote from: Richter on July 16, 2010, 08:43:57 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 16, 2010, 08:38:03 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 16, 2010, 08:36:35 PM
RICHTER YOU'D BETTER KNOCK THAT SHIT OFF, OR I'LL BEND YUOR SPACE TIME!
She's not kidding...I was groping Maria in front of her 5 or 6 months ago, and she flipped the town of Marana inside out. Do never test Freeky's frustrations.
It makes sense now. Where Nigel is the Prolapsing Discodian force, Freeky is the Puckering force. The Wing to the Nigellian Wang, so to speak.
IMAGINE what will happen when I go to Tucson! :fap:
I intend to stand directly between you and Freeky.
But don't worry, I'll be wearing safety glasses.
Wise man.
Safety first. I don't want to turn into an OSHA video, after all.
Upon further consideration, I won't be wearing underwear, as no underpance could stand the unusual stresses likely to be caused by the proximity of both yourself and Freeky, and it would be painful and embarrassing for them to come unglued under that hideous strain.
In that case, I'll have the Meathammah along. I'm pretty sure I'm going to want to hit something with a mallet after you do this.
I'm pretty sure I'm going to want that something to be me.
Sooo... This is one of those win/win situations?
:horrormirth:
I won't even relay the conversation I had with Mr. Language this evening. Suffice it to say, it is not unlikely that I will be arriving in Tucson after a few days alone in a car with a man and no sex.
I will be destroying Tucson and everything in it with my vagina, thx.
Quote from: Nigel on July 18, 2010, 07:57:41 AM
:horrormirth:
I won't even relay the conversation I had with Mr. Language this evening. Suffice it to say, it is not unlikely that I will be arriving in Tucson after a few days alone in a car with a man and no sex.
I will be destroying Tucson and everything in it with my vagina, thx.
I will send you the Pics anyway, to do with as you will.
Why do you always pick the dumbasses, Nigel?
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 18, 2010, 06:04:00 PM
Quote from: Nigel on July 18, 2010, 07:57:41 AM
:horrormirth:
I won't even relay the conversation I had with Mr. Language this evening. Suffice it to say, it is not unlikely that I will be arriving in Tucson after a few days alone in a car with a man and no sex.
I will be destroying Tucson and everything in it with my vagina, thx.
I will send you the Pics anyway, to do with as you will.
Why do you always pick the dumbasses, Nigel?
I apparently have an aversion to normal relationships. If it's not weird, I can't get into it. That's the only explanation I can come up with.
Basically... yeah, actually, I can't explain this. :lulz: We're together, we're just not doin' it.
So I have more proof that I can't get laid anymore in this town. Possible Toy Boy ditched out on me two days in a row. I was certailny in a mood to rape anything willing, as well. Oh well, I guess I may as well find out what his deal is before writing him off completely. He does have a job and school, it could just have been those.
I would assume that it's because he's busy, because you're hot.
Quote from: Nigel on July 18, 2010, 07:57:41 AM
:horrormirth:
I won't even relay the conversation I had with Mr. Language this evening. Suffice it to say, it is not unlikely that I will be arriving in Tucson after a few days alone in a car with a man and no sex.
I will be destroying Tucson and everything in it with my vagina, thx.
There needs to be photographic documentation of this kthx
Quote from: BLARFINGARF on July 18, 2010, 07:23:43 PM
Quote from: Nigel on July 18, 2010, 07:57:41 AM
:horrormirth:
I won't even relay the conversation I had with Mr. Language this evening. Suffice it to say, it is not unlikely that I will be arriving in Tucson after a few days alone in a car with a man and no sex.
I will be destroying Tucson and everything in it with my vagina, thx.
There needs to be photographic documentation of this kthx
It will be done with invisible frustration-lazors.
Oh, just to be clear; it wasn't his idea, this time.
Just got a call from PTB, I guess he'd misplaced his phone at work. I wanna give this guy a chance IRL, but I can't for the life of me keep my concentration when talking to him over the phone, I get bored. That could just be my less-than-stellar capacity for phone conversations, though.
Invited him to hang out again next Friday. We'll see how it goes.
Everytime I have a conversation with this dude, it ends in "Send me a pic". It's starting to either creep me out or get on my nerves. I told him as much and haven't heard back from him so :/
Just got a call from my ex, and he has apparently sorted all my stuff out already. On the one hand, less work for me. On the other, Ill never know if I have all my stuff. And he was being a dick about the kitchen stuff, some of which were given to the both of us by
Roger and Maria, so I should at least get half, but he was trying to tell me that it's all his stuff.
Fuck you bastard, I ain't playing games anymore with you.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 19, 2010, 05:41:29 AM
Just got a call from my ex, and he has apparently sorted all my stuff out already. On the one hand, less work for me. On the other, Ill never know if I have all my stuff. And he was being a dick about the kitchen stuff, some of which were given to the both of us by
Roger and Maria, so I should at least get half, but he was trying to tell me that it's all his stuff.
Fuck you bastard, I ain't playing games anymore with you.
I think we have to straighten things out.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 19, 2010, 03:09:49 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 19, 2010, 05:41:29 AM
Just got a call from my ex, and he has apparently sorted all my stuff out already. On the one hand, less work for me. On the other, Ill never know if I have all my stuff. And he was being a dick about the kitchen stuff, some of which were given to the both of us by
Roger and Maria, so I should at least get half, but he was trying to tell me that it's all his stuff.
Fuck you bastard, I ain't playing games anymore with you.
I think we have to straighten things out.
Yes.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on December 02, 2009, 03:20:52 AM
Time to burn all my bridges, cuz all the friends we shared are gonna go apeshit, and I won't be welcome around them anymore. That happens frequently, I hear. :x
Unless they like you better....Ask Roger about Randy. lol...Yours IS remarkably unlikeable. Granted, I only met him maybe twice, but it made an impression.
Quote from: Sister_Gothique on July 20, 2010, 11:51:15 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on December 02, 2009, 03:20:52 AM
Time to burn all my bridges, cuz all the friends we shared are gonna go apeshit, and I won't be welcome around them anymore. That happens frequently, I hear. :x
Unless they like you better....Ask Roger about Randy. lol...Yours IS remarkably unlikeable. Granted, I only met him maybe twice, but it made an impression.
I don't hear from them, but neither does he. I think he drove them all away with his unlikeableness.
This makes me happy in a way that makes me feel like a bad person. :sad:
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 20, 2010, 11:53:49 PM
Quote from: Sister_Gothique on July 20, 2010, 11:51:15 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on December 02, 2009, 03:20:52 AM
Time to burn all my bridges, cuz all the friends we shared are gonna go apeshit, and I won't be welcome around them anymore. That happens frequently, I hear. :x
Unless they like you better....Ask Roger about Randy. lol...Yours IS remarkably unlikeable. Granted, I only met him maybe twice, but it made an impression.
I don't hear from them, but neither does he. I think he drove them all away with his unlikeableness.
This makes me happy in a way that makes me feel like a bad person. :sad:
Bah! You'll make more better friends!
Quote from: Sister_Gothique on July 20, 2010, 11:58:25 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 20, 2010, 11:53:49 PM
Quote from: Sister_Gothique on July 20, 2010, 11:51:15 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on December 02, 2009, 03:20:52 AM
Time to burn all my bridges, cuz all the friends we shared are gonna go apeshit, and I won't be welcome around them anymore. That happens frequently, I hear. :x
Unless they like you better....Ask Roger about Randy. lol...Yours IS remarkably unlikeable. Granted, I only met him maybe twice, but it made an impression.
I don't hear from them, but neither does he. I think he drove them all away with his unlikeableness.
This makes me happy in a way that makes me feel like a bad person. :sad:
Bah! You'll make more better friends!
Such as you, Dok, and others I've made friends with. :D
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 19, 2010, 05:29:01 AM
Everytime I have a conversation with this dude, it ends in "Send me a pic". It's starting to either creep me out or get on my nerves. I told him as much and haven't heard back from him so :/
Have you sent him any pics at all? Pictures are a pretty normal/vital part of meeting people online, and I won't meet someone F2F if I don't get more than one good pic.
The reason for this is because people who won't send you pics, or who send you ones where it's really hard to tell, are either uglier, fatter, or older than they claim to be.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 19, 2010, 05:41:29 AM
Just got a call from my ex, and he has apparently sorted all my stuff out already. On the one hand, less work for me. On the other, Ill never know if I have all my stuff. And he was being a dick about the kitchen stuff, some of which were given to the both of us by
Roger and Maria, so I should at least get half, but he was trying to tell me that it's all his stuff.
Fuck you bastard, I ain't playing games anymore with you.
What a dick!
Quote from: Nigel on July 21, 2010, 12:40:18 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 19, 2010, 05:29:01 AM
Everytime I have a conversation with this dude, it ends in "Send me a pic". It's starting to either creep me out or get on my nerves. I told him as much and haven't heard back from him so :/
Have you sent him any pics at all? Pictures are a pretty normal/vital part of meeting people online, and I won't meet someone F2F if I don't get more than one good pic.
The reason for this is because people who won't send you pics, or who send you ones where it's really hard to tell, are either uglier, fatter, or older than they claim to be.
Yeah, I have. And a couple good ones, too. Not so many full body ones, it's hard to get good ones on a camera phone. And he's already met me in person.
Quote from: Nigel on July 21, 2010, 12:41:04 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 19, 2010, 05:41:29 AM
Just got a call from my ex, and he has apparently sorted all my stuff out already. On the one hand, less work for me. On the other, Ill never know if I have all my stuff. And he was being a dick about the kitchen stuff, some of which were given to the both of us by
Roger and Maria, so I should at least get half, but he was trying to tell me that it's all his stuff.
Fuck you bastard, I ain't playing games anymore with you.
What a dick!
Maria came and helped me. Got most of the stuff that I wanted. It was awkward, though, since his ex-wife and a mutual friend of ours (her boyfriend) was there making sure I didn't steal everything in sight.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 21, 2010, 12:45:01 AM
Quote from: Nigel on July 21, 2010, 12:40:18 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 19, 2010, 05:29:01 AM
Everytime I have a conversation with this dude, it ends in "Send me a pic". It's starting to either creep me out or get on my nerves. I told him as much and haven't heard back from him so :/
Have you sent him any pics at all? Pictures are a pretty normal/vital part of meeting people online, and I won't meet someone F2F if I don't get more than one good pic.
The reason for this is because people who won't send you pics, or who send you ones where it's really hard to tell, are either uglier, fatter, or older than they claim to be.
Yeah, I have. And a couple good ones, too. Not so many full body ones, it's hard to get good ones on a camera phone. And he's already met me in person.
Well then, ditch his stupid ass!
Agreed, and wtf? Can he not remember what you look like?
I think he's just fishing for pics to fap on.
That was my immediate hunch, but I decided to pretend I didn't have that thought. :lol:
Quote from: Nigel on July 22, 2010, 12:10:16 AM
I think he's just fishing for pics to fap on.
I think so too, but he stopped asking, so it's cool.
It looks like he may be trainable, if I wish to continue anything with him. :D
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 22, 2010, 01:21:26 AM
Quote from: Nigel on July 22, 2010, 12:10:16 AM
I think he's just fishing for pics to fap on.
I think so too, but he stopped asking, so it's cool.
It looks like he may be trainable, if I wish to continue anything with him. :D
I think he's jerking you around.
So more drama, and fewer lulz, today.
The ex was talking to my friend Dizzy about how he's going to file the injunction against me today, and how he's going to get a reliably chronic liar to make a statement against me (I can only guess to what depths this statement will go), and how the monkey is oh what's that thing, where they aren't developing at a reasonable rate. He called my best friend Torch to get the number for the guy (he's her baby daddy, and an even shittier one than my ex is), but luckily she doesn't have it, and wouldn't give it to him if she did cuz she's not going to help him in any way in this matter.
Having found my tarot book, I this morning before I knew all this asked my tarot deck how the court proceedings and moving into a new place would go. Interestingly, neither question looked as though it had a particularly happy ending. :|
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 22, 2010, 01:27:32 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 22, 2010, 01:21:26 AM
Quote from: Nigel on July 22, 2010, 12:10:16 AM
I think he's just fishing for pics to fap on.
I think so too, but he stopped asking, so it's cool.
It looks like he may be trainable, if I wish to continue anything with him. :D
I think he's jerking you around.
I think I don't particularly care, cuz he is still not interesting enough to hold my interest over the phone for more than five minutes. :lulz:
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 22, 2010, 01:28:58 AM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 22, 2010, 01:27:32 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 22, 2010, 01:21:26 AM
Quote from: Nigel on July 22, 2010, 12:10:16 AM
I think he's just fishing for pics to fap on.
I think so too, but he stopped asking, so it's cool.
It looks like he may be trainable, if I wish to continue anything with him. :D
I think he's jerking you around.
I think I don't particularly care, cuz he is still not interesting enough to hold my interest over the phone for more than five minutes. :lulz:
This Friday, fun stuff. I expect you won't be waiting on texts.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 22, 2010, 01:28:12 AM
So more drama, and fewer lulz, today.
The ex was talking to my friend Dizzy about how he's going to file the injunction against me today, and how he's going to get a reliably chronic liar to make a statement against me (I can only guess to what depths this statement will go), and how the monkey is oh what's that thing, where they aren't developing at a reasonable rate. He called my best friend Torch to get the number for the guy (he's her baby daddy, and an even shittier one than my ex is), but luckily she doesn't have it, and wouldn't give it to him if she did cuz she's not going to help him in any way in this matter.
Having found my tarot book, I this morning before I knew all this asked my tarot deck how the court proceedings and moving into a new place would go. Interestingly, neither question looked as though it had a particularly happy ending. :|
Yeah, well, Maria and I will be happy to testify as to both you and Bruce's behavior towards Monkey. Bruce won't be amused.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 22, 2010, 01:30:56 AM
This Friday, fun stuff. I expect you won't be waiting on texts.
Hell the fuck no, though I extended an invitation to him.
If he can't make it this week, I'ma drop him. Nicely though, I don't want to be excessively cruel to him.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 22, 2010, 01:32:43 AM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 22, 2010, 01:30:56 AM
This Friday, fun stuff. I expect you won't be waiting on texts.
Hell the fuck no, though I extended an invitation to him.
If he can't make it this week, I'ma drop him. Nicely though, I don't want to be excessively cruel to him.
We will be on a tight schedule. If he can't make it to Hats or the Safehouse by the time we're ready to go, that's that.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 22, 2010, 01:33:44 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 22, 2010, 01:32:43 AM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 22, 2010, 01:30:56 AM
This Friday, fun stuff. I expect you won't be waiting on texts.
Hell the fuck no, though I extended an invitation to him.
If he can't make it this week, I'ma drop him. Nicely though, I don't want to be excessively cruel to him.
We will be on a tight schedule. If he can't make it to Hats or the Safehouse by the time we're ready to go, that's that.
No worries, I won't insist we hold shit up.
If your retard ex actually hires a lawyer and is honest with the lawyer, this shit will get dropped like a hot potato. I can't even begin to tell you how hard he's trying to fuck himself, because I have seen this nonsense over and over with assholes of either sex who try to manipulate the family courts. What a fucking idiot.
Quote from: Nigel on July 22, 2010, 03:28:43 AM
If your retard ex actually hires a lawyer and is honest with the lawyer, this shit will get dropped like a hot potato. I can't even begin to tell you how hard he's trying to fuck himself, because I have seen this nonsense over and over with assholes of either sex who try to manipulate the family courts. What a fucking idiot.
He won't. He's a blowhard.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on July 22, 2010, 03:29:09 AM
Quote from: Nigel on July 22, 2010, 03:28:43 AM
If your retard ex actually hires a lawyer and is honest with the lawyer, this shit will get dropped like a hot potato. I can't even begin to tell you how hard he's trying to fuck himself, because I have seen this nonsense over and over with assholes of either sex who try to manipulate the family courts. What a fucking idiot.
He won't. He's a blowhard.
That's what it sounds like to me... a bully who thinks he can intimidate Freeky into just giving in so he doesn't have to pay a reasonable amount to support his kid. I have a friend here who is dealing with the same shit with her ex. I gave her my lawyer's name... he will set some shit straight in no time!
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on July 22, 2010, 01:21:26 AM
Quote from: Nigel on July 22, 2010, 12:10:16 AM
I think he's just fishing for pics to fap on.
I think so too, but he stopped asking, so it's cool.
It looks like he may be trainable, if I wish to continue anything with him. :D
No man is trainable so just give up that delusion right now. It will only end in heartache.
Male or female, the ones worth having can't be trained and don't need it anyway.
My .02
Quote from: Sigmatic on July 23, 2010, 03:06:16 AM
Male or female, the ones worth having can't be trained and don't need it anyway.
My .02
Well, yeah, but i just want a fuck buddy who doesn't jerk me around.
Meh, I don't really care anymore. It was nice him calling me pet names and things, but I'm not into it.
Quick recap.
The ex "has filed" against me, and didn't pay child support this month. That makes two months in a row now. Also picked some things up from his place.
Monday: Rode his ass HARD for all of the evening until the next morning just to get a box of diapers. Recieved, in text, his statement that he doesn't do splurgy stuff anymore.
Last Friday (23rd or someshit): he got sent home "sick" and was trying to convince me to keep Monkey the weekend, to which I replied that if he was going to get sick anyway, might as well get it over with early in the season; Monkey did not get sick all week. had a phone conversation, I think about getting my stuff the following week (tomorrow) and how he was getting fucked over because he had a bed coming Monday. He was getting pissy, so I hung up. He tried to play the levvel headed card in text, and I called bull AND slapped him for "filing an injunction" against me moving.
Friday (30th): I realize that the ex has let his electric bill (in my name) get to astronomic proportions. (Am taking Dok's advice based on today's bullshit. Thought you might like to know, Dok.) Asked him for the case number to the injunction, to which he said that he was waiting for his deferral to go through. I said "Wait, I thought you PAID those fees, and that's why I didn't get child support?" He intimates that he's filed two things, which I couldn't understand, and called bull on him. When asking for clarification on what he's filed for, his only response is that he jusst got a call that his oldest boy is puking every five minutes. When asked if he would be picking monkey up, he said "I don't know if z is puking ever 5 mins like m said i dont want s around that cause he will be readlly bad off 4 us"
To which i replied, "you'll have to deal with him being sick, if he does, god knows IVE had to fucking do it, by myself. I'm not even hoome anymore, how do you think my mom is going to take this? for fuck's sake." "I will be on my fucking way god 4bit something fucks up your weekend."
(I'd like to point out here that when we "agreed" to terms (read: he bullied me into taking as little amount of money as possible), he said he would take Monkey every weekend unless work interfered.)
Tonight: I called him, stressed the fuck out already from packing all my shit up and there being way more than I rmembered and how is it all going to fit inside a 12' x 12' room? Anyway. Called him because I had some stuff I wanted to make sure was staying where. He once bought me part of a set of Campaign booksk for Pathfinder (the white ones), and I bought one of those, so I needed to make sure what he was thiinking. I let it go when he told me he bought them, but I was taking mine with me. Roger had told me I could keep all the stuff he and Maria gave me, so I told him I was taking it all. Kitchen stuff, I mean.
He told me that I was being a bitch, and he wasnt going to be civil anymore, and that he knew i had been trying to steal his shit (apparently I touched a pair of his Tripp pance which I don't remember doing) and that I was trying to work the system by applying for full custoday and that I didn't want to get a job and that he was applying for full custody and he was going to make it so I didn't even have any contact with Monkey (!!!!!) and that when I did have a job I bought boots and clothes and a notebook and he said a mutual friend (now my ex friend unless I can get hold of him and ask him) said that Roger said that I drank all my money away.
At this point, I was shaking, and even more upset than before, so I hung up (hopefully without letting him know how badly I was shaken) and called some friends (I was crying, I can't believe it), who told me that things would be all right. One will be talking to Dok about the vicious rumor Bruce told me, and the other told me that he goes to a bar like twice a week. She sees him there all the time, and there's a pic on someone's facebook page with him singing at the bar. Apparently, everyone at said bar is pro-Bruce. My friend is going to get pics of him at the bar, with timestamp, and send them to me.
And now I'm shaking really hard and it's hard to type. But I'm freaked the fuck out. It's just one thing after another, you know? :x :x :scared: :vom: :sadbanana: :FFF: :wrong: :mind ray: :troll: :nuke: :test: :spag: :cramstipated: :alevil:
Wow, I'm so sorry to hear that, Freeky. :( It sounds like the bullshit my sister had to go through when she was getting divorced. I truly hope things get better as soon as possible.
Thanks, I hope your sister is doing fine.
Thank you. :) She's doing good. Her ex is permanently out of her life now. She has a much better, new life as well as a baby on the way. :)
Quote from: Aucoq on August 01, 2010, 07:51:22 AM
Thank you. :) She's doing good. Her ex is permanently out of her life now. She has a much better, new life and a baby on the way.
Congrats to her on new babby! :mrgreen:
Thank you. :D I'm just hoping it's like me so I can be the cool, favorite uncle. I know that's selfish, but it is what it is. :lol:
This morning, I woke up hoping to get my second-to-last step for getting cash assistance done and putting gas in my car.
This afternoon, I'm trapped at my parent's house with an uncashable money order and less than an 1/8 tank of gas.
I fucking hate it here.
Can I light a candle for you? For in which to encourage a positive outcome?
Quote from: curiosity on August 25, 2010, 10:59:04 PM
Can I light a candle for you? For in which to encourage a positive outcome?
If you like.
I appreciate the sentiment.
If I could do something else I would. But I gots no cash and my mallet of exs' knee-breakin' stayed in Iowa. Sorry, candle it is.
Quote from: curiosity on August 25, 2010, 11:06:52 PM
If I could do something else I would. But I gots no cash and my mallet of exs' knee-breakin' stayed in Iowa. Sorry, candle it is.
Meh, I gots the Meathammah. See my avatar for further explanation.
Yes, but if you use it on the ex then you get in trouble. Which is counter-productive in resolving your predicament. :D
She lives in the middle of a desert. Bodies disappear sometimes in deserts.
Heh. I'm more inclined for my mom to go on a misadventure in the desert than the ex. The ex is at least useful. :|
That would be the only thing I could stand about a desert, it's like a giant litter box for homicidal felines. Around here people just accidentally fall into the pig pen. Pigs'll eat everything except hair and teeth. Wait a few minutes and sweep up the remains with a broom, and scatter some corn feed and you're good to go.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on August 25, 2010, 11:19:19 PM
Heh. I'm more inclined for my mom to go on a misadventure in the desert than the ex. The ex is at least useful. :|
He is?
Quote from: Doktor Howl on August 25, 2010, 11:37:21 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on August 25, 2010, 11:19:19 PM
Heh. I'm more inclined for my mom to go on a misadventure in the desert than the ex. The ex is at least useful. :|
He is?
Okay, when court orders go through, he WILL BE useful. Also, he does usually take the monkey with minimal bitchtittery.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on August 25, 2010, 11:43:14 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on August 25, 2010, 11:37:21 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on August 25, 2010, 11:19:19 PM
Heh. I'm more inclined for my mom to go on a misadventure in the desert than the ex. The ex is at least useful. :|
He is?
Okay, when court orders go through, he WILL BE useful. Also, he does usually take the monkey with minimal bitchtittery.
I dunno, dude, I'd be inclined to just go for broke.
Meh. If I got rid of him, his boys would have to go to their mom, who is far worse by several orders of magnitude.
He DOES deserve a beating, though.
Quote from: Jenne on August 26, 2010, 12:43:00 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on August 25, 2010, 11:43:14 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on August 25, 2010, 11:37:21 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on August 25, 2010, 11:19:19 PM
Heh. I'm more inclined for my mom to go on a misadventure in the desert than the ex. The ex is at least useful. :|
He is?
Okay, when court orders go through, he WILL BE useful. Also, he does usually take the monkey with minimal bitchtittery.
I dunno, dude, I'd be inclined to just go for broke.
Just an FYI..... If the non-custodial parent of a child is deceased, the custodial parent will receive a generous compensation from Social Security for said child until that child is 18 or if a full time student sometimes to age 21.
Just saying....
Quote from: Khara on August 26, 2010, 03:15:21 PM
Quote from: Jenne on August 26, 2010, 12:43:00 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on August 25, 2010, 11:43:14 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on August 25, 2010, 11:37:21 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on August 25, 2010, 11:19:19 PM
Heh. I'm more inclined for my mom to go on a misadventure in the desert than the ex. The ex is at least useful. :|
He is?
Okay, when court orders go through, he WILL BE useful. Also, he does usually take the monkey with minimal bitchtittery.
I dunno, dude, I'd be inclined to just go for broke.
Just an FYI..... If the non-custodial parent of a child is deceased, the custodial parent will receive a generous compensation from Social Security for said child until that child is 18 or if a full time student sometimes to age 21.
Just saying....
-THOUGHTFUL-
Khara, I'm loving your evil today.
Quote from: Jenne on August 26, 2010, 03:29:04 PM
Khara, I'm loving your evil today.
I do have my days :wink:
I'm just saying, take him to Phoenix in an Obama t-shirt, drop him outside the Gore home. Collect moneys! :evil:
Accidents will occur.
Quote from: Khara on August 26, 2010, 06:49:58 PM
Quote from: Jenne on August 26, 2010, 03:29:04 PM
Khara, I'm loving your evil today.
I do have my days :wink:
I'm just saying, take him to Phoenix in an Obama t-shirt, drop him outside the Gore home. Collect moneys! :evil:
Accidents will occur.
:lol:
I need to talk to him about the now uncashable money order, and see if he can get me the portion that verifies Ididn't steal it.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on August 26, 2010, 06:51:25 PM
Quote from: Khara on August 26, 2010, 06:49:58 PM
Quote from: Jenne on August 26, 2010, 03:29:04 PM
Khara, I'm loving your evil today.
I do have my days :wink:
I'm just saying, take him to Phoenix in an Obama t-shirt, drop him outside the Gore home. Collect moneys! :evil:
Accidents will occur.
:lol:
I need to talk to him about the now uncashable money order, and see if he can get me the portion that verifies Ididn't steal it.
I am missing something. What is the deal with the money order?
Quote from: Khara on August 26, 2010, 06:56:52 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on August 26, 2010, 06:51:25 PM
Quote from: Khara on August 26, 2010, 06:49:58 PM
Quote from: Jenne on August 26, 2010, 03:29:04 PM
Khara, I'm loving your evil today.
I do have my days :wink:
I'm just saying, take him to Phoenix in an Obama t-shirt, drop him outside the Gore home. Collect moneys! :evil:
Accidents will occur.
:lol:
I need to talk to him about the now uncashable money order, and see if he can get me the portion that verifies Ididn't steal it.
I am missing something. What is the deal with the money order?
Okay. You know how when you buy a money order, you get two halves,one that is the actual check bit, and the other is like a receipt? All Fry's stores (where Western Unions are) are requiring you have the second bit along with the check bit if you want to cash it. The ex only gave me the check bit (unsigned, no less). I don't even know if he still has the other part.
I don't know if it is different for banks, because I don't have a bank to go to.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on August 26, 2010, 06:59:56 PM
Quote from: Khara on August 26, 2010, 06:56:52 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on August 26, 2010, 06:51:25 PM
Quote from: Khara on August 26, 2010, 06:49:58 PM
Quote from: Jenne on August 26, 2010, 03:29:04 PM
Khara, I'm loving your evil today.
I do have my days :wink:
I'm just saying, take him to Phoenix in an Obama t-shirt, drop him outside the Gore home. Collect moneys! :evil:
Accidents will occur.
:lol:
I need to talk to him about the now uncashable money order, and see if he can get me the portion that verifies Ididn't steal it.
I am missing something. What is the deal with the money order?
Okay. You know how when you buy a money order, you get two halves,one that is the actual check bit, and the other is like a receipt? All Fry's stores (where Western Unions are) are requiring you have the second bit along with the check bit if you want to cash it. The ex only gave me the check bit (unsigned, no less). I don't even know if he still has the other part.
I don't know if it is different for banks, because I don't have a bank to go to.
I'll find out. You can cash it on my account if they'll do it.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on August 26, 2010, 07:05:58 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on August 26, 2010, 06:59:56 PM
Quote from: Khara on August 26, 2010, 06:56:52 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on August 26, 2010, 06:51:25 PM
Quote from: Khara on August 26, 2010, 06:49:58 PM
Quote from: Jenne on August 26, 2010, 03:29:04 PM
Khara, I'm loving your evil today.
I do have my days :wink:
I'm just saying, take him to Phoenix in an Obama t-shirt, drop him outside the Gore home. Collect moneys! :evil:
Accidents will occur.
:lol:
I need to talk to him about the now uncashable money order, and see if he can get me the portion that verifies Ididn't steal it.
I am missing something. What is the deal with the money order?
Okay. You know how when you buy a money order, you get two halves,one that is the actual check bit, and the other is like a receipt? All Fry's stores (where Western Unions are) are requiring you have the second bit along with the check bit if you want to cash it. The ex only gave me the check bit (unsigned, no less). I don't even know if he still has the other part.
I don't know if it is different for banks, because I don't have a bank to go to.
I'll find out. You can cash it on my account if they'll do it.
:D Thanks, Dok.
Any time.
Yeah, Dok's bank shouldn't give him any trouble cashing it. They have the same thing here. I would strongly advise you getting a savings account or something then you won't have to worry about this!!
That policy is ridiculous. You get a money order for bills because you don't have a checking account, and the MO is as good as cash. You keep the receipt for you records, and as proof, and you send the other bit to the gas company, et al.
Also, since MO's are essentially guaranteed (since you paid cash to get the thing), most banks should be obligated to cash it. Check your state's regulations.
Quote from: Doktor Alphapance on August 26, 2010, 07:24:26 PM
That policy is ridiculous. You get a money order for bills because you don't have a checking account, and the MO is as good as cash. You keep the receipt for you records, and as proof, and you send the other bit to the gas company, et al.
Also, since MO's are essentially guaranteed (since you paid cash to get the thing), most banks should be obligated to cash it. Check your state's regulations.
The bank is, the grocery store's service desk isn't.
I'll cash it at my bank for her.
Quote from: Doktor Alphapance on August 26, 2010, 07:24:26 PM
That policy is ridiculous. You get a money order for bills because you don't have a checking account, and the MO is as good as cash. You keep the receipt for you records, and as proof, and you send the other bit to the gas company, et al.
Also, since MO's are essentially guaranteed (since you paid cash to get the thing), most banks should be obligated to cash it. Check your state's regulations.
They have, apparently, been having trouble with fraud recently. So this is a new thing that us mortals have to deal with, and companies aren't bothered because they have mysterious ways of doing all that stuff.
Also, I realize this is a little tangental, but
I WANNA GET LAAAAAIIIIIDAAAAHHHH!
The ex is arranging to have the Monkey picked up this morning instead of later, which is very convenient as I have things to do which would be far more difficult while having to make sure he doesn't get into everything. So see? the ex does have a use.
Scratch my last post.
So it's been over a week that I've had this fucking money order. I bothered them (the ex and HIS ex) for five days straight on how their search for the other bit of paper I need was coming, and they just ignored me.
Fuck them. With horrible spiky dildoes.
So the ex is just going to new lengths to be retarded. Or he's so full of shit that he's got metaphorical copromesis. What he's done is that he's gone and gotten the monkey an appointment at some early start program shit, to see if he's got a speech development problem. His "concern" is that he's "supposed" to be speaking 2000 words by now.
He somehow thinks that putting the monkey through this ordeal before he gets to school age, namely NOW, is going to be of more help than just trying to spend time with him and help the monkey himself.
The piece of shit is holding the monkey to some whacked out standard that I can't fathom, other than maybe internet and parenting books and people I wouldn't trust my kids with anyway saying there is something wrong.
I told him off and explained things to him, but meh. He's not gonna listen.
Something I just randomly googled.
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/57627
He is off by a factor of about 20. Stab him in the eyes.
Quote from: Cudgel on September 10, 2010, 06:08:23 PM
Something I just randomly googled.
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/57627
He is off by a factor of about 20. Stab him in the eyes.
:lulz:
That's also pretty handy, I'llpoint out to him that while he might not be excelling in talking, he CAN count. All the way up to sixteen (kind of).
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on September 10, 2010, 06:12:36 PM
Quote from: Cudgel on September 10, 2010, 06:08:23 PM
Something I just randomly googled.
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/57627
He is off by a factor of about 20. Stab him in the eyes.
:lulz:
That's also pretty handy, I'llpoint out to him that while he might not be excelling in talking, he CAN count. All the way up to sixteen (kind of).
I just txt'd my mom the question, and she says between 200 and 500 depending on many variables. I tend to trust her opinion on things related to early child development.
Personally, I wouldn't worry until age 5, and by that I mean shit all over your ex for planning on subjecting your small to this. Language therapy sucked balls at age 6, can't imagine it being fun for a 2 yr old.
Quote from: Cudgel on September 10, 2010, 06:19:17 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on September 10, 2010, 06:12:36 PM
Quote from: Cudgel on September 10, 2010, 06:08:23 PM
Something I just randomly googled.
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/57627
He is off by a factor of about 20. Stab him in the eyes.
:lulz:
That's also pretty handy, I'llpoint out to him that while he might not be excelling in talking, he CAN count. All the way up to sixteen (kind of).
I just txt'd my mom the question, and she says between 200 and 500 depending on many variables. I tend to trust her opinion on things related to early child development.
Personally, I wouldn't worry until age 5, and by that I mean shit all over your ex for planning on subjecting your small to this. Language therapy sucked balls at age 6, can't imagine it being fun for a 2 yr old.
I have been, but I have to be civil about it, in case texts become evidence (and that would help e out tons) in the hearing I'll be going to shortly.
so, killing him and rendering his body into tallow would be bad I take it.
Just a bit. :lol:
Overwhelming day is overwhelming.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 12:54:24 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 12:52:08 AM
Overwhelming day is overwhelming.
:sad:
Monkey was a little shit + getting ready to go the park and finding vicodin on the staris andd monkey sticking his tongue out and mouthing on apparently nothing + not paying attention to the pill count and thinking he went and poisoned himslef - he didn't really x Having already called 911 and they were already on their way x the fire truck was still outxide when everyone got home = Somebody fucking shoot me, please x the firemen called the cops because I started having hysterics before they left.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 01:03:37 AM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 12:54:24 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 12:52:08 AM
Overwhelming day is overwhelming.
:sad:
Monkey was a little shit + getting ready to go the park and finding vicodin on the staris andd monkey sticking his tongue out and mouthing on apparently nothing + not paying attention to the pill count and thinking he went and poisoned himslef - he didn't really x Having already called 911 and they were already on their way x the fire truck was still outxide when everyone got home = Somebody fucking shoot me, please x the firemen called the cops because I started having hysterics before they left.
Holy shit.
Well, you did the right thing. You don't want to take chances if you thought he'd eaten a bunch of vicoden.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 01:03:37 AM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 12:54:24 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 12:52:08 AM
Overwhelming day is overwhelming.
:sad:
Monkey was a little shit + getting ready to go the park and finding vicodin on the staris andd monkey sticking his tongue out and mouthing on apparently nothing + not paying attention to the pill count and thinking he went and poisoned himslef - he didn't really x Having already called 911 and they were already on their way x the fire truck was still outxide when everyone got home = Somebody fucking shoot me, please x the firemen called the cops because I started having hysterics before they left.
Oh my. I would be stressed out after a day like that.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 01:18:28 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 01:03:37 AM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 12:54:24 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 12:52:08 AM
Overwhelming day is overwhelming.
:sad:
Monkey was a little shit + getting ready to go the park and finding vicodin on the staris andd monkey sticking his tongue out and mouthing on apparently nothing + not paying attention to the pill count and thinking he went and poisoned himslef - he didn't really x Having already called 911 and they were already on their way x the fire truck was still outxide when everyone got home = Somebody fucking shoot me, please x the firemen called the cops because I started having hysterics before they left.
Holy shit.
Well, you did the right thing. You don't want to take chances if you thought he'd eaten a bunch of vicoden.
Yeah, I know I did. But now roomies probably think I've gone and done something to monkey and I'm trying to hide it. It would make that day just that little bit more
awesome, you know?
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 01:21:32 AM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 01:18:28 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 01:03:37 AM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 12:54:24 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 12:52:08 AM
Overwhelming day is overwhelming.
:sad:
Monkey was a little shit + getting ready to go the park and finding vicodin on the staris andd monkey sticking his tongue out and mouthing on apparently nothing + not paying attention to the pill count and thinking he went and poisoned himslef - he didn't really x Having already called 911 and they were already on their way x the fire truck was still outxide when everyone got home = Somebody fucking shoot me, please x the firemen called the cops because I started having hysterics before they left.
Holy shit.
Well, you did the right thing. You don't want to take chances if you thought he'd eaten a bunch of vicoden.
Yeah, I know I did. But now roomies probably think I've gone and done something to monkey and I'm trying to hide it. It would make that day just that little bit more awesome, you know?
Did you flat out tell them what happened? You should have.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 01:22:48 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 01:21:32 AM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 01:18:28 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 01:03:37 AM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 12:54:24 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 12:52:08 AM
Overwhelming day is overwhelming.
:sad:
Monkey was a little shit + getting ready to go the park and finding vicodin on the staris andd monkey sticking his tongue out and mouthing on apparently nothing + not paying attention to the pill count and thinking he went and poisoned himslef - he didn't really x Having already called 911 and they were already on their way x the fire truck was still outxide when everyone got home = Somebody fucking shoot me, please x the firemen called the cops because I started having hysterics before they left.
Holy shit.
Well, you did the right thing. You don't want to take chances if you thought he'd eaten a bunch of vicoden.
Yeah, I know I did. But now roomies probably think I've gone and done something to monkey and I'm trying to hide it. It would make that day just that little bit more awesome, you know?
Did you flat out tell them what happened? You should have.
I'm trying to get over being depressed so I can do it without bursting into tears, first.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 01:23:49 AM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 01:22:48 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 01:21:32 AM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 01:18:28 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 01:03:37 AM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 12:54:24 AM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 12:52:08 AM
Overwhelming day is overwhelming.
:sad:
Monkey was a little shit + getting ready to go the park and finding vicodin on the staris andd monkey sticking his tongue out and mouthing on apparently nothing + not paying attention to the pill count and thinking he went and poisoned himslef - he didn't really x Having already called 911 and they were already on their way x the fire truck was still outxide when everyone got home = Somebody fucking shoot me, please x the firemen called the cops because I started having hysterics before they left.
Holy shit.
Well, you did the right thing. You don't want to take chances if you thought he'd eaten a bunch of vicoden.
Yeah, I know I did. But now roomies probably think I've gone and done something to monkey and I'm trying to hide it. It would make that day just that little bit more awesome, you know?
Did you flat out tell them what happened? You should have.
I'm trying to get over being depressed so I can do it without bursting into tears, first.
Okay.
Christ! That sucks. :(
If there are any other medications where the little dude could potentially reach them, make sure they're put up. Especially vitamins... there are more poisonings from vitamins than any other substance kids get into.
Quote from: The Lord and Lady Omnibus Fuck on October 06, 2010, 04:12:52 AM
Christ! That sucks. :(
If there are any other medications where the little dude could potentially reach them, make sure they're put up. Especially vitamins... there are more poisonings from vitamins than any other substance kids get into.
I did, no worries.
Oh yeah, and the ex is being a cockbite again, but that's not really news, and it was overshadowed by ACTUAL problems. =shrug-
Bet it'll piss him off that you aren't all upset and paying attention to HIM. :lulz:
Quote from: The Lord and Lady Omnibus Fuck on October 06, 2010, 04:49:58 AM
Bet it'll piss him off that you aren't all upset and paying attention to HIM. :lulz:
He ignored my texts in which I attempted to put my foot down. I blame myself, because I gave ground earlier this morning. :(
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 05:07:02 AM
Quote from: The Lord and Lady Omnibus Fuck on October 06, 2010, 04:49:58 AM
Bet it'll piss him off that you aren't all upset and paying attention to HIM. :lulz:
He ignored my texts in which I attempted to put my foot down. I blame myself, because I gave ground earlier this morning. :(
???
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 06:11:32 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 05:07:02 AM
Quote from: The Lord and Lady Omnibus Fuck on October 06, 2010, 04:49:58 AM
Bet it'll piss him off that you aren't all upset and paying attention to HIM. :lulz:
He ignored my texts in which I attempted to put my foot down. I blame myself, because I gave ground earlier this morning. :(
???
Oh, I need diapers, and told him so, and he said he'd "see what he can do". I said "Whatever :| " at the time, and then later was like "No, that's unacceptable."
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 06:51:43 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 06:11:32 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 05:07:02 AM
Quote from: The Lord and Lady Omnibus Fuck on October 06, 2010, 04:49:58 AM
Bet it'll piss him off that you aren't all upset and paying attention to HIM. :lulz:
He ignored my texts in which I attempted to put my foot down. I blame myself, because I gave ground earlier this morning. :(
???
Oh, I need diapers, and told him so, and he said he'd "see what he can do". I said "Whatever :| " at the time, and then later was like "No, that's unacceptable."
Save that text for the next time the shitstain tries to say he pays for everything.
We will get some diapers for you tonight, if jackass doesn't come through.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 06:55:57 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 06:51:43 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 06:11:32 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 05:07:02 AM
Quote from: The Lord and Lady Omnibus Fuck on October 06, 2010, 04:49:58 AM
Bet it'll piss him off that you aren't all upset and paying attention to HIM. :lulz:
He ignored my texts in which I attempted to put my foot down. I blame myself, because I gave ground earlier this morning. :(
???
Oh, I need diapers, and told him so, and he said he'd "see what he can do". I said "Whatever :| " at the time, and then later was like "No, that's unacceptable."
Save that text for the next time the shitstain tries to say he pays for everything.
We will get some diapers for you tonight, if jackass doesn't come through.
I have enough to last the week, and I intend to ride his ass about thiss, because I need to unload some unrelated bile, and he is a better candidate than most.
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 06:57:59 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 06:55:57 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 06:51:43 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on October 06, 2010, 06:11:32 PM
Quote from: Mistress Freeky, HRN on October 06, 2010, 05:07:02 AM
Quote from: The Lord and Lady Omnibus Fuck on October 06, 2010, 04:49:58 AM
Bet it'll piss him off that you aren't all upset and paying attention to HIM. :lulz:
He ignored my texts in which I attempted to put my foot down. I blame myself, because I gave ground earlier this morning. :(
???
Oh, I need diapers, and told him so, and he said he'd "see what he can do". I said "Whatever :| " at the time, and then later was like "No, that's unacceptable."
Save that text for the next time the shitstain tries to say he pays for everything.
We will get some diapers for you tonight, if jackass doesn't come through.
I have enough to last the week, and I intend to ride his ass about thiss, because I need to unload some unrelated bile, and he is a better candidate than most.
Okay. The offer stands. Just let me know.
Monday: Pretty normal, as far as I remember.
Tuesday: UGH. Don't fucking talk to me about Tuesday.
Wednesday: Emotional shittytude carryover from Tuesday, plus the monkey lost my car keys when I wanted to drive up to the park.
Thursday: Found the keys, found out my food stamp card was missing and thus I could not buy food.
Friday (technically): The monkey pukes at 2:30 AM.
This has been a fucking awful week, and it's not over yet. :|
Freeky has returned to you all, thanks to the benevolence of ECH.
NEWS: The college I will be attending is directly across the street from the meetrack! Woot!
March? Jebus.
:
Pills that didn't work, pills that did work, no more pills, OH GAWD END OF THE WORLD + NOBODY LOVES ME BAAAAWWWWWW + I HATE EVERYBODY AROUND ME, THEY'RE ALL FUCKING ASSHOLES + WAISA? + THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH EVERYONE TODAY IS THE BEST DAY EVAR, FUCK YEAH SCHOOL ROCKS, BAW DONT GET NO FREE SCHOOOLS.
The end.
(It's just funny to me. Shut up.)
Quote from: Jenkem and SPACE/TIME on August 10, 2011, 06:11:36 AM
March? Jebus.
:
Pills that didn't work, pills that did work, no more pills, OH GAWD END OF THE WORLD + NOBODY LOVES ME BAAAAWWWWWW + I HATE EVERYBODY AROUND ME, THEY'RE ALL FUCKING ASSHOLES + WAISA? + THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH EVERYONE TODAY IS THE BEST DAY EVAR, FUCK YEAH SCHOOL ROCKS, BAW DONT GET NO FREE SCHOOOLS.
The end.
(It's just funny to me. Shut up.)
March was a real fucker for me. I hate March.
To be honest, about half of those things have been taking place all in the same day. :lulz:
This whole five month stretch has sucked and also been awesome for me.
How to make a Freeky cry in 5 days or less:
Step 1: Empty gas tank.
Step 2: Disqualify from financial aid.
Step 3: Run out of money buying books and paying for school, and get set up on a payment plan.
Step 4: Find out that your case in the court system has been on the inactive calender too long, and any progress you've made is hereby vacated two days ago, incuding child support.
God dammit.
What a heap of shit, Freeky.
:(
That is horrible. :( I am sorry.
And while I hope that it ain't no crime, it's true. I really hope that it ain't no crime.
Shit sucks, I suck even worse at coping, and that's pretty much all there is to say on the matter.
The end, or not.
Cheer up, Freeky.
There are spags on the interbutts who love the shit out of you.
SO THAT'S NICE. ISN'T IT?
ISN'T IT NICE, FREEKY?
<3
Quote from: Science me, babby on December 30, 2011, 09:38:12 AM
And while I hope that it ain't no crime, it's true. I really hope that it ain't no crime.
Shit sucks, I suck even worse at coping, and that's pretty much all there is to say on the matter.
The end, or not.
I think you need a calendar.
Quote from: Beardman Meow on December 30, 2011, 09:53:33 AM
Cheer up, Freeky.
There are spags on the interbutts who love the shit out of you.
SO THAT'S NICE. ISN'T IT?
ISN'T IT NICE, FREEKY?
<3
OH GOD PLEASE DON'T HURT ME :aww:
Quote from: Nigel on December 30, 2011, 08:41:13 PM
Quote from: Science me, babby on December 30, 2011, 09:38:12 AM
And while I hope that it ain't no crime, it's true. I really hope that it ain't no crime.
Shit sucks, I suck even worse at coping, and that's pretty much all there is to say on the matter.
The end, or not.
I think you need a calendar.
I read this and I doubletaked at it and I said "Wh- what?"
I just hit "MARK ALL READ". God dammit. :sad: :lulz: :sad:
Quote from: Science me, babby on December 31, 2011, 05:52:18 AM
I just hit "MARK ALL READ". God dammit. :sad: :lulz: :sad:
SHIT FUCK DAMN!
Quote from: Science me, babby on December 31, 2011, 05:49:19 AM
Quote from: Nigel on December 30, 2011, 08:41:13 PM
Quote from: Science me, babby on December 30, 2011, 09:38:12 AM
And while I hope that it ain't no crime, it's true. I really hope that it ain't no crime.
Shit sucks, I suck even worse at coping, and that's pretty much all there is to say on the matter.
The end, or not.
I think you need a calendar.
I read this and I doubletaked at it and I said "Wh- what?"
Because many of the things that have fucked with your life are things with deadlines and expiration dates, so having a calendar you look at frequently, with expiration dates and deadlines and such written on it, would probably help alleviate such stressors.
(it helps me a lot, because I forget things).
Quote from: Nigel on December 31, 2011, 06:40:56 PM
Quote from: Science me, babby on December 31, 2011, 05:49:19 AM
Quote from: Nigel on December 30, 2011, 08:41:13 PM
Quote from: Science me, babby on December 30, 2011, 09:38:12 AM
And while I hope that it ain't no crime, it's true. I really hope that it ain't no crime.
Shit sucks, I suck even worse at coping, and that's pretty much all there is to say on the matter.
The end, or not.
I think you need a calendar.
I read this and I doubletaked at it and I said "Wh- what?"
Because many of the things that have fucked with your life are things with deadlines and expiration dates, so having a calendar you look at frequently, with expiration dates and deadlines and such written on it, would probably help alleviate such stressors.
The above was not related to time sensitive things, only to things that are all consuming and sadface.
Friday: Driving around doing stuff, including taking pictures of the Legal District and South Filth for LMNO. Driving home, stop and go traffic, BOOMPSSSSHH and my hood is steaming and smoking.
It's the radiator, which done got cracked.
Saturday: After some arm twisting and tantrums (Yes, I'm ashamed of myself), my car gets fixed at a shop instead of the neighbor doing it in his spare time.
Today: A mysterious hose gets wound around the drive shaft. Car to be examined "soon" by neighbor.
Probably next the head gasket will blow up or something.
UNTIL SCHOOL.
The end of November and all of December SUUUUUCKED for me. Kai and Phox literally rescued me from the edge...I mean, I don't know if they even know how close I was when the tweet came in that it was okay to call and talk to this human angel that rescued me.
At that moment, I'd been through all the hells and MOAR...and then two "friends" in the same day gave me the "I don't know if you know this but no one cares" routine. I was so overwhelmingly, bitterly raw...and desperate. I just needed one single human being to say something, anything positive to me.
I know, girl. I'm feelin you over here. I'm sending good vibes your way. There is something past this and it can not possibly suck forever.
It sounds stupid, but I have this PTSD app on my phone from the VA. I have it set to play the lamest song ever that never fails to cheer me up...even if only for a second.
http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x10w63_len-steal-my-sunshine_music
You can do this, girl.
Great. Now that song is in my head.
I temporarily hate you with the heat of a thousand suns.
And I love you with the heat of a thousand nuns! :hosrie:
Quote from: navkat on January 12, 2012, 01:12:06 PM
And I love you with the heat of a thousand nuns! :hosrie:
To quote TGRR, there go my nipples again.
Five more days til what?
Quote from: navkat on January 12, 2012, 01:12:06 PM
And I love you with the heat of a thousand nuns! :hosrie:
1000 nuns in heat?
Are they young? Not like the 70 year old cock-eyed nun that used to run the school library and look at you while she was yelling at someone else? 20-30 something nuns, right?
:fap:
Quote from: navkat on January 12, 2012, 01:12:06 PM
And I love you with the heat of a thousand nuns! :hosrie:
is it the WHITE-HOT heat of TEN THOUSAND NUNS going supernova at once?
I had three oranges earlyier today, in practice for Monday.
I had a piece of honey cake after that (which was made with the zest of said washed oranges).
Now I've got the shakes, the shtis, and the puke.
I hope I get over this quick because I feel like someone took a dump in my stomach.
I dont even want to know what the shtis are.
Quote from: Billy the Twid on January 14, 2012, 01:54:42 AM
I dont even want to know what the shtis are.
They are dyslexic shits, which are marginally better than the regular shits, because they aren't explosive.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on January 14, 2012, 04:47:43 AM
Quote from: Billy the Twid on January 14, 2012, 01:54:42 AM
I dont even want to know what the shtis are.
They are dyslexic shits, which are marginally better than the regular shits, because they aren't explosive.
As long as they're not implosive... those are the worst.
Quote from: Nigel on January 14, 2012, 06:15:18 AM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on January 14, 2012, 04:47:43 AM
Quote from: Billy the Twid on January 14, 2012, 01:54:42 AM
I dont even want to know what the shtis are.
They are dyslexic shits, which are marginally better than the regular shits, because they aren't explosive.
As long as they're not implosive... those are the worst.
I get all the time these stupid things that are a cross between a reverse belch and a hiccup. SO PAINFUl.
:lulz: :argh!: Apparently I was stupid enough to take a class where basic music literacy is expected, and I wasn't expecting to need basic music literacy.
I AM A RETARD. ALSO, NOT DROPPING CLASS. :lulz:
You have resources here. Feel free to start Music Ed thread somewhere.
Quote from: LMNO, PhD (life continues) on January 18, 2012, 08:12:21 PM
You have resources here. Feel free to start Music Ed thread somewhere.
:D
Can't stop thinking of how that fucking glorified babysitter that's fucking the ex now told me I was raising my kid wrong on Sunday.
Oh, I'm fucking PISSED. It doesn't help that I didn't sleep last night, or the night before, and now it's already 3 am and I have class in the morning and I'm hungry and there's no food in the house and I'm poor and Some stupid bitch who's known the monkey for like four months is telling me "facts" like kids ought to be ppotty trained no later than age 2, and shit like "since he's a part of my life now I just want to do my part to put him on the right track" and other things like heavy but narrow in diameter metal bars being applied with great force to her fucking spine to show her how, once she's more of a drain on him than an amusement, he'd fucking leave her in a heaertbeat. Well, maybe. He might just treat her as part of the furniture until she kills herself. Which would also solve my rpoblem, which is next thing you know she'll be wanting legal guardianship and who the hell does she think she is? FUCK. THAT. Glorified babysitter whore needs to shut her goddamn mouth. Someone fucking stab her in the face, or let me do it or something. God dammit, why can't there actually be poetic justice for real?
i fucking can't stand it.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on February 07, 2012, 10:01:04 AM
Can't stop thinking of how that fucking glorified babysitter that's fucking the ex now told me I was raising my kid wrong on Sunday.
Oh, I'm fucking PISSED. It doesn't help that I didn't sleep last night, or the night before, and now it's already 3 am and I have class in the morning and I'm hungry and there's no food in the house and I'm poor and Some stupid bitch who's known the monkey for like four months is telling me "facts" like kids ought to be ppotty trained no later than age 2, and shit like "since he's a part of my life now I just want to do my part to put him on the right track" and other things like heavy but narrow in diameter metal bars being applied with great force to her fucking spine to show her how, once she's more of a drain on him than an amusement, he'd fucking leave her in a heaertbeat. Well, maybe. He might just treat her as part of the furniture until she kills herself. Which would also solve my rpoblem, which is next thing you know she'll be wanting legal guardianship and who the hell does she think she is? FUCK. THAT. Glorified babysitter whore needs to shut her goddamn mouth. Someone fucking stab her in the face, or let me do it or something. God dammit, why can't there actually be poetic justice for real?
i fucking can't stand it.
Fuck, Freeky, I'm sorry. :sad:
Don't want sorry, I want blood. :evilmad: fucking blood cover the walls and floor and then I'll stand there all horrified at what I did and then she won't fucking say a god damned word any more.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on February 07, 2012, 10:12:26 AM
Don't want sorry, I want blood. :evilmad: fucking blood cover the walls and floor and then I'll stand there all horrified at what I did and then she won't fucking say a god damned word any more.
Clarification: Fuck, Freeky, I'm sorry I can't reach to hold 'em down for you.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on February 07, 2012, 10:01:04 AM
and shit like "since he's a part of my life now I just want to do my part to put him on the right track"
Stomp on this NOW. Make it very plain to Bruce that this is going to cause humongous difficulties.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on February 07, 2012, 10:01:04 AM
Can't stop thinking of how that fucking glorified babysitter that's fucking the ex now told me I was raising my kid wrong on Sunday.
Oh, I'm fucking PISSED. It doesn't help that I didn't sleep last night, or the night before, and now it's already 3 am and I have class in the morning and I'm hungry and there's no food in the house and I'm poor and Some stupid bitch who's known the monkey for like four months is telling me "facts" like kids ought to be ppotty trained no later than age 2, and shit like "since he's a part of my life now I just want to do my part to put him on the right track" and other things like heavy but narrow in diameter metal bars being applied with great force to her fucking spine to show her how, once she's more of a drain on him than an amusement, he'd fucking leave her in a heaertbeat. Well, maybe. He might just treat her as part of the furniture until she kills herself. Which would also solve my rpoblem, which is next thing you know she'll be wanting legal guardianship and who the hell does she think she is? FUCK. THAT. Glorified babysitter whore needs to shut her goddamn mouth. Someone fucking stab her in the face, or let me do it or something. God dammit, why can't there actually be poetic justice for real?
i fucking can't stand it.
I had a similar situation with my ex's new girlfriend. I was pissed at her at first, but then soon realized that she thought I was some sort of mental incompetent because that's what he had led her to believe. However, my first thought was "Who the fuck is this no-kids-having bitch to be telling me how to raise my children?"
Here's my advice. Buy an early childhood development book that covers Monkey's age range plus a couple years. Next time you see her, give it to her with a big smile, and say "Since you're going to be part of Monkey's life, I thought it would be helpful if you knew something about childhood development".
And then proceed to communicate with her exclusively about any childrearing issues that come up until she gets overwhelmed and intimidated. Practice laughing condescendingly, so that when she says moronic things like "kids should be potty-trained by age two" you can just burst into a little laugh and shake your head sadly. Bonus points if you can cite a study or book that contradicts whatever trailer-park ignorant thing she just said, but even if all you do is laugh and shake your head, you can then go home, look up a study that contradicts her, and then helpfully email it to her WITH A BIG SMILE.
After no more than two months of this I guarantee that she will feel stupid and incompetent, and be afraid of opening her mouth to you about childrearing because she will know that you'll laugh at her and send her a link that makes her feel like a backwards-ass hillbilly.
Extra EXTRA bonus points if you think up a list of, say, five ultra-trashy parenting errors, and when she says you should do something a certain way you can whip out your little laugh and head shake, and say something like "Should I give him Coke in his bottle, too?".
Oh, and the words "Where do you come up with this stuff?" are your friends. Even if you don't have anything else, the laughing head shake and that line will put a damper on her enthusiasm REAL fast. And seriously, dropping Asshole from the communication loop completely and making everything Monkey-related her problem will get both of their attention really fast. If Asshole asks you about it, sweetly say "Oh, I got the impression from her that she was going to be taking over most of the parenting at your end... maybe you should talk to her to clarify what's going on, and get back to me.".
Quote from: Nigel on February 07, 2012, 04:09:33 PM
Oh, and the words "Where do you come up with this stuff?" are your friends. Even if you don't have anything else, the laughing head shake and that line will put a damper on her enthusiasm REAL fast. And seriously, dropping Asshole from the communication loop completely and making everything Monkey-related her problem will get both of their attention really fast. If Asshole asks you about it, sweetly say "Oh, I got the impression from her that she was going to be taking over most of the parenting at your end... maybe you should talk to her to clarify what's going on, and get back to me.".
PffffHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! This is fucking GOLD, Nigel.
Also, what constitutes childrearing issues? At age four, it seems like he's pretty much good to go. He doesn't even act up all that often, except for a few days right when he comes back to me.
Quote from: The Good Reverend Roger on February 07, 2012, 03:15:51 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on February 07, 2012, 10:01:04 AM
and shit like "since he's a part of my life now I just want to do my part to put him on the right track"
Stomp on this NOW. Make it very plain to Bruce that this is going to cause humongous difficulties.
I told him this exact thing on Sunday. He said, and I quote verbatim, "Ok". I'm not sure he gets it.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on February 07, 2012, 04:33:28 PM
Quote from: Nigel on February 07, 2012, 04:09:33 PM
Oh, and the words "Where do you come up with this stuff?" are your friends. Even if you don't have anything else, the laughing head shake and that line will put a damper on her enthusiasm REAL fast. And seriously, dropping Asshole from the communication loop completely and making everything Monkey-related her problem will get both of their attention really fast. If Asshole asks you about it, sweetly say "Oh, I got the impression from her that she was going to be taking over most of the parenting at your end... maybe you should talk to her to clarify what's going on, and get back to me.".
PffffHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! This is fucking GOLD, Nigel.
Also, what constitutes childrearing issues? At age four, it seems like he's pretty much good to go. He doesn't even act up all that often, except for a few days right when he comes back to me.
Childrearing issues are every little thing; not actual problems, but stuff like pick up and drop off, doctor appointments, etc. or any other kind of communication about Monkey. Basically every time you would contact Asshole about something, contact her instead. Leave him totally out of the loop and if she fails to pass something important along, it's her fault.
Yes, it is passive-aggressive, but it's aggressively passive-aggressive; the best kind.
Brilliant, Nigel.
Quote from: Nigel on February 07, 2012, 04:40:43 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on February 07, 2012, 04:33:28 PM
Quote from: Nigel on February 07, 2012, 04:09:33 PM
Oh, and the words "Where do you come up with this stuff?" are your friends. Even if you don't have anything else, the laughing head shake and that line will put a damper on her enthusiasm REAL fast. And seriously, dropping Asshole from the communication loop completely and making everything Monkey-related her problem will get both of their attention really fast. If Asshole asks you about it, sweetly say "Oh, I got the impression from her that she was going to be taking over most of the parenting at your end... maybe you should talk to her to clarify what's going on, and get back to me.".
PffffHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! This is fucking GOLD, Nigel.
Also, what constitutes childrearing issues? At age four, it seems like he's pretty much good to go. He doesn't even act up all that often, except for a few days right when he comes back to me.
Childrearing issues are every little thing; not actual problems, but stuff like pick up and drop off, doctor appointments, etc. or any other kind of communication about Monkey. Basically every time you would contact Asshole about something, contact her instead. Leave him totally out of the loop and if she fails to pass something important along, it's her fault.
Yes, it is passive-aggressive, but it's aggressively passive-aggressive; the best kind.
I would have to START communicating for that. But I think that'll be worth it. Yes. :D
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on February 07, 2012, 11:14:14 PM
Quote from: Nigel on February 07, 2012, 04:40:43 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on February 07, 2012, 04:33:28 PM
Quote from: Nigel on February 07, 2012, 04:09:33 PM
Oh, and the words "Where do you come up with this stuff?" are your friends. Even if you don't have anything else, the laughing head shake and that line will put a damper on her enthusiasm REAL fast. And seriously, dropping Asshole from the communication loop completely and making everything Monkey-related her problem will get both of their attention really fast. If Asshole asks you about it, sweetly say "Oh, I got the impression from her that she was going to be taking over most of the parenting at your end... maybe you should talk to her to clarify what's going on, and get back to me.".
PffffHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! This is fucking GOLD, Nigel.
Also, what constitutes childrearing issues? At age four, it seems like he's pretty much good to go. He doesn't even act up all that often, except for a few days right when he comes back to me.
Childrearing issues are every little thing; not actual problems, but stuff like pick up and drop off, doctor appointments, etc. or any other kind of communication about Monkey. Basically every time you would contact Asshole about something, contact her instead. Leave him totally out of the loop and if she fails to pass something important along, it's her fault.
Yes, it is passive-aggressive, but it's aggressively passive-aggressive; the best kind.
I would have to START communicating for that. But I think that'll be worth it. Yes. :D
Let us know how it goes!
And don't forget to give her an early childhood development book; I'd send one of mine but I think I sold them all. But nothing says "You're a fucking idiot with no idea what you're talking about" quite like the gift of an educational and informative book. Plus, it means that next time she tries to tell you you're doing it wrong, you can ask "did you look it up in that book I gave you? It's really handy to know what child development experts think" and I can't think of a better way to say "shut the fuck up, you ignorant twat".
Quote from: Nigel on February 07, 2012, 11:35:17 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on February 07, 2012, 11:14:14 PM
Quote from: Nigel on February 07, 2012, 04:40:43 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on February 07, 2012, 04:33:28 PM
Quote from: Nigel on February 07, 2012, 04:09:33 PM
Oh, and the words "Where do you come up with this stuff?" are your friends. Even if you don't have anything else, the laughing head shake and that line will put a damper on her enthusiasm REAL fast. And seriously, dropping Asshole from the communication loop completely and making everything Monkey-related her problem will get both of their attention really fast. If Asshole asks you about it, sweetly say "Oh, I got the impression from her that she was going to be taking over most of the parenting at your end... maybe you should talk to her to clarify what's going on, and get back to me.".
PffffHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! This is fucking GOLD, Nigel.
Also, what constitutes childrearing issues? At age four, it seems like he's pretty much good to go. He doesn't even act up all that often, except for a few days right when he comes back to me.
Childrearing issues are every little thing; not actual problems, but stuff like pick up and drop off, doctor appointments, etc. or any other kind of communication about Monkey. Basically every time you would contact Asshole about something, contact her instead. Leave him totally out of the loop and if she fails to pass something important along, it's her fault.
Yes, it is passive-aggressive, but it's aggressively passive-aggressive; the best kind.
I would have to START communicating for that. But I think that'll be worth it. Yes. :D
Let us know how it goes!
And don't forget to give her an early childhood development book; I'd send one of mine but I think I sold them all. But nothing says "You're a fucking idiot with no idea what you're talking about" quite like the gift of an educational and informative book. Plus, it means that next time she tries to tell you you're doing it wrong, you can ask "did you look it up in that book I gave you? It's really handy to know what child development experts think" and I can't think of a better way to say "shut the fuck up, you ignorant twat".
Holy crap yes. Yes yes yes.
I can assume that reading the books first, and picking which one isn't full of idiocy, is probably best, right?
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on February 07, 2012, 11:39:16 PM
Quote from: Nigel on February 07, 2012, 11:35:17 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on February 07, 2012, 11:14:14 PM
Quote from: Nigel on February 07, 2012, 04:40:43 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on February 07, 2012, 04:33:28 PM
Quote from: Nigel on February 07, 2012, 04:09:33 PM
Oh, and the words "Where do you come up with this stuff?" are your friends. Even if you don't have anything else, the laughing head shake and that line will put a damper on her enthusiasm REAL fast. And seriously, dropping Asshole from the communication loop completely and making everything Monkey-related her problem will get both of their attention really fast. If Asshole asks you about it, sweetly say "Oh, I got the impression from her that she was going to be taking over most of the parenting at your end... maybe you should talk to her to clarify what's going on, and get back to me.".
PffffHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! This is fucking GOLD, Nigel.
Also, what constitutes childrearing issues? At age four, it seems like he's pretty much good to go. He doesn't even act up all that often, except for a few days right when he comes back to me.
Childrearing issues are every little thing; not actual problems, but stuff like pick up and drop off, doctor appointments, etc. or any other kind of communication about Monkey. Basically every time you would contact Asshole about something, contact her instead. Leave him totally out of the loop and if she fails to pass something important along, it's her fault.
Yes, it is passive-aggressive, but it's aggressively passive-aggressive; the best kind.
I would have to START communicating for that. But I think that'll be worth it. Yes. :D
Let us know how it goes!
And don't forget to give her an early childhood development book; I'd send one of mine but I think I sold them all. But nothing says "You're a fucking idiot with no idea what you're talking about" quite like the gift of an educational and informative book. Plus, it means that next time she tries to tell you you're doing it wrong, you can ask "did you look it up in that book I gave you? It's really handy to know what child development experts think" and I can't think of a better way to say "shut the fuck up, you ignorant twat".
Holy crap yes. Yes yes yes.
I can assume that reading the books first, and picking which one isn't full of idiocy, is probably best, right?
Definately. Pick one you agree with, so the answers match yours.
...I can't speak as to how to deal with her (though I totally like Nigel's suggestion), but what the goddamn fuck. Monkey is not her child. She's just daddy's current ladyfriend who is here today but might be gone tomorrow and therefore, should keep her moth shut. Frankly, in her position, unless I was sure there was something deeply wrong, I wouldn't open my fucking mouth.
Quote from: Secret Agent GARBO on February 08, 2012, 12:44:59 AM
...I can't speak as to how to deal with her (though I totally like Nigel's suggestion), but what the goddamn fuck. Monkey is not her child. She's just daddy's current ladyfriend who is here today but might be gone tomorrow and therefore, should keep her moth shut. Frankly, in her position, unless I was sure there was something deeply wrong, I wouldn't open my fucking mouth.
In fucking deed. Even when I thought I was going to be with the ex for a long ass time and wanted to help his boys be on the right track, I at least did what the ex said he wanted. Fuck.
So we're coming up on getting this child support shenanigans officialized. I turned in my pretrial statement on the supposedly last day it was due last week. The ex has yet to turn anything in, and may not be able to turn in any evidence because he didn't by the 29th (the clerk dude I talked to said he had up to the day of the actual trial to turn anything in, but I think that is an example of why you can't ask the clerks for legal advice).
A couple days later I found out that Monkey had been given pepto bismo while he had a fever. Words were exchanged. Both of them are taking credit for the stunt, ex's ladyfriend because I guess she thinks she was helping, the ex because I was pretty firm about how lucky it is that Monkey only got a couple days of the shits (which I should have taken him to the hospital for, had I known he had had the stuff) and didn't get dead.
This is still on my ass, particularly because I don't think I can use this since it happened after the turn-in date, but this would be great evidence about why the ex should never ever ever be allowed to make a decision without letting me know. That sounds a little extreme, but jesus fuck, he is INCAPABLE of telling me things like details.
God dammit I despise him.
Ladyfriend is taking credit for administering adult-preparation drugs to your son? Fine. You now have the right to say "Ladyfriend, you are not to "play parent" to Monkey again. Period. I have primary custody and therefore I have the right to make decisions about sitters, day care and other childcare arrangements. No offense but you are my son's father's girlfriend, not his wife and until your legal status in this matter is changed, this is the end of this discussion. I can not afford to allow every partner Monkey's daddy might decide to marry someday to experiment with perfecting her "mommy technique" using my kid as the guinea pig. When I see some sort of evidence of both of your commitment to legal permanence, then and only then will we deal you into this game. Until that occurs, focus on being a good girlfriend to my ex and a nice lady to my kid."
If they don't like this, bring it up in court. Enforcement of your parental decisions for minor child in your care is part of the deal.
You do not have to play ball with her anymore. You do not have to suffer her parenting suggestions or save her a seat at the table or "open lines of communication" with her. You do not even have a responsibility to "communicate properly" with her about childcare. It's not her kid.
There is a reason why people who aren't part of the family are incompetent...and it's not really even their fault. It's simply because people who are family have an stake in doing the right thing by their loved ones and are afraid of fucking up so they have a vested interest in checking their shit: reading food labels, reading medicine indications/contraindications, taking the effort to understand the child's needs and personality...you know, giving a fuck. She won't get this until she has one of her own or actually becomes stepmom and can't just hand him back and say "Ooopsie!" when he gets into the bleach.
What a fuckhead!!
Hey I looked up Pepto-Bismol, and on Wikipedia it says it would cause constipation, not shits? And should never ever be given to kids because of some thing called "Reye's syndrome".
Don't they get a patient information leaflet (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patient_information_leaflet) with OTC drugs? That you should read, before taking it and ESPECIALLY when giving something to a child? Wouldn't not reading these leaflets already be enough proof maybe?
And what Navkat said.
(although I personally also give a fuck about kids that are not family?)
Quote from: Triple Zero on March 09, 2012, 01:56:15 PM
Don't they get a patient information leaflet (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patient_information_leaflet) with OTC drugs?
No. If it isn't dispensed by a pharmacist you don't get a leaflet here in the States. Companies are more or less covered by the warnings they put on the product itself.
Quote from: Triple Zero on March 09, 2012, 01:56:15 PM
What a fuckhead!!
Hey I looked up Pepto-Bismol, and on Wikipedia it says it would cause constipation, not shits? And should never ever be given to kids because of some thing called "Reye's syndrome".
Don't they get a patient information leaflet (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patient_information_leaflet) with OTC drugs? That you should read, before taking it and ESPECIALLY when giving something to a child? Wouldn't not reading these leaflets already be enough proof maybe?
And what Navkat said.
(although I personally also give a fuck about kids that are not family?)
So do I and I'm sure the GF cares about the child but Mommy is ultimately responsible and at the end of the day, Monkey gets plopped back into Mommy's care. GF has already proven that she's not terribly worried about getting it wrong if she "tries this stuff" on Monkey.
Also: drugs can sometimes have paradoxical effects on children because children compensate for shock differently than adults. Basically, children seem fine, seem fine, seem fine and then CRASH, whereas adults have more clearly defined stages of compensated, non-compensated and irreversible shock. Its mechanism of action isn't clear but it contains salicylic acid (aspirin) and anti-inflammatory properties which means it messes with the balance/exchange of fluid between the vascular system and interstitial spaces/tissue.
If a child becomes hypervolemic, ↑BP and ↑Stroke Volume occur. The child's body may hyper-compensate for this by way of electrolytes/sodium balances, causing the child to dump a whole lot of water in a very short period of time. You never fucking know with pediatric pts, that's why we don't administer adult preparations to children, ever.
A mommy would know this, not because of some "instinct" or because she's naturally smarter, but because from the day she learned she was expecting to date, she's had it drilled into her head by everyone from doctors to family to just, plain getting into the swing of parenting and getting to know her child's unique physiological quirks and nuances.
I can't fucking believe they gave a 4-year-old a medicine containing aspirin. This is one of the basic "DO NEVAR"s that ALL PARENTS KNOW. That shit can kill them.
And they gave it to him without asking your permission, which is illegal.
Quote from: Nigel on March 09, 2012, 03:51:00 PM
I can't fucking believe they gave a 4-year-old a medicine containing aspirin. This is one of the basic "DO NEVAR"s that ALL PARENTS KNOW. That shit can kill them.
And they gave it to him without asking your permission, which is illegal.
Exactamundo. I mean, I took home a parent-info sheet in second grade that was passed out to all the kids in my school about the dangers of RMSF and Reye's. It is the reason why "baby aspirin" ceased to become a HH phrase in the 80s and was replaced by acetaminophen being the general pn reliever.
Well fuck Freeky. I hope Monkey is fine.
On the other hand, I didn't know that aspirin wasn't to be used on children. Not that it's problem because we don't have any aspirin in the house.
I'm sure Freeky got some electrolytes into that child with a quickness. Mommies know.
Also: Rice and bananas. Simple foods, binding agents, less likely to make the poor child vom.
Personal experience wisdom: for the vomitous child, don't bother with those stupid OTC pediatric anti-nausea preparations, they are made up of pure sugar and little else. Get a Rx for Phenergan suppositories from your kid's pediatrician and tell him you'd like enough to keep it in the medicine chest for next time. Most Docs, (once they know you're a competent mommy) have no problem with this.
Another good tip: get a product called "Fever All" to keep in the house. It's acetaminophen suppository so if you ever have a scare where Monkey's running a fever but can't keep anything down, you have a plan B in the house.
</mommy advice>
Speaking as a non-father who has no experience with infants, the thought of shoving things into a baby's ass freaks me out.
I'm pretty sure I'd get over it the instant one shits all over me, but still.
You get over it the minute you realize your choices are:
1. Shove this medicine-bullet into child's ass
or
2. Watch my child crash and have a febrile seizure or die of dehydration.
Even children who are old enough to get mad about you using the exit as an entrance are too weak to fight you by the time you've arrived at that particular crossroads and it's time to do it and then get 'em in the car.
Quote from: Guru Coyote on March 09, 2012, 05:06:26 PM
Well fuck Freeky. I hope Monkey is fine.
On the other hand, I didn't know that aspirin wasn't to be used on children. Not that it's problem because we don't have any aspirin in the house.
Wait, do you have kids?
Quote from: Nigel on March 09, 2012, 07:51:09 PM
Quote from: Guru Coyote on March 09, 2012, 05:06:26 PM
Well fuck Freeky. I hope Monkey is fine.
On the other hand, I didn't know that aspirin wasn't to be used on children. Not that it's problem because we don't have any aspirin in the house.
Wait, do you have kids?
Not yet. But that is something I thought I would have picked up on. I mean the reason we don't have aspirin in the house is because I like taking other NSAIDs, but sometimes they need more so I take tylenol with them, and aspirin doesn't play nice with other NSAIDs.
Wait, but tylenol (paracetamol) is not aspirin.
Anyway, today I learned not to give kids aspirin. Except that I would always consult the Patient Info Leaflet anyway (it's a folded up piece of paper in every OTC medication here), because I've read those things often enough to know that they usually have special indications about whether it's suitable for kids or not (if only concerning the dosage, which often needs to be halved or quartered).
Quote from: Guru Coyote on March 09, 2012, 07:54:12 PM
Quote from: Nigel on March 09, 2012, 07:51:09 PM
Quote from: Guru Coyote on March 09, 2012, 05:06:26 PM
Well fuck Freeky. I hope Monkey is fine.
On the other hand, I didn't know that aspirin wasn't to be used on children. Not that it's problem because we don't have any aspirin in the house.
Wait, do you have kids?
Not yet. But that is something I thought I would have picked up on. I mean the reason we don't have aspirin in the house is because I like taking other NSAIDs, but sometimes they need more so I take tylenol with them, and aspirin doesn't play nice with other NSAIDs.
Ah. :lol: I was momentarily confused by your sentence.
Don't worry too much about the stuff you don't know about kids yet, because when it's time you (or at least, your pregnant counterpart) will get fed allll kinds of crucial info starting with the first OB visit, which she'll instinctively relay to you, and continuing through childbirth/baby car classes at the hospital, and also most likely someone will gift you at least one good baby book.
Acetaminophen isn't an NSAID either.
Aspirin is an anti-throbotic...meaning, it inhibits blood clotting. It's also got some mild smooth-muscle (vascular, bronchiole) dilator properties which can actually cause your BP to drop a bit (but not as much as nitroglycerin), which is why we give it to chest pn patients.
Factoid: LOOOONG term use of aspirin can cause some permanent changes to your blood's ability to clot which is why these people who self-administer an aspirin-a-day to prevent heart disease without a Doc telling them it's okay are stupid. This knowledge alone is a major reason why I have decided to completely stop experimenting with recreational shit. I've learned all I care to from altering my mental status and honestly; if aspirin can fuck you up long-term, I don't even want to THINK about how dumping my entire serotonin stores onto my neurotransmitters is gonna affect me after a few more years of use.
Quote from: Triple Zero on March 09, 2012, 08:01:37 PM
Wait, but tylenol (paracetamol) is not aspirin.
Exactly, which is why I have tylenol and not aspirin.
I think you're cool on mixing acetominophen and aspirin?
Anyway, I'm going to print this out and give it to my ex, because he's a dumbfuck and this is some brilliant denouncing from total strangers. And then I'm going to see if I can add this* to my pretrial statement as, like, emergency evidence or something.
*meaning the incident, not this thread.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 08:41:50 PM
Anyway, I'm going to print this out and give it to my ex, because he's a dumbfuck and this is some brilliant denouncing from total strangers.
I'd advise against that, Freeky.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 09, 2012, 08:42:41 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 08:41:50 PM
Anyway, I'm going to print this out and give it to my ex, because he's a dumbfuck and this is some brilliant denouncing from total strangers.
I'd advise against that, Freeky.
Well, I'm still going to see if they have emergency evidence adding.
Also, Navkat, I have told her before that she isn't the mom, and she doesn't have any right to be telling either of us what to be doing. Her response to that was that she is a part of Monkey's life and she wants to put him on the right track (?!) and she watches him when he's over at his daddy's house so she is in a position where she has every right to make decisions. You put it way more clearly than I could, though.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 08:46:44 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 09, 2012, 08:42:41 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 08:41:50 PM
Anyway, I'm going to print this out and give it to my ex, because he's a dumbfuck and this is some brilliant denouncing from total strangers.
I'd advise against that, Freeky.
Well, I'm still going to see if they have emergency evidence adding.
If he has til the day of the trial, so do you. If I were you, I'd call the clerk and ask how you go about adding evidence, paperwork wise.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 09, 2012, 08:47:45 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 08:46:44 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 09, 2012, 08:42:41 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 08:41:50 PM
Anyway, I'm going to print this out and give it to my ex, because he's a dumbfuck and this is some brilliant denouncing from total strangers.
I'd advise against that, Freeky.
Well, I'm still going to see if they have emergency evidence adding.
If he has til the day of the trial, so do you. If I were you, I'd call the clerk and ask how you go about adding evidence, paperwork wise.
This, absolutely.
And when the denouncing comes, it needs to be from the judge. Which will totally happen.
DO NOT give this to your ex, however satisfying it might feel to go "SEE? OTHER PEOPLE THINK YOU'RE WRONG!". It would just be inflammatory.
Right, right. Also, using the state bar's lawyer referral thingy and getting in touch with a lawyer. A (hopefully pro bono) lawyer is what I need at this point, nobody else can give me the advice I need.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 09:41:57 PM
Right, right. Also, using the state bar's lawyer referral thingy and getting in touch with a lawyer. A (hopefully pro bono) lawyer is what I need at this point, nobody else can give me the advice I need.
Yes, you need to do this, and in fact you should call them right now.
Quote from: Nigel on March 09, 2012, 09:53:37 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 09:41:57 PM
Right, right. Also, using the state bar's lawyer referral thingy and getting in touch with a lawyer. A (hopefully pro bono) lawyer is what I need at this point, nobody else can give me the advice I need.
Yes, you need to do this, and in fact you should call them right now.
I already did. :D
Quote from: Nigel on March 09, 2012, 09:35:58 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 09, 2012, 08:47:45 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 08:46:44 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 09, 2012, 08:42:41 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 08:41:50 PM
Anyway, I'm going to print this out and give it to my ex, because he's a dumbfuck and this is some brilliant denouncing from total strangers.
I'd advise against that, Freeky.
Well, I'm still going to see if they have emergency evidence adding.
If he has til the day of the trial, so do you. If I were you, I'd call the clerk and ask how you go about adding evidence, paperwork wise.
This, absolutely.
And when the denouncing comes, it needs to be from the judge. Which will totally happen.
DO NOT give this to your ex, however satisfying it might feel to go "SEE? OTHER PEOPLE THINK YOU'RE WRONG!". It would just be inflammatory.
And a grave tactical error. No need to announce your intentions to the opposition.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 09:54:40 PM
Quote from: Nigel on March 09, 2012, 09:53:37 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 09:41:57 PM
Right, right. Also, using the state bar's lawyer referral thingy and getting in touch with a lawyer. A (hopefully pro bono) lawyer is what I need at this point, nobody else can give me the advice I need.
Yes, you need to do this, and in fact you should call them right now.
I already did. :D
YAY! :cheers:
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 09, 2012, 09:55:00 PM
Quote from: Nigel on March 09, 2012, 09:35:58 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 09, 2012, 08:47:45 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 08:46:44 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 09, 2012, 08:42:41 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 08:41:50 PM
Anyway, I'm going to print this out and give it to my ex, because he's a dumbfuck and this is some brilliant denouncing from total strangers.
I'd advise against that, Freeky.
Well, I'm still going to see if they have emergency evidence adding.
If he has til the day of the trial, so do you. If I were you, I'd call the clerk and ask how you go about adding evidence, paperwork wise.
This, absolutely.
And when the denouncing comes, it needs to be from the judge. Which will totally happen.
DO NOT give this to your ex, however satisfying it might feel to go "SEE? OTHER PEOPLE THINK YOU'RE WRONG!". It would just be inflammatory.
And a grave tactical error. No need to announce your intentions to the opposition.
Yeah, I need to stop doing that. He's completely oblivious, and needs his hand being held at every step.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 10:02:30 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 09, 2012, 09:55:00 PM
Quote from: Nigel on March 09, 2012, 09:35:58 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 09, 2012, 08:47:45 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 08:46:44 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 09, 2012, 08:42:41 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 08:41:50 PM
Anyway, I'm going to print this out and give it to my ex, because he's a dumbfuck and this is some brilliant denouncing from total strangers.
I'd advise against that, Freeky.
Well, I'm still going to see if they have emergency evidence adding.
If he has til the day of the trial, so do you. If I were you, I'd call the clerk and ask how you go about adding evidence, paperwork wise.
This, absolutely.
And when the denouncing comes, it needs to be from the judge. Which will totally happen.
DO NOT give this to your ex, however satisfying it might feel to go "SEE? OTHER PEOPLE THINK YOU'RE WRONG!". It would just be inflammatory.
And a grave tactical error. No need to announce your intentions to the opposition.
Yeah, I need to stop doing that. He's completely oblivious, and needs his hand being held at every step.
To hell with that. You keep up your end. You WANT him to fall on his face.
That's precisely what I'm trying to do. Let him fall on his face, I mean. We'll see how things go.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 08:46:44 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 09, 2012, 08:42:41 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 09, 2012, 08:41:50 PM
Anyway, I'm going to print this out and give it to my ex, because he's a dumbfuck and this is some brilliant denouncing from total strangers.
I'd advise against that, Freeky.
Well, I'm still going to see if they have emergency evidence adding.
Also, Navkat, I have told her before that she isn't the mom, and she doesn't have any right to be telling either of us what to be doing. Her response to that was that she is a part of Monkey's life and she wants to put him on the right track (?!) and she watches him when he's over at his daddy's house so she is in a position where she has every right to make decisions. You put it way more clearly than I could, though.
Yes, that's just what I'm addressing: no
more watching him alone for any length of time. If Monkey's at daddy's house, daddy needs to be there, making the decisions. Daddy should not be at the bar while Monkey's at home with Ladyfriend or at work or anything else. During the workday, Monkey should be at daycare or the sitter
you've chosen. During visits, daddy should be visiting with Monkey. Exceptions are: "I had to run to the corner store for a minute and didn't want to get him all bundled up when Ladyfriend was already here" and "There was a bona fide emergency and I needed to rely on the other adult in the house."
Also: giving a judge your PD.com details and entering this forum into evidence means Daddy will be given a copy too...which means you'd better watch what you say around here because he'll be watching
you. So will Ladyfriend...like a fucking HAWK.
I don't think she was going to give the judge anything regarding PD.com; she was going to submit the fact that they gave Monkey a medication containing aspirin. Without consulting her.
That.
Nav, we have joint legal custody, so he has the right to leave him with whoever he chooses if I agree. I think significant others default to I agree, (talking out my ass here), until I have a good fucking reason to object.
Currently legal decision making power is 50/50, but I'm going to try and use this for 60/40 at least, preferably 75/25 or more in my favor.
Ex just told me Monkey is still sick, and they're at the hospital. If those assholes fucked my kid up, I'll never forgive them.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 10, 2012, 01:54:15 AM
Ex just told me Monkey is still sick, and they're at the hospital. If those assholes fucked my kid up, I'll never forgive them.
Oh my god. :( I'm sorry, I hope he gets better soon!
Just tried to talk to the doctor who treated him, and she couldn't tell me antyhing because it was over the phone and she can't assume I have legal custody. She has to talk to mgr and call me back.
If the cocksucker had just let me talk to her while he was still there, it wouldn't be a problem.
Crisis over. It's just a cold or something. Dr. said if ex isn't going to go with suppositories then a teaspoon of pepto is okay.
Drama hilarity: He (the ex) is going to use my threat of calling the cops (who would only tell me I'm crazy, apparently) because he wouldn't let me talk to the dr as ammunition against me in court. I am genuinely lawling at that.
Monday and the opening of the lawyer referral office can't come soon enough. :lulz:
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 10, 2012, 03:07:15 AM
Crisis over. It's just a cold or something. Dr. said if ex isn't going to go with suppositories then a teaspoon of pepto is okay.
Drama hilarity: He (the ex) is going to use my threat of calling the cops (who would only tell me I'm crazy, apparently) because he wouldn't let me talk to the dr as ammunition against me in court. I am genuinely lawling at that.
Monday and the opening of the lawyer referral office can't come soon enough. :lulz:
The fact that he wouldn't let you talk to the doctor is obstruction of custody. His girlfriend making parenting decisions that are counter to your parenting decisions is also obstruction of custody. He is making himself into a "difficult parent", and when there are disputes the court usually takes custody away from the difficult parent and assigns it to the parent they deem least likely to obstruct visitation. I sincerely hope he does tell the court that you threatened to call the police because he wouldn't let you speak to the doctor when your child was in the hospital, because that makes him look like the biggest piece of shit ever.
Quote from: Nigel on March 10, 2012, 06:20:58 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 10, 2012, 03:07:15 AM
Crisis over. It's just a cold or something. Dr. said if ex isn't going to go with suppositories then a teaspoon of pepto is okay.
Drama hilarity: He (the ex) is going to use my threat of calling the cops (who would only tell me I'm crazy, apparently) because he wouldn't let me talk to the dr as ammunition against me in court. I am genuinely lawling at that.
Monday and the opening of the lawyer referral office can't come soon enough. :lulz:
The fact that he wouldn't let you talk to the doctor is obstruction of custody. His girlfriend making parenting decisions that are counter to your parenting decisions is also obstruction of custody. He is making himself into a "difficult parent", and when there are disputes the court usually takes custody away from the difficult parent and assigns it to the parent they deem least likely to obstruct visitation. I sincerely hope he does tell the court that you threatened to call the police because he wouldn't let you speak to the doctor when your child was in the hospital, because that makes him look like the biggest piece of shit ever.
I know, right?! :lulz: A whole lot of "Wow." going on down here.
WHAT NIGEL SAID.
And yeah, you do NOT want Retard and Ladyfriend knowing you post here. Exes do and WILL gather your shit off the internet to use in court. Judges are (thankfully) finally starting to come around to seeing this as more hesaid/shesaid silliness but I've BEEN THROUGH THIS before they started chillaxing about that stuff.
Also: Google "Reverend Magdelene Custody Case" for more insomnia material than you care to have...and if you ever have a few bucks to spare, go ahead and drop her some. She will be paying the legal fees for her ex's entry of her private and online activities into court evidence (and the judge's profound bias) for loooong after her kid needs a college fund. So much for the "best interests of the kid," eh?
Quote from: navkat on March 11, 2012, 01:49:11 AM
WHAT NIGEL SAID.
And yeah, you do NOT want Retard and Ladyfriend knowing you post here. Exes do and WILL gather your shit off the internet to use in court. Judges are (thankfully) finally starting to come around to seeing this as more hesaid/shesaid silliness but I've BEEN THROUGH THIS before they started chillaxing about that stuff.
Also: Google "Reverend Magdelene Custody Case" for more insomnia material than you care to have...and if you ever have a few bucks to spare, go ahead and drop her some. She will be paying the legal fees for her ex's entry of her private and online activities into court evidence (and the judge's profound bias) for loooong after her kid needs a college fund. So much for the "best interests of the kid," eh?
Fucking Judge Punch. Did he ever get sanctioned for that shit?
Apparently, because he has three children he is a better authority on sick kids and child rearing than I am.
:lulz: I'm going to get a heart attack or a stroke or something from all this stupid.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 11, 2012, 05:17:50 AM
Apparently, because he has three children he is a better authority on sick kids and child rearing than I am.
:lulz: I'm going to get a heart attack or a stroke or something from all this stupid.
Does he have majority custody of any of them?
Because if not, I am kind of excited by the judge's reaction to his line of reasoning.
"I'm a deadbeat dad to THREE children and that means I know more than they mommas about raisin' kids"
I am so sorry your ex is a shitfaceboogerbraincuntmuffin. Education and medical decisions are the two things that legal custody is all about, if that dipshit admits in court that he was trying to keep you from participating in a medical decision when you have primary, or even shared legal custody, he is going to get a fucking earfull.
It is too bad that they're both incompetent boobs. Kids can pick up on bullshit conflict like this and it's not fair for them to put their egos ahead of the monkey's development.
Quote from: Nigel on March 11, 2012, 04:45:17 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 11, 2012, 05:17:50 AM
Apparently, because he has three children he is a better authority on sick kids and child rearing than I am.
:lulz: I'm going to get a heart attack or a stroke or something from all this stupid.
Does he have majority custody of any of them?
Because if not, I am kind of excited by the judge's reaction to his line of reasoning.
50/50 again. For a while there, when the boys' mom was on meth, he was the better parent.
The Ex: Better parent than a meth head. :lulz:
Oh! Oh! The reason he isn't paying me anything now is because the court told him he had to pay 800 a month (about half of that is two, three years backpay) for his two other kids and he asked the court cancel, cancel, monkey's child support.
HE CANT PAY FOR MY CHILD BECAUSE HE IS BUSY PAYING FOR HIS OTHER TWO KIDS. SAY IT WITH ME: WOOOOOOW. :lulz:
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 12, 2012, 02:36:30 AM
Oh! Oh! The reason he isn't paying me anything now is because the court told him he had to pay 800 a month (about half of that is two, three years backpay) for his two other kids and he asked the court cancel, cancel, monkey's child support.
HE CANT PAY FOR MY CHILD BECAUSE HE IS BUSY PAYING FOR HIS OTHER TWO KIDS. SAY IT WITH ME: WOOOOOOW. :lulz:
This is going to be interesting, to say the least. :lulz:
He couldn't have like, asked the court for a relief on that payment, for which there are forms. I've seen them. No, he had to drop monkey's all together.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 11, 2012, 03:05:52 AM
Quote from: navkat on March 11, 2012, 01:49:11 AM
WHAT NIGEL SAID.
And yeah, you do NOT want Retard and Ladyfriend knowing you post here. Exes do and WILL gather your shit off the internet to use in court. Judges are (thankfully) finally starting to come around to seeing this as more hesaid/shesaid silliness but I've BEEN THROUGH THIS before they started chillaxing about that stuff.
Also: Google "Reverend Magdelene Custody Case" for more insomnia material than you care to have...and if you ever have a few bucks to spare, go ahead and drop her some. She will be paying the legal fees for her ex's entry of her private and online activities into court evidence (and the judge's profound bias) for loooong after her kid needs a college fund. So much for the "best interests of the kid," eh?
Fucking Judge Punch. Did he ever get sanctioned for that shit?
He excus...er...I mean recused himself...so he gets and excuse...and a pass, apparently.
Legal shit is expensive...even when your case is a high-profile ACLU type motherfucker and people are rooting for you. Lawyers still have to rape you.
I've been thinking about you, girl. I've got a lot going on myself but I wanted to drop by your Unlimited fread to tell you I'm rooting for you over here, sister.
My own blood sister [sic] is going though her own shit too. I can't say too much here because I guaran-fucking-TEE you that her ex is googling everyone's name in the family, every username we've ever used and trolling every single social networking site for any intel he can use against her. Yeah, it's like THAT.
Quote"...Well, They'll stone you and say that it's the end
They'll stone you and then they'll come back again
They'll stone you when you're riding in your car
They'll stone you when you're playing your guitar
Yes, but I would not feel so all alone
Everybody must get stoned.
Well, they'll stone you when you walk all alone
They'll stone you when you are walking home
They'll stone you and then say you are brave
They'll stone you when you are set down in your grave
But I would not feel so all alone
Eeeeeeverybody must get stoned..."
Errrybody gotta go through they shit. There'll be sunny days a-comin along behind. Batten down, take some
Dramamine, roll with the pitches and pitch with the rolls, guh, y'heard?
Thanks, pritty layday.
:lulz: You're weird.
You don't know the half of it.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 12, 2012, 02:36:30 AM
Oh! Oh! The reason he isn't paying me anything now is because the court told him he had to pay 800 a month (about half of that is two, three years backpay) for his two other kids and he asked the court cancel, cancel, monkey's child support.
HE CANT PAY FOR MY CHILD BECAUSE HE IS BUSY PAYING FOR HIS OTHER TWO KIDS. SAY IT WITH ME: WOOOOOOW. :lulz:
Oooh, I really hope that Arizona is similar to Oregon in the sense that confronted with an asshole who doesn't want to pay for his kids, they up the ante. The only people I know who have tried that shit here have had the courts increase their payments.
Oh, and the beauty of it here is that if you don't make your payments because you're unemployed, you go to jail. And the judges know that, so when they increase a fucker's payments, part of it is just hoping the fucker ends up in jail. And because Oregon is a joint-custody-default state, you have to work pretty fucking hard to get to that point.
Quote from: Nigel on March 12, 2012, 06:02:16 AM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 12, 2012, 02:36:30 AM
Oh! Oh! The reason he isn't paying me anything now is because the court told him he had to pay 800 a month (about half of that is two, three years backpay) for his two other kids and he asked the court cancel, cancel, monkey's child support.
HE CANT PAY FOR MY CHILD BECAUSE HE IS BUSY PAYING FOR HIS OTHER TWO KIDS. SAY IT WITH ME: WOOOOOOW. :lulz:
Oooh, I really hope that Arizona is similar to Oregon in the sense that confronted with an asshole who doesn't want to pay for his kids, they up the ante. The only people I know who have tried that shit here have had the courts increase their payments.
Considering that the judge of that case (which is just barely related to mine by technicality) okayed it, I'm not holding high hopes that this state is anything like reasonable.
Or something. I think there's some lying going on that I didn't catch before. I am dumb.
What in the hell was I thinking. Why didn't I just leave his dumb ass before monkey was born? I am a stupid motherfucker and have royally screwed us both over for having taken so long.
Ex now has to pay a third of what I was getting from him before because he pays for daycare.
Apparently there is no provision in AZ for joint custody to have one of the parents be the final decision maker.
We both got talked at for having to work things out if we can't agree.
Fuck eerything.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 12, 2012, 10:02:29 PM
Ex now has to pay a third of what I was getting from him before because he pays for daycare.
Wait.
Take that shit to court. He only has to pay a third, because he pays for daycare on the weeks you don't have him?
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 12, 2012, 10:03:51 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 12, 2012, 10:02:29 PM
Ex now has to pay a third of what I was getting from him before because he pays for daycare.
Wait.
Take that shit to court. He only has to pay a third, because he pays for daycare on the weeks you don't have him?
What happened today was this:
Some lawyer got assigned to be out judge for the conference. He told us both his job was not to make a ruling, it was to make suggestions based on what the judge would probably say.
He plugged in values into the child support calculator (I count as minimum wage, ex has credit for one other kid full time since he has two for half time), and that's what popped out.
Quote from: Nigel on March 12, 2012, 06:02:16 AM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 12, 2012, 02:36:30 AM
Oh! Oh! The reason he isn't paying me anything now is because the court told him he had to pay 800 a month (about half of that is two, three years backpay) for his two other kids and he asked the court cancel, cancel, monkey's child support.
HE CANT PAY FOR MY CHILD BECAUSE HE IS BUSY PAYING FOR HIS OTHER TWO KIDS. SAY IT WITH ME: WOOOOOOW. :lulz:
Oooh, I really hope that Arizona is similar to Oregon in the sense that confronted with an asshole who doesn't want to pay for his kids, they up the ante. The only people I know who have tried that shit here have had the courts increase their payments.
Sounds exactly like here. Me Dad was butthurt when mum left him, and he went to court to try to not pay child support. The court doubled the payments.
Also, Freeky, I'm rootin' for ya, too!
Wow, Freeky. That's pretty awful! D: And yeah, take that to court. That smells all kinds of funny to me.
Quote from: Nigel on December 02, 2009, 02:41:34 AM
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This morning, my little guy and I were wrestling around, and his head fell on my teeth (he fell over on me playfully, that's how). My front tooth still hurts, and I can't drink my soda without it hurting. :/ and no dentistry for Mistress Freeky, as she already owes the dentist mucho moneys for getting three teeth pulled.
Edit: Sorry about so many posts...
Ooooh, I have a terrible story for you. You don't want to know this, actually. Come to think to it. I'll just say that when I smiled, you could see the stitches.
Basically, you'd better go to the dentist.
My teeth feel better now. Ooh, ooh, what's your story?
I knocked my right front tooth on the edge of my cereal bowl drinking the milk, and it was incredibly painful and sensitive for a couple of days. Then it was less sensitive and I thought it was better. But then, a swelling formed, way up under my right nostril. Turned out that the whack had traumatised the root enough to kill it, and I had to have that tooth root-canaled. And then I got a bone infection and they had to go in through my gum and clean it out, and I had several delightful black stitches in my gum for a couple of weeks.
You couldn't really see them when I smiled though, that was a lie.
I had a capped tooth abscess in the same spot. I felt like the elephant man: "I AM NOT AN ANIMAL..." :horrormirth:
Antibiotics then a root canal from a dentist with fat hairy hands. They always have fat hairy teabagging hands. :x
Quote from: Secret Agent GARBO on March 13, 2012, 03:45:25 PM
Wow, Freeky. That's pretty awful! D: And yeah, take that to court. That smells all kinds of funny to me.
It doesn't smell funny. Arizona is fucked up.
I can't take it to court, I agreed to it. I am SO FUCKING SICK of all this horseshit. I wanted it to be done.
So I have this essay that I'm supposed to be doing, right, and it's a persuasive essay, and I had an idea for a passable paper, and I guess I'm not supposed to think shit up on my own.
God damn it I just want to write my fucking paper you diabetic cunt and I guess I'm going to just get a fucking zero because I don't have JACK FUCKING SHIT. THANKS A GOD DAMN LOT YOU TWAT WAFFLE.
Write a second essay, persuading him you should be allowed to pic your own topic when doing a persuasive essay. Hand it in, without comment.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 20, 2012, 05:42:45 PM
So I have this essay that I'm supposed to be doing, right, and it's a persuasive essay, and I had an idea for a passable paper, and I guess I'm not supposed to think shit up on my own.
God damn it I just want to write my fucking paper you diabetic cunt and I guess I'm going to just get a fucking zero because I don't have JACK FUCKING SHIT. THANKS A GOD DAMN LOT YOU TWAT WAFFLE.
What?
Quote from: Cain on March 20, 2012, 05:45:08 PM
Write a second essay, persuading him you should be allowed to pic your own topic when doing a persuasive essay. Hand it in, without comment.
:lol:
Seriously. He may be a diabetic cuntwaffle, but if he's even a third-rate academic and you make a good argument, you might be able to turn him around.
And, more importantly, gain extra credit.
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 20, 2012, 05:45:29 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 20, 2012, 05:42:45 PM
So I have this essay that I'm supposed to be doing, right, and it's a persuasive essay, and I had an idea for a passable paper, and I guess I'm not supposed to think shit up on my own.
God damn it I just want to write my fucking paper you diabetic cunt and I guess I'm going to just get a fucking zero because I don't have JACK FUCKING SHIT. THANKS A GOD DAMN LOT YOU TWAT WAFFLE.
What?
Our topic has to already have arguments written about it. I asked specifically if we could draw our own conclusions and she said no, we have to do a fucking rehash of some other fucker's argument.
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 20, 2012, 05:48:10 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 20, 2012, 05:45:29 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 20, 2012, 05:42:45 PM
So I have this essay that I'm supposed to be doing, right, and it's a persuasive essay, and I had an idea for a passable paper, and I guess I'm not supposed to think shit up on my own.
God damn it I just want to write my fucking paper you diabetic cunt and I guess I'm going to just get a fucking zero because I don't have JACK FUCKING SHIT. THANKS A GOD DAMN LOT YOU TWAT WAFFLE.
What?
Our topic has to already have arguments written about it. I asked specifically if we could draw our own conclusions and she said no, we have to do a fucking rehash of some other fucker's argument.
Better get to work.
Quote from: Cain on March 20, 2012, 05:46:59 PM
Seriously. He may be a diabetic cuntwaffle, but if he's even a third-rate academic and you make a good argument, you might be able to turn him around.
And, more importantly, gain extra credit.
If I can't think of anything else, that's going to be it.
Ah, yes. Welcome to academic debate, where every point has to have been made by someone who is presumably smarter than you are. It took me years to get over doing that. In fact, I can thank PD.com for helping drive the last nail into the coffin through our utter trashing of RAW.
My suggestion: Choose something completely fucked up that someone else argued, like Davide Icke or Velikovsky (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Worlds_in_Collision).
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 20, 2012, 05:48:43 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 20, 2012, 05:48:10 PM
Quote from: Doktor Howl on March 20, 2012, 05:45:29 PM
Quote from: The Freeky of SCIENCE! on March 20, 2012, 05:42:45 PM
So I have this essay that I'm supposed to be doing, right, and it's a persuasive essay, and I had an idea for a passable paper, and I guess I'm not supposed to think shit up on my own.
God damn it I just want to write my fucking paper you diabetic cunt and I guess I'm going to just get a fucking zero because I don't have JACK FUCKING SHIT. THANKS A GOD DAMN LOT YOU TWAT WAFFLE.
What?
Our topic has to already have arguments written about it. I asked specifically if we could draw our own conclusions and she said no, we have to do a fucking rehash of some other fucker's argument.
Better get to work.
Guess so. Square goddamn one, here I am again. :x
Quote from: LMNO, PhD (life continues) on March 20, 2012, 05:52:37 PM
Ah, yes. Welcome to academic debate, where every point has to have been made by someone who is presumably smarter than you are. It took me years to get over doing that. In fact, I can thank PD.com for helping drive the last nail into the coffin through our utter trashing of RAW.
My suggestion: Choose something completely fucked up that someone else argued, like Davide Icke or Velikovsky (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Worlds_in_Collision).
Oooo!